Shining Light
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- Jan 8, 2024
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Growing up, I was told that a girl is like a white sheet. A small dot on the sheet is no longer considered beautiful. I was told to abstain from boys throughout my adolescence.
You grow up being told that you need to be tough, strong, endure pain, and be patient. How can you raise a family if you can't even work hard? You are called lazy and told to do this and that.
You grow up fearing men. You don't want to have that spot on the sheet, and your guardians should be proud. But now, the guardians are asking when you'll get married and when you want to have kids.
If you don't reflect the idea of marriage, you seem like a woman with no determination or ambitions. Arranged marriage made it easier for our parents, but in this generation, marriage feels more like hunting prey with certain traps.
And you have to sacrifice what you like doing for your husband and kids. It's okay to be willing to do it, but being forced or manipulated is not.
I'm not stating the feminism issues of the world, but rather how we are nurtured and brought up in society with mixed beliefs. Once you are firm about your own beliefs, you often face a U-turn and a shift in other people's expectations of how you should be as a good woman in the community.
You grow up being told that you need to be tough, strong, endure pain, and be patient. How can you raise a family if you can't even work hard? You are called lazy and told to do this and that.
You grow up fearing men. You don't want to have that spot on the sheet, and your guardians should be proud. But now, the guardians are asking when you'll get married and when you want to have kids.
If you don't reflect the idea of marriage, you seem like a woman with no determination or ambitions. Arranged marriage made it easier for our parents, but in this generation, marriage feels more like hunting prey with certain traps.
And you have to sacrifice what you like doing for your husband and kids. It's okay to be willing to do it, but being forced or manipulated is not.
I'm not stating the feminism issues of the world, but rather how we are nurtured and brought up in society with mixed beliefs. Once you are firm about your own beliefs, you often face a U-turn and a shift in other people's expectations of how you should be as a good woman in the community.