mimijay_91
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- Oct 29, 2015
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Like any other areas of life, in order to solve your love life problem, you need to understand the causes. While it could be that there are fundamental aspects that you should improve as an individual, most of the time the issue lies at your mindset and approach to dating.
This is especially applicable to cases where people are completely desirable on paper yet find themselves again and again struggling with dating, leading to frustration and self-doubt.
Here?s the answers to all the why?s:
You don?t know what you want
Admit it ? you don?t really know what you?re looking for. You don?t know if you?re okay with casual dating or you actually want a serious relationship and eventually marriage. You get involved with people without being clear about your desires and expectations, letting them dictate the situation while compromising your needs and wants.
You say things like ?I?m chill?, ?I?m open to anything?, ?I like to go with the flow? only to end up wanting more and not getting anything back. Or you state on your dating profile that you look for a serious relationship, yet you get drunk and have sex with someone before you even remember their name.
While there might be exceptions, this is not going to work out well most of the times. We can?t keep doing one thing and expect the result to be different. So, be real to yourself about what you want, what works for you and what doesn?t. Figure it all out and you will find the people who are able to give you exactly what you look for.
This is especially applicable to cases where people are completely desirable on paper yet find themselves again and again struggling with dating, leading to frustration and self-doubt.
Here?s the answers to all the why?s:
You don?t know what you want
Admit it ? you don?t really know what you?re looking for. You don?t know if you?re okay with casual dating or you actually want a serious relationship and eventually marriage. You get involved with people without being clear about your desires and expectations, letting them dictate the situation while compromising your needs and wants.
You say things like ?I?m chill?, ?I?m open to anything?, ?I like to go with the flow? only to end up wanting more and not getting anything back. Or you state on your dating profile that you look for a serious relationship, yet you get drunk and have sex with someone before you even remember their name.
While there might be exceptions, this is not going to work out well most of the times. We can?t keep doing one thing and expect the result to be different. So, be real to yourself about what you want, what works for you and what doesn?t. Figure it all out and you will find the people who are able to give you exactly what you look for.
