anti-Glazer
JF-Expert Member
- Apr 13, 2023
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- Spend time with your child. Talk with her about her friends, her accomplishments, and what challenges she will face.
- Be involved with your child’s school. Go to school events; meet your child’s teachers.
- Encourage your child to join school and community groups, such as a sports team, or to be a volunteer for a charity.
- Help your child develop his own sense of right and wrong. Talk with him about risky things friends might pressure him to do, like smoking or dangerous physical dares.
- Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—involve your child in household tasks like cleaning and cooking. Talk with your child about saving and spending money wisely.
- Meet the families of your child’s friends.
- Talk with your child about respecting others. Encourage her to help people in need. Talk with her about what to do when others are not kind or are disrespectful.
- Help your child set his own goals. Encourage him to think about skills and abilities he would like to have and about how to develop them.
- Make clear rules and stick to them. Talk with your child about what you expect from her (behavior) when no adults are present. If you provide reasons for rules, it will help her to know what to do in most situations.
- Use discipline to guide and protect your child, instead of punishment to make him feel badly about himself.
- When using praise, help your child think about her own accomplishments. Saying “you must be proud of yourself” rather than simply “I’m proud of you” can encourage your child to make good choices when nobody is around to praise her.
- Talk with your child about the normal physical and emotional changes of puberty.
- Encourage your child to read every day. Talk with him about his homework.
- Be affectionate and honest with your child, and do things together as a family.
Tumia muda na mtoto wako. Zungumza naye kuhusu marafiki zake, mafanikio yake, na changamoto atakazokabiliana nazo. Jihusishe na shule ya mtoto wako. Nenda kwenye hafla za shule; kukutana na walimu wa mtoto wako. Mhimize mtoto wako ajiunge na vikundi vya shule na jumuiya, kama vile timu ya michezo, au awe mtu wa kujitolea katika shirika la kutoa misaada. Msaidie mtoto wako kusitawisha fahamu yake mwenyewe ya mema na mabaya. Zungumza naye kuhusu mambo hatari ambayo marafiki wanaweza kumshinikiza kufanya, kama vile kuvuta sigara au ujasiri hatari wa kimwili. Msaidie mtoto wako asitawishe hisia ya kuwajibika—mshirikishe mtoto wako katika kazi za nyumbani kama vile kusafisha na kupika. Zungumza na mtoto wako kuhusu kuokoa na kutumia pesa kwa hekima. Kutana na familia za marafiki wa mtoto wako. Zungumza na mtoto wako kuhusu kuheshimu wengine. Mhimize kusaidia watu wenye uhitaji. Zungumza naye juu ya nini cha kufanya wakati wengine hawana fadhili au hawana heshima. Msaidie mtoto wako kuweka malengo yake mwenyewe. Mtie moyo afikirie ujuzi na uwezo ambao angependa kuwa nao na jinsi ya kuukuza. Weka sheria wazi na ushikamane nazo. Zungumza na mtoto wako kuhusu kile unachotarajia kutoka kwake (tabia) wakati hakuna watu wazima. Ikiwa utatoa sababu za sheria, itamsaidia kujua nini cha kufanya katika hali nyingi. Tumia nidhamu kumwongoza na kumlinda mtoto wako, badala ya adhabu ili kumfanya ajisikie vibaya. Unapotumia sifa, msaidie mtoto wako afikirie mafanikio yake mwenyewe. Kusema "lazima ujivunie" badala ya "Ninajivunia wewe" kunaweza kumtia moyo mtoto wako kufanya maamuzi mazuri wakati hakuna mtu karibu wa kumsifu. Zungumza na mtoto wako kuhusu mabadiliko ya kawaida ya kimwili na kihisia ya wakati wa kubalehe. Mhimize mtoto wako kusoma kila siku. Zungumza naye kuhusu kazi yake ya nyumbani. Uwe mwenye upendo na mnyoofu kwa mtoto wako, na fanyeni mambo pamoja kama familia.
