...ndoa hii imevunjika!

[omujubi]

Habari zenu wanajukwaa.

Kwa wale wanaofuatilia mambo ya Afrika Mashariki na hasa Uganda (kenya wana jukwaa hapa) watakuwa wanajua juu ya hii familia ya Kifalme ya Tooro, Magharibi mwa Uganda ambayo kwa kiasi fulani anaelekea kukumbwa na mabalaa yasiyokuwa rasmi. Ni hii familia ambayo baada ya mfalme kufariki katika mazingira ya kutatanisha na kuacha warithi ambao kimsingi walikuwa wadogo sana, Marehemu Kanali Gaddafi akaamua 'kuwa karibu' na mama yao na kwa upande mmoja akaweza kujenga uwezo (capacity building) ambapo ilifikia sehemu wakaona ufalme unaanza kusimama tena.

Ni mambo mengi lakini suala ninalotaka kuliongelea ni harusi ya kifahari ya binti mfalme. Huyu msichana mdogo baada ya kukatiza mitaa ya ughaibuni akakutana na huyu kijana Christopher Thomas akadhani amefika. Inavyoelekea, Waganda wanaomtakia mema walimshauri huyu dada lakini akawaona hawana la maana zaidi ya wivu na kuamua kuolewa na huyu kijana ambapo nakumbuka baadhi ya habari zilionyesha jinsi ilivyokuwa harusi kubwa na iliyovuta hisia za kitaifa.

Sasa ndoa imevunjika na dada wa watu anairudia jamii ile ile aliyodhani inamuonea wivu huku akijuta na kuacha aibu kubwa kwenye ukoo huo wa kifalme. Kikubwa ni kuwa angalau anajiona 'amepumua'!

Swali langu:
Ukiangalia maelezo ya huyu dada na ukalinganisha muda huu mfupi wa ndoa, je, ni kitu gani huyu dada kafanyiwa!?
(Hakuna tafsiri ya Kiswahili na kama ilivyo kwa Watanzania wengi kutopenda kusoma, hiki kifungu kinaweza labda kuvuta hisia zako)

...While Thomas has been keen to wash our dirty linen in public, I have remained dignifiedly silent on such supposed private matters.

Soma zaidi hapa

 

[omujubi]

Komuntale marriage over, Tooro Kingdom speaks out
Publish Date: Oct 28, 2013

Ruth Komuntale and Christopher Thomas marriage is over - newvision


The Princess of Tooro, Ruth Nsemere Komuntale,and her husband Christopher Thomas have over the last few weeks been talked about in the media, but the kingdom had not spoken out on what started as a rumour.

The Kingdom has now issued a statement concerning the desolution of the Princess Komuntale's marriage to Christopher Thomas. Here is the full statement.

My fellow Ugandans, people of Tooro, dear friends and supporters around the world;

I greet you in God's name. It is with sadness and sorrow that I regret to announce the parting of ways with my estranged husband Christopher Thomas.

It's regrettable to see that our marriage with Thomas, an African American from St Louis, Missouri, has ended like a shooting star across a clear night sky. Thomas struck me as my Prince Charming the moment I met him. He was irresistible and, when he asked for my hand in marriage, I could not say no.

I loved Thomas as my husband and respected him and our marriage vows until the end and it saddens to announce that our marriage has ended. When we wedded last year, it was our – and every body's wish – that our marriage would last and stand the test of time, but inevitably this has not been the case!

It pains me to look back the indescribable euphoria of our wedding day. Life is a mystery; it doesn't always work out the way you want but it's all good. However, everything happens for a reason and we must learn from our mistakes.

Despite this being the end of our marriage, I love and respect Chris. We will always remain the best of friends, and continue to cherish our relationship based on the special love, integrity and respect we have always enjoyed.

Much as I am a Tooro princess, I have my own human failings, and I reject sainthood, unless a "saint is a sinner who keeps on trying." Many times, I have tried to make the marriage work through tolerance, forgiveness and reconciliation. However, I have learnt with sadness that while turning the other cheek is saintly, it emboldened Thomas' impunity against his wife.

I do not intend to go into the details of the causes of our separation, for that would require an elaborate paper. Suffice to say it is not worth the effort to spend one's life in a futile marriage devoid of love, trust and faithfulness.

I would like to thank the media for the support you have shown Thomas and I. In the recent past, the media has been awash with salacious tales of our tumultuous relationship. While Thomas has been keen to wash our dirty linen in public, I have remained dignifiedly silent on such supposed private matters.

I want to take this opportunity to thank all those who have stood by me at this trying period. I am eternally grateful for your support and encouragement. I cannot thank you enough.

I will dedicate my life to fulfil my dreams, including championing the cause of women and children, and other social responsibility in education and health. May God bless you, Tooro, and our country Uganda.

HRH Ruth Nsemere Komuntale
October 28, 2013

 

[Mokoyo]

pole zao

 

[MWANAKA]

dah pole sana dada yangu ndo malimwengu hayo

 

[omujubi]

dah pole sana dada yangu ndo malimwengu hayo

swali kubwa lilikuwa ni kitu gani kilichopelekea mpaka hapa, ni muda mfupi sana! Au huyu kijana alitaka kuleta mambo ya 'uliberali' ndio dada akaona bora fedheha!? Maana najaribu kuwaza kuwa hizi monarch zinakuwa na inteligensia zao na washauri wa kusaidia kumjua mtu kabla hawajamkabidhi binti yao.

 

[kkarumekenge]

Aliombwa atoe Tigo!

 

[omujubi]

Aliombwa atoe Tigo!

kuna mashaka sana juu ya hilo.

 

[omujubi]

Sijui kama hii habari inawavutia sana hapa lakini ni kielelezo halisi cha mapenzi na mahusiano katika bara la Afrika. Tunaweza kujifunza mengi hapa kwa maana hii ni ndoa iliyounganisha tamaduni mbili zilizopishana sana lakini pia inaelekea msichana alidhani na kuona tofauti kama ya Mmarekani mzungu na mwafrika na kuona hili chaguu it was the best ever. Kama alivyoimba hayai Luck Dube kuwa "behind that 'handsomeness' hidden his true colours that will destroy her in a near future". Na sasa ndipo walipo!
Na hapa ni muendelezo wa mkasa mzima.

she felt so sweet living her fellow uganda men!!! home is home no matter of money,titles and prestige.i would be happy to see king oyo marrying afellow poor ugandan other than foreigners ....Was uganda out of men?? Or dint she knw dat Americans r naughty n dirty minded? Jst asking.

Uganda is full of handsome guyz who knows how to love, what ashame to the kingdom, if they are failing to groom their own royal members, how about the otha pipo in the kingdom. ....Nosense if only had she listened to elders rejecting this marrage, it wldnt have happened .....hihihihi WANTED AN AMERICAN MAN .....My dear Elders will always be ryt no matter littel authority they have over you!

 

[omujubi]

Tooro reacts to Komuntale marriage woes
Publish Date: Oct 29, 2013
By Raymond Baguma

A section of people in Tooro kingdom have expressed support for Princess Ruth Komuntale following her decision to separate with her American husband of 11 months, saying she had exercised restraint in a bad relationship.

However, other members of the public expressed that it was not proper for the couple to expose their failings in the public media, which had disgraced their kingdom.

On Monday, Princess Komuntale broke her silence when she announced that she had decided to part with her American husband Christopher Thomas.

Yesterday (Tuesday), Rev. Richard Baguma, an elder in Tooro kingdom has said he would bring up the matter of Komuntale's marriage woes in the kingdom cabinet for discussion. He however declined to add any further details saying that he would not discuss the matter in the press.

At the beginning of this year, media reports began emerging and indicated that all was not well between the young couple with reports of infidelity on the part of Thomas.

In a statement on Monday, Komuntale said that she had tried in vain to make her marriage to work out through tolerance, forgiveness and reconciliation.

Rose Binta, a teacher at Mpanga Secondary School said, "In fact she had been patient. The man showed him his true character from the beginning. It is good to persevere, but if it is too much abuse, that is how people end up being killed. She has been patient."

Rose Gamukama Kabahweza who operates a retail shop in Fort Portal town said, "The two of them were young and they should not have gone in for marriage. Princess should have waited until maybe the age of 27 years or 30 years before getting married. Also, they should not have gone to the press because it has ashamed Tooro."

The announcement of the separation came hardly a year after the young couple walked down the aisle in a Christian marriage at St. John's Cathedral in Fort portal town on November 17th last year.

But Pastor Bagonza, a boda boda operator in Fort Portal town said, "That was a matter between two consenting adults and what befalls their relationship is their concern. I don't care what goes on in the royal palace, and I am not interested in knowing."

 

[Crystal clear]

they make a good couple, wenyewe ndio wanajua kilichowaachanisha. Pole yao.

 

[omujubi]

Komuntale still much loved and respected - kingdom
Publish Date: Oct 30, 2013

Princess Ruth Komuntare during her introduction ceremony in Fort portal.

newvision

By Cecilia Okoth

Tooro Kingdom has called for calm following reports of the dissolution of Princess Ruth Komuntale's marriage to Christopher Thomas.

In a press statement, Steven Kaliba Ateenyi, the Kingdom's Prime Minister asked the public to remain calm and pray for God's guidance and wisdom.

"I would like to request Ugandans at large, kingdom subjects, the media and our Princess to remain calm in this trying time and ask everyone to pray for God's guidance and wisdom. On our part as the Kingdom we pledge our total support to our Princess more than ever before during this wearisome time. We assure the Princess that she is very much loved and respected by all the people and friends of Tooro. I also emphatically request Thomas Christopher to desist from using social networks to discuss his marriage affairs," said Steven Kaliba Ateenyi.

Komuntale and Thomas wed November 17, 2012 in Fort portal.

Kaliba also stressed that the Kingdom will continue to support the princess through the Batebe Foundation where she has been working hard to improve the situation of women and girl children in Tooro Kingdom.

He appealed to the public to give Thomas and Komuntale privacy to recover from "this rather unnerving experience" saying the duo was very young and inexperienced.

 

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Batooro give mixed reactions to Komuntale's marriage breakup

L-R: Tooro Kingdom Queen Mother Best Kemigisha and King Oyo toast to the marriage of Christopher Thomas and Princess Ruth Komuntale last year. The marriage has, however, come to an end to the shock of many Batooro. PHOTO BY RACHEL MABALA

By FELIX BASIIME & RUTH KATUSABE

Posted Wednesday, October 30 2013 at 02:00

Fort Portal- It all started with the "Komuntale's mix and mingle cocktail" on November 2 at Piato Restaurant & Bar on Lumumba Avenue in Kampala.


This was the first event in preparation for the two big parties in Fort Portal, Kabarole District. People in Fort Portal Town waited for Komuntale to come home in vain until a day to her introduction party on November 15.

Finally, she introduced her husband to the royal family and to hundreds of guests from at a function that was interrupted by rain.

Gweri village at long last had its all roads re-done, connected to piped water and electricity in preparation for the introduction party.
At the party, Uganda's Ambassador to Belgium Kateenta Apuuli led the entourage of the American, Christopher Thomas, and introduced him as a member of the Abakurungu clan of Tooro. And on November 17, former Anglican Archbishop Henry Luke Orombi and Bishop Reuben Kisembo of Rwenzori Diocese wed the couple at St John's Cathedral in Fort Portal.

However, behind the scenes, there was a heated debate among the Batooro regarding the choice of man the princess was bringing home. Many Batooro wanted Komuntale to marry from the kingdom or from other royal families in Uganda.

When Komuntale released a statement on Monday about her separation from Thomas, after less than a year, those who were not happy about the marriage were quick to weigh in.

Cultural divide
"The royal drums have rejected Komuntale and Thomas marriage that is why they have separated. This marriage wouldn't have lasted long due to not respecting rituals and culture of Tooro," Edward Kajura, an elder, says.
Joseph Mashuhuko, an opinion leader in Tooro, on the other hand, blames the elders and the Musuga –head of the Royal clan, Charles Kamurasi, Komuntale's uncle, for allegedly not advising the princess about culture.


"He did not advise his daughter yet he used to de-campaign intermarriages within the country. What about Komuntale who got married to a man whose origin cannot be traced?" he says. Mashuhuko adds that Komuntale, 23, was not ready to make her own choice and needed some guidance, which her uncle and some elders did not do.

But Tom Mboijana, another elder, does not agree: "Cross marriages always happen all over the world among the royals, so it is upon the couple to understand each other. It is just a pity for the Princess to be involved in such a mess."

Bishop Kisembo, who wedded the couple, on the other hand, has advised the couple to reconcile.
"As a Church, we are ready to help counsel them. I don't support divorce at all. I pray that they reconcile," the bishop told the Daily Monitor.


Asked whether the Church can wed either of the two parties suppose they got another partner, Bishop Kisembo says: "The couple has not officially divorced, but even if they did, the Church can't re-wed them. Any of the parties can only have a civil marriage after this."

 

[hekimatele]

Hili limetokea ili wengine wajifunze.

From God's perspective, marriage stands to be valid before God unless there is marital unfaithfulness. The only condition mentioned in the bible that would grant divorce validity grounds. In this regard, we are not told if there existed such thing as a reason for this dissolution.

I would otherwise advise Princess to exercise celibacy as for now until her death. Its called facing consequences of her actions. Contrary to that she will be committing adultery.

 

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Princess Komuntale's husband apologizes
Publish Date: Oct 31, 2013

Princess Ruth Komuntale and husband Thomas kiss on their wedding day in Fort portal. newvision

Christopher Thomas, the husband of Tooro princess Ruth Komuntale has apologized to his wife, Tooro Kingdom and Ugandans for a marriage that went sour.

Thomas posted on his Facebook page that he acknowledges having made grave mistakes in their marriage but seeks for forgiveness from his wife Ruth.
Full statement below(unedited)
To Uganda, to family and to friends all over the world. I wanted to say on a serious note when things get tough you got to pray. Maybe if I was in Church like my pastor told me to be when he called each week this sadness, anger, bitterness would not have came out the way it did.

I love Princess Ruth Thomas she not a Komuntale anymore she is a Thomas. As a man you marry young you should know you have to be patient. I tried for over 9 months and it finally ran over because I kept everything inside.

Every marriage will have problems but the best ones are the one you bring to God and not FB or friends or sometimes not even family. You go to his people for advice ( the Church). I can say Ruth went to the wrong people and I went to nobody but I kept it in side and that's not good either.

I apologize to Tooro, To King Oyo, To Queen Mother Best I love you very much for taking me in and me being your son. I apologize for the things I said about you if it was true or not I should have kept it to myself because I am a Christian.

I apologize To my cupcakes, my sweetpea, butt butt, my beautiful, my angel, my Ruth, my Nsemere, my Komuntale, my bestie, my wife; it doesn't matter how mad you are you should never never talk about your wife in public places or on social media or in front of people to embarrass her I have done these things out of anger and sadness of being far away from my lover. A marriage is private not public!

Ruth and I are so much in Love we didn't know how to fight. Ruth has very much pride and is very head strong. Church, elder, Mom and dads where every you are talk to Ruth tell her divorce is not right in the house of God and bring her to her husband for counseling. If Ruth would apologize I would be running to my wife like nothing has happened.

I am not perfect so I have to forgive and forget. The pain will be there but God knows how to wash it away. Ruth is no cheater but she show do know how to make you feel like she is or she knows what buttons to push.

Probably any young woman knows how to do that to make their husband go crazy at times. I thought Ruth and I would see each other as old Africans. Its funny Ruth said I'm more African than she is lol...

So no more of this fighting between American and African please stop. Ruth and I dreamed of bring people to Christ together but I'm sad to say the Devil also had his plan of us bring death and destruction to Gods people.

So I ask everyone to change and forgive everyone after you see my post. Stop the fighting, stop the name calling, stop the hate. I also ask Ruth Thomas to forgive and let God. Talk to the bishop of Uganda and lets pray cry and forgive!

I love Uganda and will I always will love you. I don't have a PR, I don't have a spell check or grammar check. My wife was all this for me, because we balance each other. What I was good at I did , what she was good at she did. I will not do anymore interviews unless they are positive.

I talk to so many Ugandans and they know I have a good heart but everyone who is a sinner has a bad side but we pray everyday to keep that side away.

Does our age make us do things like this no, Our faith makes us do things like this.. My faith wasn't strong enough to be quiet and let Ruth do her in SA and wait for her to come to DC to then get her Aunt and her family to counsel Ruth as a married women , and to get elders and pastosr to counsel me as a married man, but I am here to say that anyone can change through Christ.

Anyone can forgive through Christ. Will Ruth family forgive and forget today I don't think so but if Ruth comes out and do the right thing as a Christian she will show the God in her and other people will follow. Ruth and I are leaders we suppose to lead.

So the right thing for me to do right now is to apologize to everyone on FB and the World for putting my marriage issues on FB. I let me pride , my ego , my weed as you say , my drink as you think to the Lord and I have faith that whatever happens between Ruth and I God will be pleased with me because I was man enough to apologize.

People will say I am crazy, I need help , and I need doctor and you are right because I am human and in Love.. Love make you do the craziest things and now I'm taking a jump of faith to apologize to everyone to calm everything down.

I want everyone to go on my page and my wife's page Princes Ruth Thomas and say you forgive us we are royals but human ....

The people of Uganda Love Ruth and I because we are Royals but we are REAL .... We don't hide, we speak our minds, we wear the clothes we want, and we kiss in public hehe!

So please forgive us for what we have done and caused this week. I want everyone in Uganda if you clean , if you stink, if you have a big house, if you got a small house, if you Christian, if you Muslim or any other religion and you believe in your God and you believe in marriage shake or hug a person next to you and say God bless you and God bless Ruth & Chris they will be on TOP.!!!!!!

Finally, I want to ask my mother Alecia Thomas to forgive her son that she loves so much for not acting the way she raised me in church since I came out of the you know what!

Alright I'm done have a good rest of the week and weekend , and pray for our marriage.. and I hope to one day see everyone in Uganda again next to my crazy bestie Ruth Thomas.......

Thank you THE DUKE Of Tooro!

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[Mzee2000]

Ndoa nyingi tamaduni tofauti zinavunjika.Bm