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Good morning, below is a sumarry of 15 suggestion on how to rise a female daughter according to Nigerian author chimamanda Ngozi.
1. Be a full person. Motherhood is a grolious gift, but do not define your self sorely by Motherhood.
2.Do it together. Remember in primary school we learnt that a verb was a "doing" word? Well, a father is as much a verb as a mother
3. Teach her that gender roles is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should do or not do something "because your are a girl.
4. Beware the danger of what we call feminist lite, it It is the idea of conditional female equality.
5. Teach her to read and love books.
6. Teach her to question language . Language is the repository of our prejudieces, beliefs, assumptions. But teach her that, you will have to question your own language.
7. Never speak of marriage as an archievement.
8. Teach her to reject likeability. Her job is not to make herself likeable, her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and aware of the equality humanity of other people.
9. Give chizalum a sense of identity, it matters. Be deliberate about it.
10. Be deliberate about how you engage with her and her appearance.
11. Teach her to question our cultures selective use biology as reasons for social norms.
12.Talk to her about sex and start early. It will probably be a bit awkward but it is necessary
13. Tell her romance will happen so she should be on board.
14. In teaching her oppression, be careful not to turn the oppressed into saints
15. Teach her about difference ordinary. Make difference normal. Teach her not to attach value to difference. And the reason for this is not to be fair or to be nice but merely to be human and practical.
Thanks.
1. Be a full person. Motherhood is a grolious gift, but do not define your self sorely by Motherhood.
2.Do it together. Remember in primary school we learnt that a verb was a "doing" word? Well, a father is as much a verb as a mother
3. Teach her that gender roles is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should do or not do something "because your are a girl.
4. Beware the danger of what we call feminist lite, it It is the idea of conditional female equality.
5. Teach her to read and love books.
6. Teach her to question language . Language is the repository of our prejudieces, beliefs, assumptions. But teach her that, you will have to question your own language.
7. Never speak of marriage as an archievement.
8. Teach her to reject likeability. Her job is not to make herself likeable, her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and aware of the equality humanity of other people.
9. Give chizalum a sense of identity, it matters. Be deliberate about it.
10. Be deliberate about how you engage with her and her appearance.
11. Teach her to question our cultures selective use biology as reasons for social norms.
12.Talk to her about sex and start early. It will probably be a bit awkward but it is necessary
13. Tell her romance will happen so she should be on board.
14. In teaching her oppression, be careful not to turn the oppressed into saints
15. Teach her about difference ordinary. Make difference normal. Teach her not to attach value to difference. And the reason for this is not to be fair or to be nice but merely to be human and practical.
Thanks.
