Help a sister over here

loneliness ndo ugonjwa wako... jaribu kujichanganya na watu..... being isolated sometimes ni m2 mwenyewe hujitakia
 
Princess Somali
Princess Somali,
for a start it is untrue to imagine that ALL truth has to be told. if your parents picked me in handbag as a toddler from a DAMPO and grew up with your family knowing your mom and dad were also mine, it will be unkind for you to start telling me the TRUTH that i was picked from a dustbin.

Lies and truths are there for purposes. Telling UNNECESSARY truths which end up hurting helpless people amounts to YES RUDINESS. Your perception of being honest is also not correct. It is a mere psycho-defensive attitude in which you subconsciously try to justify your deeds, because you can not stand in front of your parents and become honest about what transpired between you and another person they dont know behind closed doors.

Here is what i advice. Develop an attitude of considering other people's feelings. Whatever truths you wouldnt like to be told, try to check it before blurring it out. Join beneficial groups (spiritual, girls groups, academic etc). Make an effort of visiting other people in need of your outreach (patients, relatives etc). Make personal readings (good and humor books). Last but not least allocate yourself a good amount of sleep durations. Sustained sleep deprivation makes most people jittery.

am not expert in such matters i just hope they will assist.
 
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Pole sana binti.

Wewe una tatizo,kitaalam linaitwa Schizoid Personal Disorder. Dalili zake ni pamoja na kujitenga na watu,kutoshirikiana na watu,kukosa hisia za kua na watu nk.

Hili tatizo mara nyingi hudhaniwa linatokana na matatizo au ulezi mbovu aliopitia mhusika,alinyanyaswa,kuteswa,kutengwa nk. Mfano mzuri unaweza kuupata kwa watoto wa mtaani,ukimchukua ukae nae utagundua hapendi kuwa na wenzake. Sijajua kama na wewe ulipitia huko au ulikosa mapenzi utotoni.

Wagonjwa wa tatizo hili huwa hawataki au hawana hisia za ngono kabisa na wengi wao hawana matatizo ya anorgasmia(kukosa kusisimka ukiwa unafanya ngono),au wewe uko hivyo?sidhani kama una mpenzi.

Hiyo social alienation uliyonayo inatokana na tatizo hilo,wenye matatizo hayo huwa hawajijui hadi waambiwe,kama ulivyoamiwa,ni tatizo na unahitaji tiba ya kitaalam.

Tiba yake,unatakiwa kuwa karibu na watu,mtu anaeweza kuzisikiliza hisia zako,inatakiwa clossness,emotional intimacy zinazaidia ingawa sio rahsi sana maana watu wa tatizo hilo hawapendi ukaribu na wengine.
Kwa ushauri waone Behaviorists wakufanyie Cognitive/Behavioral therapy au Talk therapy. Atakavyoona mwenyewe,mimi nimeenda moja kwa moja kwenye tatizo kama ulivyolielezea,ila inawezekana kabisa tatizo lako linatokana na Obssessive Compulsive Disorder.
 
Princess Somali said:
Sumu?? Unamaanisha nini?? Then hiyo part ya friendship no thanx, cz most of the time i find a guy tutachat when i start to get hooked i find he is gone, no communication. Im tired of disappointments kwa kweli.
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Tatizo liko hapa...
Unaogopa kuumizwa..lakini pia hupendi social interactions. Vipi kuhusu online interactions, unapenda?
 
naona kumekucha try to keep yourself busy & force yourself to socialize with others
 
Your problem is loneliness....and maybe a broken heart too...
 
brenda18 said:
Kibongobongo huo ndo ugonjwa anaoumwa....haitaji therapy wala nin...anahitaj mchebo
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Hehehehhe nadhani hii kitu naww inakutokeaga...ukipatwa na ugonjwa huu nipm haraka for 1st class service
 
Nokia83 said:
Hehehehhe nadhani hii kitu naww inakutokeaga...ukipatwa na ugonjwa huu nipm haraka for 1st class service
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Heee had nikupm si ntakua nimezirahi....nashukuru kwa ukarimu mkuu...ndaga fijho
 
Kichwa Ndio Mtu


You said everything about me wallah, nlipokua nasoma olevel i lived with some relatives i was not at all treated right over there hadi ukafika kipindi nkawa najitenga nao wakikaa kula or wakiwa wanaangalia tv sikua nakaa nao hadi kulala nkawa nalala sitting room just to avoid them, those people ruined my life, i hate then for that.

So ever since i left that house ive been like this i avoid people wether male or female b'cz i feel like ill get used to them but in the end they'll end up hating me same way my relatives did.

So u also mean that even my choice of abstenance is wrong is part of my disorder (mungu wangu) i always thought i was right.

I'm in dar, where can i get help?? I dont want this to ruin my social life anymorw what if i get married but it ends up in divorce i dnt want that to happen to me.
 
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