Roger Sterling
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- May 10, 2015
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You know when you meet a girl and she's awesome, then one day you wake up and realize months have gone by and you haven't seen your friends, and you totally forgot about angling for that promotion at work? Congratulations, you've found someone special! But at some point you'll have to tear yourself away and devote time to other parts of your life.
You know when you want to put more time into work and see friends but your girlfriend keeps making you do a bunch of stuff with her? Either you're blaming someone else for your problems or you're just in a bad relationship. Either way, don't worry! If you think you're in one of these situations, we're here to help.
1) You Value Comfort Over Risk
If you've found someone you love, it's hard to do extra work when you could be at home with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But if you want to progress in your career, you will occasionally have to pull yourself away and focus on your job. You don't need to be someone who never leaves the office. But you don't need to spend every spare moment together.
Advice: You've got to tear yourself away and to some era work from time to time. You'll always have plenty of chances to watch Netflix and eat ice cream together.
2) You're Scared She Won't Get It
If you find yourself explaining why you can't spend the time you need to develop your career because you think your partner won't let you, that's on you. Maybe you haven't actually taken the time to express how important it is, and you're just guessing incorrectly how they'll respond. Or maybe you have and they're making you feel guilty or upset by demanding you spend time with them.
Advice: If the former is the case, you've got to communicate your feelings no matter how uncomfortable it might make you. If the latter is the case, you've got to find someone else who will acknowledge that your career is also an important part of your life.
3) You Accidentally Sext Coworkers
Couples who have more sex have healthier relationships. It's a fact. But going to work can take away time when you could be having sext. So the healthiest couples make sure to sext whenever they're apart. OK, that's not a fact. There's nothing inherently wrong with sexting. But you may have a problem, if you've sexted numerous coworkers by accident.
Advice: Call Apple and see if there is a way to remove that eggplant emoji from your phone.
4) You Don't Put In Extra Hours
To rise in any field, you need to do more work than is currently expected of you. That means occasionally spending extra hours working beyond what is simply enough to maintain your current position. Pay attention to any time you put off doing extra work, then ask yourself why you're doing it. That will he;p yo figure out how to address this in your relationship
Advice: Pick a few dates in the next month where you'll put in extra work. Give yourself time to prepare for it.
5) You Don't Socialize With Coworkers
Getting after-work drinks with coworkers can sometimes feel like a chore, but it's crucial to career success. It's not that you need to schmooze your way to the top. But being a guy that coworkers like workingand socializing with can always help if someone you currently work with ends up being in a position to hire you one day. You don't need to hit the happy hours every day to have that kind of reputation.
Advice: If it's been a while since you've one out with coworkers, make some plans a week in advance to hang out somewhere.
6) You're Sleeping With Your Coworker
Dating a coworker can affect you career in a bunch of ways, most of them not good. Maybe you're flirting constantly at the office. That's not great. Maybe one of you is the other's superior. That might not even be legal! Even if you think dating your coworker isn't affecting your work, there's almost no way that it won't. Good luck!
Advice: Hopefully you get happily married or you have a completely mutual and peaceful breakup. Both are easy!
7) You Avoid Large Projects
You might get an opportunity to take on a project that will require you to spend extra time working at the office or traveling. Projects like that can show you can handle more responsibility or simply allow you do something exciting in a field that you love. You shouldn't pass on these chances because spending some time apart makes you or your partner feel uneasy.
Advice: Realize that this extra work is only temporary but that it can also lead to better opportunities in the future. It's a simple time investment that will make your life much better.
8) You're Afraid To Make A Career Change
Changing jobs is stressful no matter what your relationship situation is. But if you're only staying at your job because you're afraid your partner want support you, that's a problem. Staying at a job you hate will just make you miserable and end up impacting your relationship anyway.
Advice: First, actually talk to your partner about this. You might be wrong in assuming your they won't support your career change. If not, try to explain that this is necessary for you to be happy.
SOURCE: Askmen
