What kind of people have affairs?

Well, they're often people pleasers, who want to be liked and make other people happy. Eventually, though, their needs and desires clash with that of their partners.

Normally people pleasers quash these desires, telling themselves 'my needs don't matter'. But then they snap. 'What about me?' they ask. 'Don't I deserve this?'
It's at this point people pleasers turn 180 degrees and become selfish. And it's then that the temptation to have an affair creeps in.

Men with sex fantasies
The reason so many men entertain such fantasies is relatively simple: boys are not encouraged to express their feelings, but to suppress them. Obviously, these feelings don't just disappear. They pop up somewhere else. Where? The bedroom.
It's because society has told us that the only time it's acceptable for men to express their feelings is when they're having sex.
This is the real reason men's emotional problems are so closely linked with their libido.


Men with devoted mothers
Many men just want to please their partner and so don't rock the boat ? even when they're unhappy with the attention they receive from their wives.

But these are the men who will use affairs to jolt themselves out of their numbness. It is a warning to devoted mothers

Wives who tease other men
Women normally only allow other men to chat them up if they're feeling lonely, desperate and sad. Does a husband really listen to his wife, does he find himself pushing her away rather than truly interacting with her?

Too often, a woman embarks on an affair not out of lust or desire, but because she has a problem with her marriage.
The men she seeks are just a symptom of the problem and the problem is usually something her husband has been doing wrong.

Tatizo wengi humu jf hatujui kiingereza, ungetutafsiria kwenye kiswahili ungepata wachangiaji wengi. Ila subiri wanakuja.

Kautafiti kangu kasiko rasmi kameonyesha wanawake wengi wana affairs ili kukomoa. " ngoja nimuonyesheee mbona na yeye ana affair"

SUPER PREDATOR said:

Tatizo wengi humu jf hatujui kiingereza, ungetutafsiria kwenye kiswahili ungepata wachangiaji wengi. Ila subiri wanakuja.

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Aina za watu wanao tembea nje ya ndoa/ mahusiano

Naam, wao ni mara nyingi watu pleasers, ambao wanataka kuwa walipenda na kufanya watu wengine furaha. Hata hivyo, hatimaye mahitaji yao na tamaa mgongano kati yake na ile ya wapenzi wao.

Kwa kawaida watu pleasers quash tamaa hizi, kuwaambia wenyewe 'mahitaji yangu si jambo'. Lakini basi wao snap. 'Na mimi je?' wanauliza. 'Je, si mimi stahili hii?'
Ni katika hatua hii watu pleasers kugeuka digrii 180 na kuwa na ubinafsi. Na ni wakati huo kwamba majaribu ya kuwa creeps jambo katika.

Wanaume wenye tamaa za kingon/fantasies

Sababu wanaume wengi kuwakaribisha fantasies vile ni rahisi: wavulana si moyo kueleza hisia zao, lakini kwa kuwakandamiza. Ni wazi, hisia hizi si tu kutoweka. Wao pop up mahali pengine. Wapi? Chumba cha kulala.
Ni kwa sababu jamii ametuambia kwamba wakati tu ni kukubalika kwa watu kuonyesha hisia zao ni wakati wao ni kufanya ngono.
Hii ni sababu halisi ya matatizo ya hisia za watu ni hivyo uhusiano wa karibu na libido yao.


Wanaume wenye wake walezi wa watoto

Wanaume wengi wanataka tu tafadhali mpenzi wao na hivyo si mwamba mashua? hata wakati wao uko furaha na mawazo wanazopata kutoka kwa wake zao.

Lakini haya ni wanaume ambao watatumia masuala jolt wenyewe nje ya ganzi yao. Ni onyo kwa akina mama kujitoa

Wanawake wanao chati na wanaume wengine

Wanawake kwa kawaida tu kuruhusu watu wengine kuzungumza nao juu kama wao ni hisia lonely, kukata tamaa na huzuni. Je, mume kweli kusikiliza na mkewe, je, yeye kujikuta kusukuma yake mbali badala ya kweli mazungumzo na mwanamke?

Mara nyingi, mwanamke embarks juu ya jambo si nje ya tamaa au hamu, lakini kwa sababu yeye ana tatizo na ndoa yake.
Wanaume yeye anatafuta ni baadhi tu ya dalili ya tatizo na tatizo ni kawaida kitu mumewe amekuwa akifanya vibaya.