englibertm
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- May 1, 2009
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We all have exes. Ex crushes, ex fiancés, ex boyfriends, ex husbands, and ex- people who never knew we ever existed. At one point in life we met someone we truly loved and had to let go of for some reason. It doesn't matter if you're sweet, polite, or even an angel, I'm pretty sure you had at least one ex. I can bet you anything they've crossed your mind right now after reading this.
I can bet you anything that you tried being friends with that ex even if it's just for a short while, thinking that would actually work. You see the thing about exes, they're like dead pets, you're not really supposed to keep them around.
It's just not healthy for either of you. So next time you feel like blurting out "let's just be friends", take a minute to think that through. Take a minute to think if you REALLY want to be seeing more of that person, knowing more about that person, who they're dating, who they're "casually seeing", or where their new condo by the beach is.
Take a minute to think, are you gonna be a true friend? A friend that would be genuinely happy for the other person's achievements and successes; a friend that would not get jealous of the next person they date? It's not really smart of you to think that being friends would help you with closure; in fact it will keep the wound open. You two were a thing, no matter how many people you've dated, no matter how strong your reasons for splitting up are, and no matter how many miles apart you've become, fact will remain: they were once yours.
Ever wondered what "ex" stood for? It stands for "example", an example of a person you don't need in your life. If you want to go on with your life, if you want to truly move forward, and if you feel this person deserves to be an ex, then just leave them behind! Leave everything about them behind. Leave their memories, their photographs, their facebook messages, even their friends behind if that's what it'll take. Don't linger on to something you can't and don't have any more; don't hang on a thread of false hope of being "friends".
Life is like an open road with plenty of routes. We take wrong turns, we steer in the direction of our dreams, we chase our goals at high speed, and we just keep going. Don't drive back in reverse, break your rear view mirror, and just enjoy the ride for life is a journey, not a destination.
I can bet you anything that you tried being friends with that ex even if it's just for a short while, thinking that would actually work. You see the thing about exes, they're like dead pets, you're not really supposed to keep them around.
It's just not healthy for either of you. So next time you feel like blurting out "let's just be friends", take a minute to think that through. Take a minute to think if you REALLY want to be seeing more of that person, knowing more about that person, who they're dating, who they're "casually seeing", or where their new condo by the beach is.
Take a minute to think, are you gonna be a true friend? A friend that would be genuinely happy for the other person's achievements and successes; a friend that would not get jealous of the next person they date? It's not really smart of you to think that being friends would help you with closure; in fact it will keep the wound open. You two were a thing, no matter how many people you've dated, no matter how strong your reasons for splitting up are, and no matter how many miles apart you've become, fact will remain: they were once yours.
Ever wondered what "ex" stood for? It stands for "example", an example of a person you don't need in your life. If you want to go on with your life, if you want to truly move forward, and if you feel this person deserves to be an ex, then just leave them behind! Leave everything about them behind. Leave their memories, their photographs, their facebook messages, even their friends behind if that's what it'll take. Don't linger on to something you can't and don't have any more; don't hang on a thread of false hope of being "friends".
Life is like an open road with plenty of routes. We take wrong turns, we steer in the direction of our dreams, we chase our goals at high speed, and we just keep going. Don't drive back in reverse, break your rear view mirror, and just enjoy the ride for life is a journey, not a destination.