5 Steps for raising a strong daughter

Roger Sterling · Oct 20, 2015

By Jon Helmkamp

Fathers, be present. Your daughter needs you more than you could ever imagine. Be there for her. Love her. Care for her. Protect her.

Last week, something happened that made my skin crawl. While sitting at home nursing a bad head cold, I was scrolling through my Twitter feed and learned that Curt Schilling, former professional baseball player and Hall of Fame candidate, was absolutely barraged with the most heinous, vile tweets imaginable pertaining to his teenage daughter.

I dont know when or how this became socially acceptable, but I was raised with the belief that no girl should ever be talked to or treated in the disgusting way these boys were treating her. As the father of a little girl who will someday be a young woman, I felt the internal flame of protection that only a father knows flare up in my chest in complete outrage. Fathers, we have a tremendous battle on our hands.
Here are five ways to help raise your daughter to deal with the ugliness of the world:

1. Show her how a real man behaves
I cannot stress this enough, but your daughter needs you to be the sterling example of how a man acts. Treat her mother with love, tenderness and respect, so your daughter will know what to look for in a man.

2. Teach your daughter to be strong
You better believe my daughter will be raised with a strong head, and yes, Im fully aware there are going to be times when that will come back to bite me. But my daughter will know where she stands on things, and be unshakable in that stance. Teach your daughter not only what is right and wrong, but to fight for what is right and true.

3. Date your daughter
If you want to know your daughter, woo her and simultaneously teach her how a woman should be treated by a man; take her on dates. Dress your best for her, bring her flowers, treat her like it is a first date every time you do it, and do it often. Being a constant presence and reminder of how a man behaves will keep it fresh in her mind when she is bogged down by the slew of moronic young boys out there claiming to be men.

4. Be on her side
Your daughter needs to know that you are there for her that you will protect her, do anything for her and will not judge her. Make sure you are cultivating a safe relationship with your daughter so that she knows she can come to you in times of trouble.

5. Develop her self-worth
As your daughter grows, there will be societal voices telling her that her worth comes from everything except herself. She will hear that her worth comes from her appearance, her relationships, her job, her friends nothing will be telling her that her worth comes from her heart and her values, except for you and her mother. Encourage her and teach her that she is worth more than what is skin deep.
Fathers, be present. Your daughter needs you more than you could ever imagine. Be there for her. Love her. Care for her. Protect her.

Zamiluni Zamiluni · Oct 20, 2015

Mkuu.... 1000 Likes !!!

Evelyn Salt · Oct 20, 2015

Nasubiri part two "steps for raising a strong son"

mito · Oct 20, 2015

hiyo ya kudate her ndo sijaelewa
atoto, cute b msaada wa kunitafsiria tafadhali

Espy_ · Oct 20, 2015

mito said:
hiyo ya kudate her ndo sijaelewa
atoto, cute b msaada wa kunitafsiria tafadhali

Mie nisipoona neno money my kaka kingreza kinakuwa hakipandi kabisaaaa

Mareks · Oct 20, 2015

without God u wil be building nothing

mito · Oct 20, 2015

atoto said:
Mie nisipoona neno money my kaka kingreza kinakuwa hakipandi kabisaaaa

Hahaaa usipoona nini sista!!??

olele · Oct 20, 2015

Nakubaliana na wewe mia mia kwani na mimi napenda sana watoto hasa wa kike ila kwenye NO 3. KWA NAMNA FULANI SIKUUINGI MKONO au labda kwa mabinti wetu wa kiafrika

ukimfanyia sana hayo uliyoyasema ni kama utakuwa unamuweka kwenye wakati mgumu yeye mwenyewe kwani kumbuka lazima na yy aje kupata mume (mwanaume) sasa kama anajua kupendwa sana kunakuwaje atapata shida sana na wanaume maana atakua anapima na kulinganisha upendo anaopewa na hyo jamaa yake na wa baba yake ambao kimsingi utakua unazidi tu. (kumbuka upendo wa mzazi hauna vikwazo kwazo vya mapenzi)

nakwambia hutaweza kumtoa/kumhamisha kwa baba yake na huyo jamaa yake atapata shida sana, mkitofautiana kidogo tu hata kama yeye ndo ana makosa atakuona humpendi ipasavyo, na wengine hujisahau kabisa kuwasifia baba zao wanavyowapenda mbele ya jamaa zao.. sasa kwa mwanaume yyte yule hataweza kuridhika.

mf. anaweza kuweka kwenye prof pic za baba yake na kusema maneno kama "hamna mwanaume kama huyu duniani"
hebu fikiria kama wewe ni mume wake au mpenzi..
kama huamini fanya kinyume chake, onyesha mapenzi makubwa kwa mama yako uone utakavyoleta matatizo

cute b · Oct 23, 2015

mito said:
hiyo ya kudate her ndo sijaelewa
atoto, cute b msaada wa kunitafsiria tafadhali

atoto said:
Mie nisipoona neno money my kaka kingreza kinakuwa hakipandi kabisaaaa

Naugua ugonjwa wa kuwamiss

Heaven Sent · Oct 23, 2015

olele nimekuelewaaa. ..

mito · Oct 23, 2015

cute b said:
Naugua ugonjwa wa kuwamiss

Hahaaa na kweli
Uko kwenye kampeni nini mkuu

cute b · Oct 23, 2015

mito said:
Hahaaa na kweli
Uko kwenye kampeni nini mkuu

Hapana my...nilisafiri

Espy_ · Oct 23, 2015

cute b said:
Naugua ugonjwa wa kuwamiss

We mtoto unafichwa na nani?

cute b · Oct 23, 2015

atoto said:
We mtoto unafichwa na nani?

Baba kij....
Ha ha haaa

mxyo16 · Oct 23, 2015

Ni kazi sana kulea mtoto wakike....nionapo mwanamke anajishugulisha kikazi kujiingizia kipato..nahata anapofanya bidii za kufikia senior level..its amazing..yani huwa nawaheshimu sana hawa ladies....

Espy_ · Oct 23, 2015

cute b said:
Baba kij....
Ha ha haaa

Mwambie ana kesi ya kujibu

Khantwe · Oct 23, 2015

olele said:
Nakubaliana na wewe mia mia kwani na mimi napenda sana watoto hasa wa kike ila kwenye NO 3. KWA NAMNA FULANI SIKUUINGI MKONO au labda kwa mabinti wetu wa kiafrika

ukimfanyia sana hayo uliyoyasema ni kama utakuwa unamuweka kwenye wakati mgumu yeye mwenyewe kwani kumbuka lazima na yy aje kupata mume (mwanaume) sasa kama anajua kupendwa sana kunakuwaje atapata shida sana na wanaume maana atakua anapima na kulinganisha upendo anaopewa na hyo jamaa yake na wa baba yake ambao kimsingi utakua unazidi tu. (kumbuka upendo wa mzazi hauna vikwazo kwazo vya mapenzi)

nakwambia hutaweza kumtoa/kumhamisha kwa baba yake na huyo jamaa yake atapata shida sana, mkitofautiana kidogo tu hata kama yeye ndo ana makosa atakuona humpendi ipasavyo, na wengine hujisahau kabisa kuwasifia baba zao wanavyowapenda mbele ya jamaa zao.. sasa kwa mwanaume yyte yule hataweza kuridhika.

mf. anaweza kuweka kwenye prof pic za baba yake na kusema maneno kama "hamna mwanaume kama huyu duniani"
hebu fikiria kama wewe ni mume wake au mpenzi..
kama huamini fanya kinyume chake, onyesha mapenzi makubwa kwa mama yako uone utakavyoleta matatizo

Umenena vema sana

MKIKUU · Oct 28, 2015

olele said:
Nakubaliana na wewe mia mia kwani na mimi napenda sana watoto hasa wa kike ila kwenye NO 3. KWA NAMNA FULANI SIKUUINGI MKONO au labda kwa mabinti wetu wa kiafrika

ukimfanyia sana hayo uliyoyasema ni kama utakuwa unamuweka kwenye wakati mgumu yeye mwenyewe kwani kumbuka lazima na yy aje kupata mume (mwanaume) sasa kama anajua kupendwa sana kunakuwaje atapata shida sana na wanaume maana atakua anapima na kulinganisha upendo anaopewa na hyo jamaa yake na wa baba yake ambao kimsingi utakua unazidi tu. (kumbuka upendo wa mzazi hauna vikwazo kwazo vya mapenzi)

nakwambia hutaweza kumtoa/kumhamisha kwa baba yake na huyo jamaa yake atapata shida sana, mkitofautiana kidogo tu hata kama yeye ndo ana makosa atakuona humpendi ipasavyo, na wengine hujisahau kabisa kuwasifia baba zao wanavyowapenda mbele ya jamaa zao.. sasa kwa mwanaume yyte yule hataweza kuridhika.

mf. anaweza kuweka kwenye prof pic za baba yake na kusema maneno kama "hamna mwanaume kama huyu duniani"
hebu fikiria kama wewe ni mume wake au mpenzi..
kama huamini fanya kinyume chake, onyesha mapenzi makubwa kwa mama yako uone utakavyoleta matatizo

nahisi kama umenisema mimi vile, ila ninakuunga mkono 100% mtoto wa kike aliyependwa saana na baba hii hali lazima aipitie na lazima awe nayo tu haiepukiki

kabanga · Oct 28, 2015

Nzuri....

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