You wish You Weren't Married?

chupaku said:
Mchongoma,

Mnajisikiaje wanaume mnapoenda nyumba ndogo na kugeuzwa akili mpaka mnafanya vitu vya hovyo hovyo - mwanaume mtu mzima? Ndio mnadai mapenzi?

Ila twende mbele na kurudi nyuma, jamani kuna wakinababa wanakera na wakinamama hali kadhalika, nyumbani hakukaliki, unajitafutia vi trip vya hapa na pale na mtu akisafiri inakuwa eeuuh!
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Naomba ufafanue vitu vya hovyo hovyo :) ni vipi?
 
NaimaOmari said:
once beaten twice shy .... wahalalishe tu ndoa ya mkataba jamani .. haya mambo for life ni kama kufungana kamba tu
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Duh! Kwani kuna mtu amekushikia bango uendelee kubaki huko. Wewe ukishachoka anza. Live your life man, not other people's! Haya mambo ya kuishi kwa kujaribu kuwaridhisha watu wengine hata kama wewe huridhika ndio yanazaa nyumba ndogo kwenye jamii yetu-and consequently, it is partly the reason why HIV/AIDS has remained with us for so long!
 
Kitila Mkumbo said:
Duh! Kwani kuna mtu amekushikia bango uendelee kubaki huko. Wewe ukishachoka anza. Live your life man, not other people's! Haya mambo ya kuishi kwa kujaribu kuwaridhisha watu wengine hata kama wewe huridhika ndio yanazaa nyumba ndogo kwenye jamii yetu-and consequently, it is partly the reason why HIV/AIDS has remained with us for so long!
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Mkuu wangu Kitila,

Hii topic imenifanya niwe nacheka sana. Lakini kinachonifurahisha zaidi ni watu kuwa wakweli na hali halisi. Kuchaguliwa mavazi ya kwenda nayo huwakera wengi kumbe! Yani kuna vijimambo flaniflani ni vidogo tu lakini huleta mibalaa katika ndoa.
 
Pale ninapoishi kuna kisa kimoja

mwanaume alimwona housegal akampenda akamchukuwa akamsomesha , akajenga nyumba akamuowa wakaishi wote kwa miaka zaidi ya 10 ,ila kwa sasa wana matatizo wanaishi nyumba moja lakini vyumba tofauti mwanamke amefikia hatua ya kuomba nyumba iuzwe kila mtu aishi maisha yake

unaona hii ??
 
Kitila Mkumbo said:
Duh! Kwani kuna mtu amekushikia bango uendelee kubaki huko. Wewe ukishachoka anza. Live your life man, not other people's! Haya mambo ya kuishi kwa kujaribu kuwaridhisha watu wengine hata kama wewe huridhika ndio yanazaa nyumba ndogo kwenye jamii yetu-and consequently, it is partly the reason why HIV/AIDS has remained with us for so long!
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Makubwa, madogo yana nafuu. Kitila, hatoki mtu babu wee, tutabanana hapa hapa, wadhani ndoa ni nguo unaitupa tu?
 
chupaku said:
BAK, vitu vya hovyohovyo ni vile vyote ambavyo huwezi kumfanyia nyumbani mke wako, kuanzia sitting room hadi chumbani. Na benki pia..... Pia vile ambavyo wanao wakikuona unafanya watakucheka.
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Bado umeniacha njia panda.
 
...its good to get married(i guess) lakini kwa sasa i prefer girlfriend maana wako hot all the time...lakini it comes down to finance,kama mna njaa ndoa ni sumu tuu!
 
utu wangu said:
i often ask,....who is this bazazi lying next to me?????????
it makes me sick
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So sorry for u man/woman......unless u were forced into it but still...anything making stay?

I wonder....... lazima ulikurupuka kama majibu ya hayo hapo juu ni hapana.
 
Invisible said:
A professor once said that the reason why women rejoice greatly during their weddings while the men keep a straight faces was because, the woman feels like:"oh, at last I have nailed him!" and the man laments:"Oh, what a fool I have been; trouble was on its own and I went to buy it for myself, now I'm no longer going to be free!"

The question is:
Do you sometimes wish you weren't married or that your marital status could be suspended even for just a few hours? Please sincere answers will be appreciated.
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In most cases you don't regret marrying but the person you have married to. Hypothetically, if all married men could be given a chance to re-marry, I can bet, less than 5% would re-marry their current wives. Nadhani sababu kubwa ni kwamba binaadamu is so dynamic. Tastes zinabadilika haraka sana. Criteria zilizokuwa muhimu at the time you were making a decision to get married (by then may be you were probably only around 30) are now no longer important. Pengine sura ilikuwa kigezo kikubwa lakini once you grow up you find other factors are probably more important than the face (which definetely get worse as the woman ages)!

Lakini yote kwa yote, kukaa ndani ya ndoa kunahitaji uvumilivu, ustahilimilivu and busara ya hali ya juu. La sivyo mwanaume utaishia kuwa na nyumba ndogo lukuki!
 
SMU said:
In most cases you don't regret marrying but the person you have married to. Hypothetically, if all married men could be given a chance to re-marry, I can bet, less than 5% would re-marry their current wives. Nadhani sababu kubwa ni kwamba binaadamu is so dynamic. Tastes zinabadilika haraka sana. Criteria zilizokuwa muhimu at the time you were making a decision to get married (by then may be you were probably only around 30) are now no longer important. Pengine sura ilikuwa kigezo kikubwa lakini once you grow up you find other factors are probably more important than the face (which definetely get worse as the woman ages)!
Lakini yote kwa yote, kukaa ndani ya ndoa kunahitaji uvumilivu, ustahilimilivu and busara ya hali ya juu. La sivyo mwanaume utaishia kuwa na nyumba ndogo lukuki!
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This is interesting!ha ha ha!
What if women were to re-marry? Probably 0% would even think of marrying their current! kidn!
On a serious note... married life is like a rollercoaster..if not dramma.at times you are so happy and you feel like this is what life should be.There are times when you feel like " i wish i wasnt married"...Suala la nyumba ndogo au vivuli n.k whatever name you can give them ni personal choice kutegemeana na mtu unataka nini katika maisha.Cha msingi ni kuwa na awareness kwamba married life is like a plant that needs to be taken care of constantly...nyweshea, palilia, prune,spray insecticides and enjoy the beauty!
 
WomenofSubstanc said:
This is interesting!ha ha ha!
What if women were to re-marry? Probably 0% would even think of marrying their current! kidn!On a serious note... married life is like a rollercoaster..if not dramma.at times you are so happy and you feel like this is what life should be.There are times when you feel like " i wish i wasnt married"...Suala la nyumba ndogo au vivuli n.k whatever name you can give them ni personal choice kutegemeana na mtu unataka nini katika maisha.Cha msingi ni kuwa na awareness kwamba married life is like a plant that needs to be taken care of constantly...nyweshea, palilia, prune,spray insecticides and enjoy the beauty!
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It's really interesting to note this! kumbe 'ukiona kwako kunaungua, ujue kwa mwenzako kunateketea'?
 
WomenofSubstanc said:
This is interesting!ha ha ha!
What if women were to re-marry? Probably 0% would even think of marrying their current! kidn!
On a serious note... married life is like a rollercoaster..if not dramma.at times you are so happy and you feel like this is what life should be.There are times when you feel like " i wish i wasnt married"...Suala la nyumba ndogo au vivuli n.k whatever name you can give them ni personal choice kutegemeana na mtu unataka nini katika maisha.Cha msingi ni kuwa na awareness kwamba married life is like a plant that needs to be taken care of constantly...nyweshea, palilia, prune,spray insecticides and enjoy the beauty!
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Jibu la swali hili ni rahisi sana. Maisha ya binadamu yanabadilika kutegemeana na muda na mahali alipo kwa wakati huo. Kwa hiyo kujiuliza swali kama hilo si kosa. Ila jambo la msingi ni kitu gani kitafuata baada ya kujiuliza...! Majibu ya hilo ndo kama walivyosema wachangiaji na mengine mengi bado yatakuja!

Bottom line: Nasikia kuna mwanafalsafa wa zamani aliulizwa atoe jibu la swali lifuatalo; "Kipi bora, kuoa au kutooa"? Jibu lake lilikuwa rahisi sana; "Kwa vyovyote vile atakavyochagua mtu, lazima atajuta siku moja".
 
Dark City said:
Jibu la swali hili ni rahisi sana. Maisha ya binadamu yanabadilika kutegemeana na muda na mahali alipo kwa wakati huo. Kwa hiyo kujiuliza swali kama hilo si kosa. Ila jambo la msingi ni kitu gani kitafuata baada ya kujiuliza...! Majibu ya hilo ndo kama walivyosema wachangiaji na mengine mengi bado yatakuja!

Bottom line: Nasikia kuna mwanafalsafa wa zamani aliulizwa atoe jibu la swali lifuatalo; "Kipi bora, kuoa au kutooa"? Jibu lake lilikuwa rahisi sana; "Kwa vyovyote vile atakavyochagua mtu, lazima atajuta siku moja".
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I totally agree with this, looking at what goes within the roman catholic priesthood.
 
The question is:
Do you sometimes wish you weren't married or that your marital status could be suspended even for just a few hours? Please sincere answers will be appreciated.
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...marriage is an institution whereby, those in wish were out, and those out wish were enrolled in it!

 
These are my wishes
1. If I could get a little break and take a stock of our marriage for a day or two but not to break up completely. Unless forced, I cannot think of becoming single.
2. If it were possible for us to get new experiences i.e if she could have someone for a day or two and so do I. Probably we could appreciate how good or bad we are doing it. May be we are having fun but have nothing to compare with.
3. If I could open her heart and know how she feels about me. I know how I fee for her but not sure how much she knows that. If she could get into my heart may be some noises could disappear. Unfortunately hearts are not transparent and we just have to trust our feelings.

These are things we agreed from day zero:
1. We met with our 32 teeth, so we are not glued to each other. We will therefore live together as long as each of us is happy. After about 10 yrs, we feel that we are still happy.
2. Kuona na kutamani ni ruksa. Ila kula "strictly forbidden". If any of us is caught, then that should be the end of our marriage. We feel that there can be no more relationship after such incidence. Please note that we are in a Christian marriage but we just set our own rules.
3. Our happiness can not be substituted by anything such as convenience. Thus no happiness no marriage. If any of us will start to be unhappy then we can comfortably separate and agree on how to take care of kinds. Si lazima mtu awe kichaa eti kwa sababu analinda ndoa.
 
...nimeshuhudia watu wakilia na kusaga meno kujutia kumpoteza mwenza wake.

Only death will make you realise HOW MUCH your spouse meant to you,...unabakia, '... I wish I could turn back hands of time!'

Maisha ni weye mwenyewe unavyotaka yawe, na hutajua thamani ya mwenza mpaka siku atapokutoka milele...

Tuwe wavumilivu, hakuna lishindikalo, weye tu.
 
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