strictly for guys: Can one night stand be considered as a mere cheating??

[SnowBall]

Najua hata wakike watakuja manake ukishaongelea haya mambo lazima mtu roho imdunde..Iko hivi...Unajua guys binafsi mimi sio muumini wa ile dhana ya dhambi zote ni sawa na nabaki kuamini kuna dhambi ndogo na kubwa..Na imani yangu inajengwa na maumivu ya kosa pamoja na 'demeanor' ya mtenda kosa..Mfano ninaamini japo wote ni wezi..lakini haiwezekani mtu aliyekuibia kuku awe charged sawa na jambazi aliyekuibia gari....pia naamini adhabu ya mtu aliekutukana haiwezi kuwa sawa na ya yule aliyekuja nyumbani kwako akambaka mkeo na kisha akaondoka na pesa zako..

Sasa nirejee kwenye mada..ni hivi wewe umeoa/au una gf..mfano umeenda kijijini labda kama kamwezi hiv..na katika kurefresh mara kanaibuka kabinti au mdada na kwa sababu uko lonely unakaimbisha na hatimaye unalamba mzigo na hakuna la zaidi pengine unamtoa na vijisenti kadhaa maisha yanaendelea..Au umekuja jijini na uko bored..katika pitapita zako unakutana na mdada..mnaelewana na unajibebea dume zako kadhaa na unaenda kutungua mzigo.. hata kama tumezoea kuihesabu as cheating..hivi hii inaweza kuwa sawa na yule aliyemkodishia nyumba mwanamke(nyumba ndogo) anamkatia fuba la kutosha na saa zingine hadi nyumba kamjengea..ukute hata kamzalisha na mtoto..na pengine pembeni ana mwanafunzi anamsomesha??..Najua wengi mtasimamia kidini..hebu tufunguke katika uhalisia wa maisha..na tujiulize hivi kweli zile 'one night stand' zinaqualify kuitwa cheating kweli'??..Hapa najua tutabishana hadi asubuhi cuz najua sisi wababa kumega nje ni sawa na wanafunzi na facebook....Tuwaambieje hawa ndugu zetu watuelewe kuwa ulikuwa ukame tu na mazingira kuwa magumu!!!

How cheating is cheating??..can we draw a clear boundary between one night stand and absolute cheating or rather any act of dating in absence of your partner is just cheating???..hivi hakunaga kucheat kudogo na kukubwa???

 

[lara 1]

Hahahaaaaa! Snoball kuna SEHEMU UNAZENGEA 1 NIGHT STAND NINI! Sasa untaka tuku console kuwa its okay!!! LOL!!! Well its not okay bt its tolerable!!!! TATIZO LENU MKIONJESHWA MNANASA!!!! KILA AFFAIR ILIANZA NA ONE NIGHT STAND!!!! Upo hapo! Wote wenye nyumba ndogo walianza kwa kujiaminisha it will only be a 1 NIGHT STAND!!! Ndo wamechonga mizinga. The biggest problem ni kuwa YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT!!! UNAWEZA PIGWA MAMBO XXXXXXXXL NEVER SEEN BEFORE!!! Hahahaaaaaa! Ndo hivo inakuwa YOU NEVER KNOW TILL YOU KNOW KAMA NI 1 NIGHT STAND AU NDO USHAJIPATIA SMALL HOUSE!!!! Hahahaaaaaaa! Hata wanawake atiiiiii! Mimi kumjaribu mtu sitakagu kabisaaaa! Unakuja kujua TOO LATE!!!!! Vishakunogea mpaka kwenye DAMU!!!!

 

[s.fm]

Cheating haina kiwango...kuanzia matamanio mpaka kuvua pichu...

 

[gfsonwin]

my kaka SnowBall kwani qualified cheating ilianza wapi? assume uko dar ghafla ktk pitapita zako ukakutana na gfsonwin akakudatisha mkapata night stand kisha comms zikawepo za kutosha do you think kwamba utaweza kustop hiyo relationship pasi kurudia?

to me huwa naamin mbinu za mwanamke yyte yule ziko very strategically yaani utakuta demu kajipanga one month kwa witch dr ili ampate wa kumsafishia nyota sasa bahati mbaya huyu anakutana na wewe what do you expect?

all in all extent ya torture ni tofauti kabisa kwa night stand na ile ya full small house ila kosa la uzinzi liko pale pale.use kabisa?

 

[valid statement]

Mkuu, Cheating ya one night haina madhara kabisa mdau.
Kwanza maranyingi huwa haina ushahidi (na ndio sababu wengi wanaiita ''cha kisela'')
kumpangishia manzi nyumba kabisa?? Dah ....

 

[BADILI TABIA]

samahani kipirabarafu ( SnowBall)
hivi nyie wanaume hamuwezi kutuliza ndude zenu mpaka mpate hata usiku-mmoja-uliosimama? (one night stand)??????
Yaani kuvumilia wiki mwezi inakuwa shiiiiiiiiiiiiiida?

Sorre nimetoka nje ya mada....

Nikirudi ndani ya mada,
haijalishi kama usiku-mmoja-uliosimama(one night stand) au dakika-moja-ilosimama (one minute stand) as long as unasomamisha na mtu ambaye sio mkeo/gf hiyo ni CHEATING tu!!!!!!!

 

[HIMARS]

Nikusimamia kanuni/sheria za Mungu alisema usizini,usiue,usidanganye,usitamani.
Yaani hii inaanzia kutamani,unamdanganya uliemwacha nyumbani,unazini.
Ni kosa hata mara moja

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[SnowBall]

I got your point buddy...
But do you think every dating should sustain?
How do you define chapchap???

Hahahaaaaa! Snoball kuna SEHEMU UNAZENGEA 1 NIGHT STAND NINI! Sasa untaka tuku console kuwa its okay!!! LOL!!! Well its not okay bt its tolerable!!!! TATIZO LENU MKIONJESHWA MNANASA!!!! KILA AFFAIR ILIANZA NA ONE NIGHT STAND!!!! Upo hapo! Wote wenye nyumba ndogo walianza kwa kujiaminisha it will only be a 1 NIGHT STAND!!! Ndo wamechonga mizinga. The biggest problem ni kuwa YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT!!! UNAWEZA PIGWA MAMBO XXXXXXXXL NEVER SEEN BEFORE!!! Hahahaaaaaa! Ndo hivo inakuwa YOU NEVER KNOW TILL YOU KNOW KAMA NI 1 NIGHT STAND AU NDO USHAJIPATIA SMALL HOUSE!!!! Hahahaaaaaaa! Hata wanawake atiiiiii! Mimi kumjaribu mtu sitakagu kabisaaaa! Unakuja kujua TOO LATE!!!!! Vishakunogea mpaka kwenye DAMU!!!!

 

[SnowBall]

Kwa hiyo hata kutamani moyoni is a mere cheating?
Je does every cheating torture with the same level?

Cheating haina kiwango...kuanzia matamanio mpaka kuvua pichu...

 

[SnowBall]

Kwenye torturing ulipogusia ndio na mimi ninaposemea..
Unajua kwa nini Schwazenneger aliachana na mkewe Maria Shriver?
I guess ni maumivu...yaani uwe na mtoto wa miaka 17 halaf hujaniambia ..why?
Na mbaya zaidi with her housemaid..loset?..Nadhani one nite stand haina maumivu ya kiwango hiko..

my kaka SnowBall kwani qualified cheating ilianza wapi? assume uko dar ghafla ktk pitapita zako ukakutana na gfsonwin akakudatisha mkapata night stand kisha comms zikawepo za kutosha do you think kwamba utaweza kustop hiyo relationship pasi kurudia?

to me huwa naamin mbinu za mwanamke yyte yule ziko very strategically yaani utakuta demu kajipanga one month kwa witch dr ili ampate wa kumsafishia nyota sasa bahati mbaya huyu anakutana na wewe what do you expect?

all in all extent ya torture ni tofauti kabisa kwa night stand na ile ya full small house ila kosa la uzinzi liko pale pale.use kabisa?

 

[SnowBall]

Mkuu, Cheating ya one night haina madhara kabisa mdau.
Kwanza maranyingi huwa haina ushahidi (na ndio sababu wengi wanaiita ''cha kisela'')
kumpangishia manzi nyumba kabisa?? Dah ....

Ndio maana nasema kuna 'cheating' na 'chaeting'..somewhere should be a demarcation..lol

 

[gfsonwin]

Kwenye torturing ulipogusia ndio na mimi ninaposemea..
Unajua kwa nini Schwazenneger aliachana na mkewe Maria Shriver?
I guess ni maumivu...yaani uwe na mtoto wa miaka 17 halaf hujaniambia ..why?
Na mbaya zaidi with her housemaid..loset?..Nadhani one nite stand haina maumivu ya kiwango hiko..

definately one night stand haina maumivu kama ya permanent cheating. ila dhambi ni ile ile

 

[SnowBall]

Kwa hiyo mdau wangu ile kidude kugusana na kidude kischohusika tayari ni cheating..ryte?
How do you consider maumivu..yaani yule wa kijijini ambaye hata namba za simu zake sina na huyu wa mtaa wa jirani ambako napeleka na matumizi kila kukicha...wapi iko fair???

samahani kipirabarafu ( SnowBall)
hivi nyie wanaume hamuwezi kutuliza ndude zenu mpaka mpate hata usiku-mmoja-uliosimama? (one night stand)??????
Yaani kuvumilia wiki mwezi inakuwa shiiiiiiiiiiiiiida?

Sorre nimetoka nje ya mada....

Nikirudi ndani ya mada,
haijalishi kama usiku-mmoja-uliosimama(one night stand) au dakika-moja-ilosimama (one minute stand) as long as unasomamisha na mtu ambaye sio mkeo/gf hiyo ni CHEATING tu!!!!!!!

 

[SnowBall]

Nikusimamia kanuni/sheria za Mungu alisema usizini,usiue,usidanganye,usitamani.
Yaani hii inaanzia kutamani,unamdanganya uliemwacha nyumbani,unazini.
Ni kosa hata mara moja

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Hivi dini hainaga exceptions eeh???
Mbona kuna sehemu jamaa alitengeneza bia??

 

[SnowBall]

definately one night stand haina maumivu kama ya permanent cheating. ila dhambi ni ile ile

Do you believe in that analogy..ya kuwa hakuna dhambi kubwa na ndogo??

 

[HIMARS]

Hivi dini hainaga exceptions eeh???
Mbona kuna sehemu jamaa alitengeneza bia??

Alitengeneza ila unaona kilimtokea nn? Aliishia kulaani mjukuu wake kwani Ham alimcheka baba yake na kawaida laana huenda kwa watoto.
Twende nyuma turudi mbele ukisaliti umetenda dhambi,kwani umedanganya,umezini na biblia imeandika vizuri just refer Kutoka 20 soma utaelewa

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[gfsonwin]

Do you believe in that analogy..ya kuwa hakuna dhambi kubwa na ndogo??

yes kwani extent ya kosa inabaki kuwa ileile kama imesemwa usizini ukazini siku moja huna tofauti na yule aliyezini siku 50 manake wote mliinvolvu kutumia hekalu la rhmt. dhambi ni sawa kwasabbau zote zina uwiano sawa kwa unayemkosea imagine kama umekuwa mchoyo ukasababisha mauti utahesabiwa uchoyo na uuaji na yule aliye kuwa mchoyo akasababisha mateso atahesabiwa mchoyo vilevile na mtesaji

 

[Kongosho]

hivi one night stand wanafanya kinguo nguo au mshedede unazama chimboni?

 

[SnowBall]

i guess it's very close to kinguo nguo..
Probably the difference is that one night...it could be even one minute..lol!

hivi one night stand wanafanya kinguo nguo au mshedede unazama chimboni?

 

[SnowBall]

yes kwani extent ya kosa inabaki kuwa ileile kama imesemwa usizini ukazini siku moja huna tofauti na yule aliyezini siku 50 manake wote mliinvolvu kutumia hekalu la rhmt. dhambi ni sawa kwasabbau zote zina uwiano sawa kwa unayemkosea imagine kama umekuwa mchoyo ukasababisha mauti utahesabiwa uchoyo na uuaji na yule aliye kuwa mchoyo akasababisha mateso atahesabiwa mchoyo vilevile na mtesaji

Do you believe that miongoni mwa dhambi kubwa ambayo hata wachungaji imewashinda ni uzinzi..
Ila IMO it has got to differ depending on the torturing that somebody is enduring..
Ulishawahi kusikia mtu anasema 'bora ungetembea na mtu mwingine yeyote lakini sio huyu'??