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MadameX said:
Duuh asiolewe bwana atakuwa huyo anawatoa wake zake mhanga but wait kama story naifahamu hii, isijekuwa huyo baba ni Cool Gentleman ?
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MadameX acha kuniharibia bana mimi bado niko katika mchakato na unaendelea vizuri. Sasa story hii inauhusiano gani na mimi? Unajua uchawi huo?

habr za jumapili wanajamvi, shost angu kakutana na mbaba anayemzidi 21 years. huyo mbaba alioa mke wa kwanza akafa,then akaoa mke wa pili pia akafa but co kwa hiv. huyo mbaba kasema yukn tayar kumuoa ila shost anaogopa walivyopishana umri. . . ushauri tafadhali! me nimeshindwa hata nianzeje make napata kigugumizi. karibun​
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  • Sijawahi kuwa na mke akafa
    Sijawahi kuoa mke wa pili akafa

    Mimi kwa maneno maneno yake faili lako nimeshalichoma moto sasa. Afadhali Mungu kanionyesha mapema. lol
 
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charminglady said:
habr za jumapili wanajamvi, shost angu kakutana na mbaba anayemzidi 21 years. huyo mbaba alioa mke wa kwanza akafa,then akaoa mke wa pili pia akafa but co kwa hiv. huyo mbaba kasema yukn tayar kumuoa ila shost anaogopa walivyopishana umri. . . ushauri tafadhali! me nimeshindwa hata nianzeje make napata kigugumizi. karibun
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charminglady, naomba kabla sijatoa ushauri tuongee kwa data:

Nchi nyingi za kiafrica wastani wa umri wa ndoa ni miaka kati ya 23 hadi 32 kwa wanaume na 18 hadi 29 kwa wanawake: Age at first marriage - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. Wastani wa Kidunia Mwanaume anaoa akiwa na miaka 28 na Mwanamke anaolewa akiwa na miaka 26.

Sasa kamata data hii: Dr. Phil.com - Advice - Marriage and Divorce: The Statistics

Marriage and Divorce: The Statistics


Learn what the 2003 data reveals about who is getting married, when they're getting married, and who is most likely to divorce.

The average age of a woman getting married in the United States is 27. " Bride's Magazine


The average age of a man getting married in the United States is 29." Bride's Magazine


88 percent of American men and women between the ages of 20 and 29 believe that they have a soul mate who is waiting for them. " University Wire, Louisiana State University


59 percent of marriages for women under the age of 18 end in divorce within 15 years. The divorce rate drops to 36 percent for those married at age 20 or older. " "Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the United States," M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher


60 percent of marriages for couples between the ages of 20 and 25 end in divorce. " National Center for Health Statistics


50 percent of all marriages in which the brides are 25 or older result in a failed marriage. " National Center for Health Statistics


65 percent of altar-bound men and women live together before getting married. " Bride's Magazine


Research indicates that people who live together prior to getting married are more likely to have marriages that end in divorce. " The Boston Herald



A recent study on cohabitation concluded that after five to seven years, only 21 percent of unmarried couples were still living together. " The Boston Herald



55 percent of cohabitating couples get married within five years of moving in together. Forty percent of couples who live together break up within that same time period. " Annual Review of Sociology


Children of divorce have a higher risk of divorce when they marry, and an even higher risk if the person they marry comes from a divorced home. One study found that when the wife alone had experienced a parental divorce, her odds of divorce increased to 59 percent. When both spouses experienced parental divorce, the odds of divorce nearly tripled to 189 percent. " Journal of Marriage and the Family


The likelihood that a woman will eventually marry is significantly lower for those who first had a child out of wedlock. By age 35, only 70 percent of all unwed mothers are married in contrast to 88 percent of women who have not had a child out of wedlock. " "Finding a Mate? The Marital and Cohabitation Histories of Unwed Mothers," Lawrence L. Wu and Barbara Wolfe
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So, what is my advise?

Age is nothing but a number. Count your life by quality and not quantity. My Sister aliolewa na Mbaba wa 54 years akiwa ana 24 years (lol) lakini sasa hivi wako kwenye ndoa yenye furaha na amani mwaka 15 na wala hakuna dalili ya mgogoro. Mtu mzima dawa unajua.

Kwanza jipime kama unampenda kweli? Pili Mchunguze. Do your basic homework hata kwa kumuuliza mwenyewe. na mwisho kapimeni HIV na mnarudia tena in 3 months. Ukisha clear kote, mama vaa Shela songa mbele. Achana na akina MadameX.
 
Kwang kukosea kuoa au kuolewa n zaid ya kosa kwa 7buu n kiapo cha maisha ambacho knacmamiwa na mungu na hata sio mwanadamu,hivy naomb asiklze sana moyo wake kabla yetu kama wadau suala la umr linawezakuwa c prb moyo ukmruhusu
 
wiseboy said:
mh itamsumbua binti bdae, wakijazoena ataja ona kama alikosea kwenda kwa m2 mzima kiasi hicho....kama kuna dalili ya kupata rika lake asubiri, kama hamna aende tu kwa hyo big dady
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itamsumbua kivipi?
 
Kwa kuangalia haraka mtu ataruka kwa haraka na kusema tocauti ni kubwa ni kama kuna unwritten law inayozuia watu wa umri tofauti kuwa pamoja bila kuangalia mtu unaweza moyo kuangukia pahala bila kutaraji. Mimi nasema awe naye, waoane, amzalie watoto, waheshimiane as long as factor kubwa ni love....go for it girl
 
Billie said:
Kwa nini mbunye nzuri kama hiyo aipelekee kwa lizee kubwa kama hilo hata kama maisha magumu sio kiivyo sasa.Mkataze coz hatafaidi mambo mengi akiolewa nalo ikiwemo IKIWEMO SWALA LA KUFIKISHWA KILELENI
my take:Njaa na maisha magumu yasimfanye ajichagulie long choice coz hatafaidi ndoa yake.
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love jamani love, love is blind
 
charminglady said:
habr za jumapili wanajamvi, shost angu kakutana na mbaba anayemzidi 21 years. huyo mbaba alioa mke wa kwanza akafa,then akaoa mke wa pili pia akafa but co kwa hiv. huyo mbaba kasema yukn tayar kumuoa ila shost anaogopa walivyopishana umri. . . ushauri tafadhali! me nimeshindwa hata nianzeje make napata kigugumizi. karibun
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Aisee charminglady, binafsi nimekutata na mabinti wa sampuli hii 3, tena wa ndani ya ukoo wetu. Unakuta binti yuko kwenye mahusiano na mzee wa rika kubwa simply because wazee wa rika hizo wengi wao huwa wanakuwa na mapenzi ya kweli, plus wanawatunza kinoma, unakuta binti anahudumiwa mpaka basi, akikohoa tu mzee huyu hapa kubembeleza. Ila mzee anapotaka kumuoa ndo binti anakuwa njia panda, why? Sababu kubwa ni kwamba anaona aibu mbele ya jamii, maana sasa mambo yatakuwa hadharani - si tena mapenzi ya kujificha ficha, kila mtu sasa atajua kuwa kaolewa na babu, including ku-imagine siku hiyo atasimamaje mbele ya watu na mzee kama huyu!

Nina imani ukijaribu kuongea vizuri na shost wako, utakuja kukundua kuwa hiyo sababu ya age difference anayoisema si tatizo kwake, bali analiona ni tatizo kwa jamii inayomzunguka (ndg, jamaa na marafiki).

Mshauri shost wako, wasifanye sherehe, waende tu bomani/kanisani kimya kimya, wapate vyeti vyao kisha waishi. Ushauri kama huu ume-work kwa baadhi ya watu wa aina hii. Sema shida sasa utakuja babu anang'ang'ana kutaka wafanye harusi!
 
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