Imeniuma sanaa!

[Kongosho]

Umenena vema, inakukwaza wewe, haiwakwazi wao.

Unaweza kuwa unakwazika na mtu kubeba mimba kabla ya ndoa. Lakini uarabuni wanakwazika na binti tu kupoteza ubikra wake. Jipime hapo.

Na njia anayopitia kila mmoja hadi kufikia ndoa ni tofauti na mwenzake, but mwisho wa siku ni kujaribu 'to be a better person' kila siku.

Ukiona askari mwenzako kaanguka, humkanyagi kichwa, mshike mkono, kama huwezi mwombee tu inatosha.

am sorry to say this but hii tabia ya wasichana kukimbilia kubeba mimba sikuhizi kabla ya ndoa inanikwaza sana

 

[Bethania]

Pole sana hiyo changamoto ktk mahusiano nakushauri usitoe hiyo mimba lea huyo mtoto ;wewe sio wakwanza kupitia hali hiyo vumilia utavuka tu ktk pito hilo na huyo mtoto atakuwa baraka kwako na wengine tuliza moyo wanaume wengine ndivyo walivyo pole sana

 

[mrsleo]

kwa vile ww Mungu kakuepusha usifikir ndio ulikuwa makin sana ila hukubahatika kukutana na wakwale. Na acha hyo kauli ungekuwa single ningekutafuta kwa gharama yoyote ili nikuthibitishie kuwa huna ujanja ila hukubahatika kukutana nao

Una uhakika na unachokisema?

 

[PRINCESS ABBY]

Usiitoe hiyo mimba mwenzio yalinikuta kama yako mwanzo niliwaza sana but now am happy to be a mother nilianza kuuza barafu na ice cream zikanibeba mpaka sasa na duka kubwa mwanangu namlea anamiaka 3 sasa baba mtu anahahaha hana hata mtoto hdi leo

 

[Baba V]

Habari wanaMMU,......

Nimekua nae kwenye mahusiano kwa muda wa miaka mitatu, nampenda na niliamini ananipenda pia.

Mwezi huu nimejigundua kuwa Nina ujauzito wake, niliopomwambia anadai nitoe kwa kisingizio kuwa mimi niko shule( niko chuo kikuu).

Nikamjibu sitaweza, akanambia sawa ila yeye hatakua anawajibika kwa chochote kwa kuwa hataki kuwa na mtoto aliyezaliwa nje ya ndoa
......naumia sana nikiwaza jinsi nilivyompenda na kumuamini, na sielewi ntalea vipi huyu mtoto bila ya baba yake

Usithubutu kutoa mimba aisee, heri dhambi moja kuliko mbili, Muwe na reservation ya mapenzi, kufikiri kuwa mtu anakupenda kama unavyompenda wewe ni kujidanganya.

 

[ENZO]

na ww bhana!! mbona ukampekea siku mbaya.

 

[Ndeke afwege]

ndaga kalumbu

chobha ilumbu gwangu!! Ndaga nu nsigo ugho akulekile. Mma utingatagha ilpoa lya kyala

 

[Ndeke afwege]

Una uhakika na unachokisema?

si bahatishi nina huhakika hakuna mwanamke jeuri mbele ya uwongo wa mwanaume na pesa. Amin hvyo

 

[Queen Kan]

Usithubutu kutoa mimba aisee, heri dhambi moja kuliko mbili, Muwe na reservation ya mapenzi, kufikiri kuwa mtu anakupenda kama unavyompenda wewe ni kujidanganya.

Baba V@ ntakuja pm. cc watu8@ kaka yangu

 

[Kongosho]

Bana watu tuache uzembe na visingizio.


Kosa na kwanza kwenda peku na mtu asiyejua msimamo wake juu yake
Kosa la pili, kupanda bangi na kutegemea uote mchicha

Sasa suala la mimba kuingia, afu mtu anataka tushauri kutoa hapana, hapa inahusisha maisha ya mtu mwingine.

Na hadi kufika chuo kikuu walau ana miaka 18+, na uzoefu alioupata huko duniani unamtosha kabisa kulea. Na akitaka asijipasue kichwa ashirikishe nduguze, mimba sio laana na si ugonjwa. Vipi angekuwa na ngwengwe?

kumbuka tunatofautina, pia hatujui mazingira aliyonayo huyu dada!

 

[Queen Kan]

chobha ilumbu gwangu!! Ndaga nu nsigo ugho akulekile. Mma utingatagha ilpoa lya kyala

abhandu bhamo bhikukarasya

 

[Hornet]

Kulea tu wala usijali...nafahamu haya mambo vizuri..mie ningekuwa wewe ningeamka na akili za saa nane usiku..mimba sitoi na mwanaume namuacha.. Kisha namwambia kabisa mimba nimetoa na ndo mwisho wetu..(kama hamuonani onani)...kisha nazaa nalea ...
Kufanya hivyo ili kuepuka usumbufu...maanina manake kuna mijianaume mingine kulea mimba haitaki mtoto akikua ndo anaanza nina mwanangu mahali fulani....aisee jikaze tu maisha wala siyo magumu kama ulivyojijengea akilini...

 

[Hornet]

Nimekupenda buree..

Usiitoe hiyo mimba mwenzio yalinikuta kama yako mwanzo niliwaza sana but now am happy to be a mother nilianza kuuza barafu na ice cream zikanibeba mpaka sasa na duka kubwa mwanangu namlea anamiaka 3 sasa baba mtu anahahaha hana hata mtoto hdi leo

 

[isha]

mrsleo anasema walidumu miaka 3...
unadhani dhana ya kukimbilia hapo ipo?

Sasa kuwa na mahusiano na mtu miaka mitatu ndo tiketi ya kumzalia mtoto? isitoshe msichana mwenyewe anaonekana bado mdogo kajiharibia maisha tu, bora angekuwa mdada mtu mzima mwenye maisha yake nisingeshangaa ningesema kashajikataa tamaa ameamua kuzaa tu

Seriously?!!! You are such a stereotype, dah!!! And what makes you think just because she's having a child while still in college is the end of her life?! Watu kama nyie ndo mnaowafanyaga watu wengine wajione like an outcast from the community. Mm mdogo wangu alibeba mimba when she was in her third year at the university, nakumbuka alikuwa stressed out sana akaanza kupata mawazo ya kucommit suicide coz she was ashamed of the pregnancy & didn't want to face people like you who would judge her, ilibidi nifanye kazi ya ziada kumcounsel and she finally found the will power to face the world, akarudi home, had her baby & after 3 months she went back to college,kamaliza chuo na sasa ana kazi yake nzuri tu na mtoto yupo kwa wazazi wetu analelewa.

 

[Kongosho]

Huyo mwanamme, kama ningekuwa mie, ningetimka asilani. Kama mwanamme anakubali kushiriki mapenzi bila kondomu, na hata kama alivaa kondomu ikapasuka, basi ajue anawajibika moja kwa moja. Asiyetaka mimba hafanyi mapenzi.

Na hii dhana ya kuwa mwanamke ndio ajikinge tu na mimba is for weak men, wanamme wa kweli wanawajibika na wao kuwakinga wenza wao wasipate ujauzito, inapotokea hutafuta suluhisho la pamoja. Hakuna mtoto abayezaliwa na jinsia moja, kwa hiyo hakuna jinsi ambavyo jinsia moja ione haiwajibiki au imechezewa trick, lame excuse.

Mwanamme anayeshindwa kuchukua wajibu wa mimba aliyoshiriki kuipata alizaliwa kimakosa, hiyo sperm ilipotea kabisa, bora ingeenda zalisha mhogo watu tukala kripsi tu, tena na pilipili ya unga.

Pamoja na kupendana kote, mambo ya kupata mtoto yanahitaji mjadiliane na mkubaliane. Inawezekana hisia zake ni kwamba unataka kutumia mimba kama kigezo cha kufanya ndoa haraka. Siku hizi ndoa nyingi bibi arusi ana tumbo la kesho au kesho kutwa kujifungua.

Sikushauri utoe mimba maana ulishaamua kuzaa. Awe anataka au hataki itabidi uendelee na ujauzito na kuangalia baadaye mambo yatakuwa vipi. Je kwa muda wote huo wa uhusiano, kuna ndugu zake wanakufahamu? Kama hamna hiyo siyo dalili njema na ulipaswa kusoma alama za nyakati.

 

[mimiMEE]

usitoe mimba, hakuna litakaalo kushinda.....maisha yanaendelea..muombe Mungu akupe wepesi ktk hilo..pole mwaya ila liwe fundisho usimuamini mwanaume kiasi hicho

 

[Ennie]

Men!!!!
Ni vizuri umejua aina ya mtu uliyekuwa nae na kumuamini ni mtu wa namna gani hasa,pole kwa sababu ungetamani kuyajua haya mapema.
Usithubutu kutoa hiyo mimba,lea mamy na uje ulee mwanao kwa mapenzi yote.
Wapo watoto wengi wanalelewa na mzazi mmoja kwa sababu zozote zile na wanakua tu,hata wako atakua.
Go and talk to your mama,hata akichukia mwanzoni hawezi kuchukia milele.
Good luck.

 

[Queen Kan]

Men!!!!
Ni vizuri umejua aina ya mtu uliyekuwa nae na kumuamini ni mtu wa namna gani hasa,pole kwa sababu ungetamani kuyajua haya mapema.
Usithubutu kutoa hiyo mimba,lea mamy na uje ulee mwanao kwa mapenzi yote.
Wapo watoto wengi wanalelewa na mzazi mmoja kwa sababu zozote zile na wanakua tu,hata wako atakua.
Go and talk to your mama,hata akichukia mwanzoni hawezi kuchukia milele.
Good luck.

asantee.....

 

[Kongosho]

Kwa nini kajiharibia maisha? Kivipi?

Kuna watu wanaolewa, wanazaa watoto hata watano, wnaachana vile vile, nao wamejiharibia maisha?

Bora huyu bado mdogo, ana muda wa kurekebisha makosa, mtoto sio 'salala'. Kuna wanawake wangapi wamesoma huku wameshazaa, tena wengine sekondari kabisaa. Hakuna jambo lisilo na suluhu, na maisha ni changamoto tu, Kikubwa ni kukubali kurekebbishika. Sio tena kesho arudi na mimba ya mwingine wakati kichanga hata bado hakijatambaa.

Sasa kuwa na mahusiano na mtu miaka mitatu ndo tiketi ya kumzalia mtoto? isitoshe msichana mwenyewe anaonekana bado mdogo kajiharibia maisha tu, bora angekuwa mdada mtu mzima mwenye maisha yake nisingeshangaa ningesema kashajikataa tamaa ameamua kuzaa tu

 

[mzabzab]

Seriously?!!! You are such a stereotype, dah!!! And what makes you think just because she's having a child while still in college is the end of her life?! Watu kama nyie ndo mnaowafanyaga watu wengine wajione like an outcast from the community. Mm mdogo wangu alibeba mimba when she was in her third year at the university, nakumbuka alikuwa stressed out sana akaanza kupata mawazo ya kucommit suicide coz she was ashamed of the pregnancy & didn't want to face people like you who would judge her, ilibidi nifanye kazi ya ziada kumcounsel and she finally found the will power to face the world, akarudi home, had her baby & after 3 months she went back to college,kamaliza chuo na sasa ana kazi yake nzuri tu na mtoto yupo kwa wazazi wetu analelewa.

hili ndio tatizo la jamii yetu...we dnt want to say the truth. kuzaa nje ya ndoa ni shameful thing and shuld be viewed that way. tumekuja ona kitu cha kawaida na ndio maana inaendelea kuwepo.

secondly huyo dada yako ni irresponsible....kuzaa azae yeye kulea walee grandparents....loh