Do you feel LOVED?

[AshaDii]

Thanks for useful post AD as usual! Itawasaidia sana wadada ambao wako kwenye searching for serious relationship.

Nimependa zaidi hapo kwenye kumwambia mtu I love you yeye anajibu thanks; inahu. Mimi ndo zangu nikimpigia hubby simu namwambia I love you kupima yuko na nani sikubali hata kidogo jibu la thank you na akinijibu hivyo ntarudia tena aisee.

........lol........ Yaaani NK wewe kweli i wish i could see you na hubby wako.... yaani naona unamjulia mwenyewe hakuna mwanamke anamuweza... Dah! Swali (if you don't mind) amewahi shindwa jibu?? What did you do??

 

[nyumba kubwa]

Si ruhusu jibu lingine kwa hiyo lazima nipate jibu nalotaka. Majibu ya "thanks" sijuhi "me too" kwangu marufuku. The purpose ni kumuumiza alonae pembeni (if any) na kuonyesha kuwa mimi kweli nyumba KUBWA. Maana najua kama kuna wa pembeni hawezi pata hiyo privilege ya kuambiwa I love you kwenye simu on my presence. Nyumba kubwa itabaki kuwa namba one forever! Ila hata yeye yuko makini na ninavyomjibu kwenye simu. Hapa suala si cheating tu ni kupima whether your partner still feel proud to show openely to friends and whoever is with him/her at the moment that he/she is into you.

........lol........ Yaaani NK wewe kweli i wish i could see you na hubby wako.... yaani naona unamjulia mwenyewe hakuna mwanamke anamuweza... Dah! Swali (if you don't mind) amewahi shindwa jibu?? What did you do??

 

[Sigma]

Nope......

 

[AshaDii]

Si ruhusu jibu lingine kwa hiyo lazima nipate jibu nalotaka. Majibu ya "thanks" sijuhi "me too" kwangu marufuku. The purpose ni kumuumiza alonae pembeni (if any) na kuonyesha kuwa mimi kweli nyumba KUBWA. Maana najua kama kuna wa pembeni hawezi pata hiyo privilege ya kuambiwa I love you kwenye simu on my presence. Nyumba kubwa itabaki kuwa namba one forever!

Dah! I love it nikikutana na mwanamke mwenzangu mwenye msimamo ulo simama kama wako... You know what is yours... una appreciate what is yours... and protect what is yours.... Nyumba KUBWA.... BRAVO!!! And keep up the Spirit.... I hope wadada/mama tutajifunza kitu from this post... Be blessed.

I wish ingekua easy kuweza arise such awareness kwa wanawake wengine ambao siku zoote huwa na papara saana katika mahusiano....

 

[AshaDii]

Nope......

Sigma... Please Open up... Tatizo nini??

 

[Chauro]

thanks Ashadii kwa post nzuri,lakini mara nyingi huwa tunajifunza baada ya kufanya makosa kwenye maisha yetu.

 

[AshaDii]

thanks Ashadii kwa post nzuri,lakini mara nyingi huwa tunajifunza baada ya kufanya makosa kwenye maisha yetu.

You are welcome... Kikubwa Chauro ni kujifunza tokana na makosa.... Sio wee kila siku unakanyagwa tu!! Haipendezi... You have to grow up at some point....

 

[Steve Dii]

I think sometimes kuwa loved too much kunakuwa kunaogopesha... especially kama watu bado hamjaoana!! Mi nadhani leaving a little gap ya "guess work" inaleta spontaneity katika mapenzi. Lakini kukiwepo completeness kunaweza kupelekeana kuchokana haraka... I don't know, am just thinking. Or may be, pale break up inapotokea, kuumia kunakuwa kukubwa zaidi. But if you leave some gaps in between, may be kwa watu kama siye ambao tuko a bit "random" na spontaneous kunatufanya tuzidi kusaka zaidi hiyo love from our spouses and lovers.

Ni mithiri ya kuchimba almasi kwa nguvu zako mwenyewe. Kila unapokutana na king'aacho, [cubic zirconia,{sekeni- Sukuma word}], (love indicators ), shauku linakupanda na kuongezeka kwa mori wa kuchimba zaidi. Pale unapokutana na hiyo almasi kweli, mtu weweeee, furaha iliyoje!! Unauza hiyo almasi na kutajirika (love satisfaction). Lakini kwa kujua mapato uliyopata na thawabu yake kwako, basi mtu unajichukulia surulu, jembe, na koleo lako na kurudi mgodini tena. Unaanza kutafuta iliyokubwa zaidi kwenye mgodi huo huo (your love)... This happens again and again and again, na ndipo hapo mtu unaamua kununua kitalu chako (kuoa) jumlajumla, knowing finding gemstones from the pit is common and its value is high!

Happy loving peeps!!

 

[Husninyo]

Umeongea ukweli mtupu ashadii, ila mi napendwa mpaka nahisi kero jamani. Lol!

 

[Vin Diesel]

Nitazutumia hizi hints kesho na kesho kutwa...Thanx Ashadii.

 

[AshaDii]

I think sometimes kuwa loved too much kunakuwa kunaogopesha... especially kama watu bado hamjaoana!! Mi nadhani leaving a little gap ya "guess work" inaleta spontaneity katika mapenzi. Lakini kukiwepo completeness kunaweza kupelekeana kuchokana haraka... I don't know, am just thinking. Or may be, pale break up inapotokea, kuumia kunakuwa kukubwa zaidi. But if you leave some gaps in between, may be kwa watu kama siye ambao tuko a bit "random" na spontaneous kunatufanya tuzidi kusaka zaidi hiyo love from our spouses and lovers.

Ni mithiri ya kuchimba almasi kwa nguvu zako mwenyewe. Kila unapokutana na king'aacho, [cubic zirconia,{sekeni- Sukuma word}], (love indicators ), shauku linakupanda na kuongezeka kwa mori wa kuchimba zaidi. Pale unapokutana na hiyo almasi kweli, mtu weweeee, furaha iliyoje!! Unauza hiyo almasi na kutajirika (love satisfaction). Lakini kwa kujua mapato uliyopata na thawabu yake kwako, basi mtu unajichukulia surulu, jembe, na koleo lako na kurudi mgodini tena. Unaanza kutafuta iliyokubwa zaidi kwenye mgodi huo huo (your love)... This happens again and again and again, na ndipo hapo mtu unaamua kununua kitalu chako (kuoa) jumlajumla, knowing finding gemstones from the pit is common and its value is high!

Happy loving peeps!!

Gosh!! This is deep… and intense… Thank you Steve Dii...

What you have said brings so much sense… But hata hivo Dii nimeshuhudia saana mapenzi ya Uongo siku hizi mpaka inasikitisha hata kwa observer peke yake… I am thinking if you love… Why not give your whole (hata kama hujui kua ndio the right person ama atakae kuja kukuoa/olewa nae&#8230 Should I be scared just because there is a chance of being hurt?? I think Not!

Thou nakubali kuhusiana na Gaps… thou kwangu hizo gaps I would interpret as not suffocating each other – i.e Privacy and space…. Kua sasa isiwe sasa kama an old married couple na nyie iwe kama sawa, chances of being married hapo nit a minimal… Nikirudi kwenye analogy ya kuchimba almasi… saa ingine unapokuta almasi haraka, it does not necessarily mean ukichimba more utakuta inayo faa zaidi… NDIO Yawezekana but waweza kuta hio Diamond ulopata inatakiwa tu usiwe na papara… ipe akili yako na attention yako kuikagua… Waweza kuta in all 4 Cs of a Diamond… as in Clarity… Color… Carat and Cut are narurally perfect!! Hata sonara hitaji tena… unaweza i-display exactly the way it is (thou kweli sio guarantee but at the end you will say I tried and move on looking for other diamonds&#8230

 

[AshaDii]

Umeongea ukweli mtupu ashadii, ila mi napendwa mpaka nahisi kero jamani. Lol!

Husny bana....lol... Hapo ndo hua unanichanganya na statement zako... Wee si uliniambia kua umekua sister (hili swali unakwepa saana kujibu)

Nitazutumia hizi hints kesho na kesho kutwa...Thanx Ashadii. l!

Sangara my dear brother.... tuko pamoja.... Asante pia....

 

[Husninyo]

Thanks for useful post AD as usual! Itawasaidia sana wadada ambao wako kwenye searching for serious relationship.<br />
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Nimependa zaidi hapo kwenye kumwambia mtu I love you yeye anajibu thanks; inahu. Mimi ndo zangu nikimpigia hubby simu namwambia I love you kupima yuko na nani sikubali hata kidogo jibu la thank you na akinijibu hivyo ntarudia tena aisee.

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hii ya kumpima mme/mpenzi kwa kumwambia i love you haitoi guarantee kwamba pembeni hayupo na mtu, ubaya ni kwamba siku hizi wa pembeni huwa wanajijua ni wa pembeni na huwa wapole mwenye mali akipiga simu.

 

[Husninyo]

Husny bana....lol... Hapo ndo hua unanichanganya na statement zako... Wee si uliniambia kua umekua sister (hili swali unakwepa saana kujibu)<br />
...

<br />
hahahahahaha!

Sister napendwa na padri. Lol!
Ila kupendwa sana ni kero.

 

[AshaDii]

<br />
hahahahahaha!

Sister napendwa na padri. Lol!
Ila kupendwa sana ni kero.

Hapo nimekupata... sikujua kua yule kijana ni Padri....lol... angalia madhara ya kupendwa saaana hasa kama mtu ana wivu....

• Jealousy&#8230;.

Wivu katika Mapenzi ni moja ya aspect muhimu&#8230; But hata hivo viwango vya wivu ni muhimu saana kua observed kati ya Wapenzi wahusika&#8230; Wivu wa kukithiri katika Mapenzi; from my observation katika jamii, husababisha madhara makubwa kama kufanya kitu wawza jutia&#8230; Kuua (Mpenzi ama mwizi wa mpenzi) na hata kujiua mhusika&#8230; Mbaya saaana hii&#8230;

However Wivu Mno ni mbaya&#8230; ila Wivu at minimal katika Mapenzi ni muhimu for hua kama chachu ya hao wapenzi.. Wivu ni moja ya njia ya kujua kua Mpenzi wako anakupenda ama lah! (Sina maana ufurahie mtu wako akiwa over possessive! No - Ila reasonably possessive).

 

[klorokwini]

Habari wana JF....

Naamini most of mliopo na wasiokuwepo hapa... your weekend ilikua ni nzuri na your Loved ones are well and good...

Katika mahusiano ya Mapenzi kila moja hu wish kua angeweza kuingia rohoni ama nafsi ya Mpenzi wake huyo ili kujua/kuona ni kiasi gani his/her whole being imetawala …..Bahati mbaya saana ama nzuri HAIWEZEKANI… However kuna matendo/dalili ambazo huweza kukupa hints za nafasi yako kwa huyo Mpenzi wako… Hivo baadhi ya matendo ya Mpenzi wako ndio relient kwa mhusika Kusikia if s/he is LOVED...

Tips za kutambua kua Mpenzi wako is not in to you….

• Mawasiliano..

Siku hizi njia za mawasilano ni nyingi saana aidha muwe karibu ama mbali mbali na Mpenzi wako… Hoever ni kwamba kila ukiwasiliana na Mpenzi wako… wee ndio unamuanza la sivyo yaweza pita days or weeks na hana habari… labda tu apige akiona mda umepita saaana – or else ni Kimya….

• Ushirikiano…

The only Ushirikiano S/he knows ni Sex… nje ya hapo ni kulazimishwa ama kwenda kujirusha…(na mara nyingi hii ni kutaka tu kuonana na wewe kwa rafiki zake ama vijiwe); Ukipata matatizo kama sickness, msiba ama tatizo lolote linalo hitaji uwepo wake…. Always yupo busy…

• Ndugu na Jamaa

Mna uhusiano ambao ni six months onwards but hajawahi kukutambulisha kwa ndugu yake yeyote Yule – kajitahidi saana ni friends wa hapa na pale; nao sababu tu mnakutana outings or vijiwe vyake…

• Sweet Haven…

Hajawahi hata siku moja kukukaribisha kwake na hali anaishi peke yake (au alikupeleka kupaona – or maybe just kuonesha level yake iko vipi) but hata siku moja hamjawahi spend faragha hapo na uhusiana una more than six months…. Zaidi it is your place or motel (hii hasa kwa guys…); Na uking’ang’ania saana huishia kununa but still in short hapendi wewe u-spend mda kwake…

• Jealousy….

Wivu katika Mapenzi ni moja ya aspect muhimu… But hata hivo viwango vya wivu ni muhimu saana kua observed kati ya Wapenzi wahusika… Wivu wa kukithiri katika Mapenzi; from my observation katika jamii, husababisha madhara makubwa kama kufanya kitu wawza jutia… Kuua (Mpenzi ama mwizi wa mpenzi) na hata kujiua mhusika… Mbaya saaana hii…

However Wivu Mno ni mbaya… ila Wivu at minimal katika Mapenzi ni muhimu for hua kama chachu ya hao wapenzi.. Wivu ni moja ya njia ya kujua kua Mpenzi wako anakupenda ama lah! (Sina maana ufurahie mtu wako akiwa over possessive! No - Ila reasonably possessive)

• Material Needs…

Kila akionana nawewe lazima akupige mzinga… (tena usipompa anakununia kama vile aliwekeza kwako…); Haishi ku demand nataka hiki mara kile… mara shida ya cash ya hiki ama kile… and the like… For the one who is in to you hata kama yupo dependent kwako – kuna nidhamu kidogo katika uombaji wake ; nayo pia hua once in a while…

• Name Calling…

Kuna names ambazo kweli sio heshima kabisa kumuita Mpenzi wako… let alone mbele yake.. Kama huyo mpenzi wako hakueshimu to the extent ya kuweza kuita names ambazo hazifai… then S/he is not into you… I hate the name ‘dame’ naamini Mpenzi akupendae hawezi sema hilo neon – for kama muelewa then hapo hapo ni kwamba anaharibu uhusiano delibatately…

• Public appearances…

Hataki kabisa wala hata siku moja kuonekana yupo pamoja na wewe…. Mkitembea kwa miguu mmoja mbele mmoja nyuma… au kutembea ndani ya gari tu toka mlipotoka mpaka muendapo… Daima hakuna watu huwaona pamoja.. labda kama wale baki ambao hawawezi wafahamu… On top of that kila mkionana ni gurantee s/he needs a shag… hakuna intimacy kati yenu zaidi ya sex…

• Saying “I Love you”

Ukimwambia I love you… anakujibu “Thank you” OR kutumia phrases za kijanja kama “I love the way you say you love you” na kuishia hapo na kukupotezea (the good thing ni kua at least s/he is frank…lol)

• Speacial Romantic Moment….

Hii ni Courtesy ya Mwanajamii1 (MJ1)… imeonekana wazi kua katika Mapenzi kuna SRMs hazihitaji gharama kubwa na sometimes yoyote ile… Hivo basi kama uko nae for long but hata hajawahi kukufanyia (create an environment) ya SRM.. then he is not it to you… kuhusu hili waweza pata zaidi katika hii LINK ya SRM Courtesy ya MJ1.


DISCLAIMER…..

Note that kuna watu wamejaliwa roho ya Imani… aweza baadhi ya mambo hapo juu kikamilifu kabisa kama inavotakiwa but still akawa not in to you…


Kumbuka kua naweza kua Wrong katika assumptions zangu... hivo basi naomba Comments zenu iwe ni opinion/masahihisho/addition ama lolote lile.... Karibuni.



Pamoja Saaana

AshaDii [ADI]

Atakaeichukia hii sredi basi atakuwa hana akili timamu.
Naomba niishie hapa maana leo siko katika mood ya kuchakachua sredi kabisa yaani.
Abarikiwe alomuowa Ashadii! aaamen!

 

[Shantel]

Ashadii, thread imetulia sana, mie kwa upande wangu huwa wakati mwingine nahisi maji kupwa na maji kujaa, yaani wakati mwingine najisikia napendwa saaana mpaka najiona im the luckiest woman living in this planet, na wakati mwingine najiona sipendwi, nakuwa mpweke, sometimes unawaza mpaka unalia mwenyewe, then baada ya muda unaona tena mahaba yamerudi, sijui hii nayo ni nini!....na hii hali hainifanyi nikate tamaa ya kukatisha mahusiano

 

[AshaDii]

Atakaeichukia hii sredi basi atakuwa hana akili timamu.
Naomba niishie hapa maana leo siko katika mood ya kuchakachua sredi kabisa yaani.
Abarikiwe alomuowa Ashadii! aaamen!

Jamani Klorokwini JF Lawyer.... Dah! Naona Asante haitoshi jinsi ulivonigusa.... But have to say hivo hivo ASANTE SAAANA....Na salamu hizo hapo chini kabisa nitafikisha..... Ila naomba nifanyie favour... na uniambie from a man's perspective walau kimoja ama mawili ambayo naweza ongeza hapo...

 

[Shantel]

I think sometimes kuwa loved too much kunakuwa kunaogopesha... especially kama watu bado hamjaoana!! Mi nadhani leaving a little gap ya "guess work" inaleta spontaneity katika mapenzi. Lakini kukiwepo completeness kunaweza kupelekeana kuchokana haraka... I don't know, am just thinking. Or may be, pale break up inapotokea, kuumia kunakuwa kukubwa zaidi. But if you leave some gaps in between, may be kwa watu kama siye ambao tuko a bit "random" na spontaneous kunatufanya tuzidi kusaka zaidi hiyo love from our spouses and lovers.

Ni mithiri ya kuchimba almasi kwa nguvu zako mwenyewe. Kila unapokutana na king'aacho, [cubic zirconia,{sekeni- Sukuma word}], (love indicators ), shauku linakupanda na kuongezeka kwa mori wa kuchimba zaidi. Pale unapokutana na hiyo almasi kweli, mtu weweeee, furaha iliyoje!! Unauza hiyo almasi na kutajirika (love satisfaction). Lakini kwa kujua mapato uliyopata na thawabu yake kwako, basi mtu unajichukulia surulu, jembe, na koleo lako na kurudi mgodini tena. Unaanza kutafuta iliyokubwa zaidi kwenye mgodi huo huo (your love)... This happens again and again and again, na ndipo hapo mtu unaamua kununua kitalu chako (kuoa) jumlajumla, knowing finding gemstones from the pit is common and its value is high!

Happy loving peeps!!

Steve dii nimependa mfano wako wa mgodi kwa sana

 

[nyumba kubwa]

Ni kweli kabisa Hus haina guarantee aim ni kukomeshea. Wewe unafikiri hao nyumba ndogo wana mioyo ya chuma hawaumii mabuzi yao yakiongea na simu na wake zao na kusema "I love you". Hapa nia ni kuumiza watu roho.

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<br />
hii ya kumpima mme/mpenzi kwa kumwambia i love you haitoi guarantee kwamba pembeni hayupo na mtu, ubaya ni kwamba siku hizi wa pembeni huwa wanajijua ni wa pembeni na huwa wapole mwenye mali akipiga simu.