Mlachake
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- Oct 13, 2009
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Unfortunate that I have to start off this way, but if you do not intend to take some time to reflect on what I will write then I will appreciate if you do not respond or pretend to respond to it. I'll not complain if you stopped reading at this very point. I appreciate that you value your time just as much as I will be hoping you appreciate mine.
1. Monogamy is a social construct that is dependent on time and culture. Different societies (and different religions) have practiced different social constructs over time. Africa for example largely practiced polgyny (marrying many wives) before colonialism heavily influenced a change to monogamy, while the chinese and Indians practiced polyandry (marrying many husbands) and some muslims still practice polygyny.
2. I am not going to argue that any is better than the other. Which in effect means I am not going to try and argue that monogamy is intrinsically bad. In fact I can't. Monogamy is good to those who can handle it. Crucial question here, don't answer me, just be honest to yourself as it will be crucial to point number 3. How many people are truly monogomous?
3. I prefer to think that monogamy is an unrealistic (stressing unrealistic and NOT bad) model for the vast majority of humans. If divorce rates and statistics of cheating couples not to mention a casual glance at life around you are anything to go by. It seems not to work for the majority of those who try it.
4. Are there other models that could be tried if monogamy is just not working for you? Yes.
5. Polyamory is the practice of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. I feel it is a model that could eliminate a lot of stress and make life feel more open ended and less like a trap.
6. Polyamory too has its faults. High up that list is STDs certainly, though they could be controlled largely. Pregnancy is avoidable. The model too may not be naturally conduitive to childbearing though that's not to say that two members of the said group could not agree to raise a child together but still belong to the group.
7. In keeping in check with point 2, I am going to conclude in an inclusive tone. Monogamy, polyamoury, neither is intrinsically good nor intrinsically bad. Both have their end consequences. Choose wisely.
1. Monogamy is a social construct that is dependent on time and culture. Different societies (and different religions) have practiced different social constructs over time. Africa for example largely practiced polgyny (marrying many wives) before colonialism heavily influenced a change to monogamy, while the chinese and Indians practiced polyandry (marrying many husbands) and some muslims still practice polygyny.
2. I am not going to argue that any is better than the other. Which in effect means I am not going to try and argue that monogamy is intrinsically bad. In fact I can't. Monogamy is good to those who can handle it. Crucial question here, don't answer me, just be honest to yourself as it will be crucial to point number 3. How many people are truly monogomous?
3. I prefer to think that monogamy is an unrealistic (stressing unrealistic and NOT bad) model for the vast majority of humans. If divorce rates and statistics of cheating couples not to mention a casual glance at life around you are anything to go by. It seems not to work for the majority of those who try it.
4. Are there other models that could be tried if monogamy is just not working for you? Yes.
5. Polyamory is the practice of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. I feel it is a model that could eliminate a lot of stress and make life feel more open ended and less like a trap.
6. Polyamory too has its faults. High up that list is STDs certainly, though they could be controlled largely. Pregnancy is avoidable. The model too may not be naturally conduitive to childbearing though that's not to say that two members of the said group could not agree to raise a child together but still belong to the group.
7. In keeping in check with point 2, I am going to conclude in an inclusive tone. Monogamy, polyamoury, neither is intrinsically good nor intrinsically bad. Both have their end consequences. Choose wisely.