RealMan
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- Nov 9, 2010
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Kuna mambo hatupaswi kuchoka kujifunza hata kama ni kwa kurudia.
Unajisikiaje mtu anapokushukuru?? Wana JF wanapokugongea senkis what feeling do you get?? Au wewe ni wale wanaojisikia kana kwamba they deserve it or it makes you even humble??
Basi tujifunze kusema Wabeja. Wakola. Gracias. Asante. Ulakoze. Usengwile. Danke. Merci. Thanks......... kwa wengine...
They are simple words with the power to bind, to build, and to behold. If youve ever gotten thanked or given thanks, then you know its power. Just the fact that you say it can be enough to make a difference, just as not saying it can make a difference in a negative way.Thank you isnt just something that comes with have a nice day as you grab your paper or plastic. Its a sincere sign that something nice has occurred. Its not just an acknowledgment that youve been positively affected by something but a chance to return positive emotions back to the giver.
How can we tap into this powerful force?
* Be timely. Timing is perhaps the most crucial element of thanking someone. Waiting too long or forgetting altogether makes people wonder if you got that gift, if they did a good job, or if you really care. No hard and fast rule for what is a reasonable time in which to thank someone can be given, so the sooner, the better is always a good rule of thumb.
* Be appropriate. Sometimes, just a simple thank you will suffice. Most times, though, a more formal card (handwritten) will mean more than any gift. Of course, there are times when physical tokens of appreciation fit the bill, but be careful about going overboard as that makes one look like hes either trying to be impressive or is buttering them up for next time. Also, that sets up expectations of bigger and better for the next time, which is hard to keep up and really not what thanks are all about.
* Be receptive. Some people crave public attention. An announcement during an award ceremony or a toast during a special event might be just the thing to feed the ego as well as the spirit. For the shy crowd, that card and token are better. Giving thanks in the way that a person enjoys means that we care even more about him/her.
* Be personal. A thank you is even more powerful if some thought went into it. A book on a hobby s/he loves, a picture of his favorite place, or anything that is uniquely him/her says a lot.
* Be sincere. All the other elements are a part of our sincerity, but only a part. Theres a knowingness that comes with a heartfelt thank you. Sometimes, its obvious; other times, its just a gut feeling, but something just rings true to the receiver. Thats when thanks really hit home.
* Expect nothing in return. For a thank you to go deep into the soul of another it must be cast out without expectations, without conditions, without any strings attached whatsoever. Some people have gotten out of sorts because their thank you wasnt thanked. Theyre missing the point: its all about the giving.
Asanteni wanaJF, Mods na wanaopita kusoma tu; Ukweli ni kwamba nimejifunza mengi hapa na sijuti kuwafahamu (JF).
Unajisikiaje mtu anapokushukuru?? Wana JF wanapokugongea senkis what feeling do you get?? Au wewe ni wale wanaojisikia kana kwamba they deserve it or it makes you even humble??
Basi tujifunze kusema Wabeja. Wakola. Gracias. Asante. Ulakoze. Usengwile. Danke. Merci. Thanks......... kwa wengine...
They are simple words with the power to bind, to build, and to behold. If youve ever gotten thanked or given thanks, then you know its power. Just the fact that you say it can be enough to make a difference, just as not saying it can make a difference in a negative way.Thank you isnt just something that comes with have a nice day as you grab your paper or plastic. Its a sincere sign that something nice has occurred. Its not just an acknowledgment that youve been positively affected by something but a chance to return positive emotions back to the giver.
How can we tap into this powerful force?
* Be timely. Timing is perhaps the most crucial element of thanking someone. Waiting too long or forgetting altogether makes people wonder if you got that gift, if they did a good job, or if you really care. No hard and fast rule for what is a reasonable time in which to thank someone can be given, so the sooner, the better is always a good rule of thumb.
* Be appropriate. Sometimes, just a simple thank you will suffice. Most times, though, a more formal card (handwritten) will mean more than any gift. Of course, there are times when physical tokens of appreciation fit the bill, but be careful about going overboard as that makes one look like hes either trying to be impressive or is buttering them up for next time. Also, that sets up expectations of bigger and better for the next time, which is hard to keep up and really not what thanks are all about.
* Be receptive. Some people crave public attention. An announcement during an award ceremony or a toast during a special event might be just the thing to feed the ego as well as the spirit. For the shy crowd, that card and token are better. Giving thanks in the way that a person enjoys means that we care even more about him/her.
* Be personal. A thank you is even more powerful if some thought went into it. A book on a hobby s/he loves, a picture of his favorite place, or anything that is uniquely him/her says a lot.
* Be sincere. All the other elements are a part of our sincerity, but only a part. Theres a knowingness that comes with a heartfelt thank you. Sometimes, its obvious; other times, its just a gut feeling, but something just rings true to the receiver. Thats when thanks really hit home.
* Expect nothing in return. For a thank you to go deep into the soul of another it must be cast out without expectations, without conditions, without any strings attached whatsoever. Some people have gotten out of sorts because their thank you wasnt thanked. Theyre missing the point: its all about the giving.
Asanteni wanaJF, Mods na wanaopita kusoma tu; Ukweli ni kwamba nimejifunza mengi hapa na sijuti kuwafahamu (JF).
