...he is not romantic to me and he has become less active in sex than the first months just after we got married. When i ask him, he says that he is tired coz of work. Other thing is that he is not open to me about his whereabouts. I love the man but he is not giving me the same love. What should I do, please advice.
Hukuchunguza sana, labda ndio maana mwenzako alieachika alikuwa anapiga misele nje.
Demu ndo aliyemtosa tena kwa maandishi.
Sawa! Inawezekana kuna ujumbe wa africanus hujaupata vizuri. I expected you would say more.
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...jitahidi kuwa mbunifu kwenye 'udugu wenu wa shuka' na kuongeza 'kalufundi' kwenye mambo ya unyumba kwa ujumla, hatotoka tena nyumbani bila sababu za msingi...!
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I think u should ignore him for a while for 2 days. Dont talk to him for two days. If he wants to talk then tell him to listen to u first because u've always wanted his attention to give him wats bothering u. Alaf u didnt say anafanya kazi gani.
There are kinds of work zinawapa watu mawazo all the time. His first wife was moving out with a person who was listening and caring.
Before doing the same try to to capture his attentiveness.
He should care about you like he cares about his damn work. Unless his work is too important such that no man alive can do it.
what do you want to here more, ask me and will tell you. And please be direct to the point while giving out suggestions maana I need to understand also and take action of your views.
Ndungu asante, maufundi yote nimefanya, kula koni nimekula kwa sana since the beginning, after the graph started going down. He told me "it is not very important to him", chachandu nimeweka! Khaah! what else should I do? may be tell me now the kalufundi of yours. Alianza kadalili kakunyemelea mgongo. Nikamwambia kama anataka bibi yake afufuke kaburini asubutu kujaribu rudia tena! and he apologised it was then over.
Ndungu asante, maufundi yote nimefanya, kula koni nimekula kwa sana since the beginning, after the graph started going down. He told me "it is not very important to him", chachandu nimeweka! Khaah! what else should I do? may be tell me now the kalufundi of yours. Alianza kadalili kakunyemelea mgongo. Nikamwambia kama anataka bibi yake afufuke kaburini asubutu kujaribu rudia tena! and he apologised it was then over.
Ndungu asante, maufundi yote nimefanya, kula koni nimekula kwa sana since the beginning, after the graph started going down. He told me "it is not very important to him", chachandu nimeweka! Khaah! what else should I do? may be tell me now the kalufundi of yours. Alianza kadalili kakunyemelea mgongo. Nikamwambia kama anataka bibi yake afufuke kaburini asubutu kujaribu rudia tena! and he apologised it was then over.
Ikiwa umewahi kuwa na mwanaume au wanaume wengine, how does your hubby differ from them sexually? Have you noticed anything abnormal? Anything, however small.
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Hiyo post ya kunyemelea mgongo imenifanya nicheke kwa nguvu mpaka nikapaliwa...
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Jaribu kutingisha kiberiti! Kwa nini usi-play game la kujifanya kama vile unatembea na mtu mwingine? Chelewa kurudi nyumbani.....jifanye kama unapokea/piga simu mida mikali. Tingishatingisha tu kiberiti....pengine inaweza kusaidia kumwamsha usingizini.
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Mimi ni mwanamke niliyeolewa na nina mda wa miezi nane sasa katika ndoa. Huyu bwana tuliyeona kwa kweli niliunganishiwa na ndugu yangu ambaye alikuwa rafiki yake hapo zamani. So it means I dont know his behaviours in real. He is also a divorced man with two children but the children leave with there mother.
What I want a help is that i dont know if he really love me or he also just wanted to have a wife and that`s it. Am saying this because he is not romantic to me and he has become less active in sex than the first months just after we got married. When i ask him, he says that he is tired coz of work. Other thing is that he is not open to me about his whereabouts. I love the man but he is not giving me the same love. What should I do, please advice.
The man was a my uncle, I knew everything and accepted the whole situation. Because i also did an investigation me and my family before marriage to see what really happened for that divorce! We came to realise that the woman had some problems (she was moving out with other man!).
Ni muda gani toka mlipo fahamiana mpaka mlipo oana?Kwa kweli ni mda kama five months but in email and phone only.
And may be to have some advice also in these; Before marriage he told me he has a share in a company with his friend when i came in I discovered it was all lies(kamba). He promised so many things but he has never full filled (Going out for dinner, cinema, doing me my birthday etc) any of them. When I ask him he is like "will go". So am just patiently waiting for the day! During any conversation with me anakuwa amenuna kweli but he receive a call from his friends he smiles alot. Therefore I discovered it is like am holding him home while he was like to be somewhere with his friends. May I have some ideas in this too.
Hukuchunguza sana, labda ndio maana mwenzako alieachika alikuwa anapiga misele nje.
...jitahidi kuwa mbunifu kwenye 'udugu wenu wa shuka' na kuongeza 'kalufundi' kwenye mambo ya unyumba kwa ujumla, hatotoka tena nyumbani bila sababu za msingi...!Ndungu asante, maufundi yote nimefanya, kula koni nimekula kwa sana since the beginning, after the graph started going down. He told me "it is not very important to him", chachandu nimeweka! Khaah! what else should I do? may be tell me now the kalufundi of yours. Alianza kadalili kakunyemelea mgongo. Nikamwambia kama anataka bibi yake afufuke kaburini asubutu kujaribu rudia tena! and he apologised it was then over.
Ikiwa umewahi kuwa na mwanaume au wanaume wengine, how does your hubby differ from them sexually? Have you noticed anything abnormal? Anything, however small.
For sure I can say he differs in a big percentage. I have never met such a difficult man.
Ok tomoro will be a birthday of one of his Mens friend. He has decided to take one day off from his leave day! Can u imagine how other outhouse things can make him happy! So, I wanted to damp him and let him go alone. What do you advice me felas.
Vyote hivyo QM nimefanya kabla ya kuja humu ukumbini. Simu nilishajifanyisha tena nilimwambia dadangu ambaye naye yuko huku overseas anipigie, sema nilienda kujifungia chumbani ndo nikaongelea huko ilikuwa mida ya 12jioni, usiku ndo sijawahi kufanya hivyo. Kurudi nimechelewa nimeshafanya mara mbili.... but he does not question anything, he is just quiet. Pengine nipe mbinu mbadala.
Asante kwa mchango wako.
Ok tomoro will be a birthday of one of his Mens friend. He has decided to take one day off from his leave day! Can u imagine how other outhouse things can make him happy! So, I wanted to damp him and let him go alone. What do you advice me felas.