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Is it true that the institution of marriage is fast on its way out?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by BAK, Jan 24, 2009.

  1. BAK

    BAK JF-Expert Member

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    The joys of marriage Or the lack of it?
    Lusekelo Adam
    Daily News; Saturday,January 24, 2009 @21:15​

    I hear a survey in Bongo has shown that those young fellows who have been showing plenty of teeth in our Sunday papers and ‘celebrating’ marriage are having second thoughts about the joys of marriage. They don’t like it one bit.

    A whopping 93 per cent of 200 women who were asked if they enjoyed the joys of marriage said, no way. They would rather get a divorce, but they feared for their kids. The guys they agreed to get hitched to are a disaster. There are lots of regrets: ‘If I only knew….’

    Marriage is fast becoming an anachronism. Many are increasingly saying that the institution belongs to the past and you don’t need it. Of course those religious types will be looking daggers at me and my likes. But I can fight my corner.

    In the days when my old guy met the old girl, all he had to do a fact was organize a posse of like minded young crooks and wait by the water well. When a girl of their fancy came along, they would grab her and flee with her.

    Then tomorrow the culprit in the posse would go to the girl’s family, waving a white flag and confess to have ‘stolen’ the girl. I am sure her father might have given the nod to the future son-in-law to go ahead. He was fined a few cows and ordered to give other offerings – a thing which he paid respectfully, and that was it. They were then declared man and wife.

    Come the 21st century and there is a global village at work. The world has become so small. You don’t have to organize a posse to go after some chick by the water well. All you have to do is go to a disco. In fact both sexes organize inter-sexual posses – they call them discos. That is a more agreeable way of the boy-meets-girl show.

    Then they go for each other like horny rabbits. Which all of which most of us went through. The unlucky ones even get married. The lucky one escape. You don’t believe that? Find a chick you thought you would marry ten years ago. You will thank the spirit of your forefathers, didn’t.

    Now before couple marry the boy and girl look very nice when they open their parent’s fridge for a chicken and tomato sandwich and a beer. No questions asked (the Papa-this and Mama-that types). But when they get married they find they have to pay for that chicken and tomato sandwich from their own pockets.

    Trouble is there is no pocket to be had – unless, of course, if your parents are in that bunch of fisadis made with a lot of stealing from the EPA scandals. You realize that money can be very romantic. The girl first realizes the guys sexy even if he looks like he has just been living in the Congo Tropical forest. And if he is also very free and eager to connect his fists with her lovely face, she still finds him sexy because he has the dosh.

    So she thinks he will change with time though the Neanderthal behaviour in men is very difficult to change. The guy does not realize that he has just married an Amazon, who can head-butt like some an angry goat when provoked. And when they are busy manhandling each other, junior is wailing for ‘nyo-nyo’. You get a terrible sense of disillusionment with the institution of marriage. You want out!

    Or you live in a state of armed truce – separate bedrooms, no talking to each other, unless you have guests. You seek comfort and affection from any creature which looks like a man or woman. But, not to worry too much. Women are increasingly earning an income and do not need to live and tolerate obnoxious men. They can have babies whose fathers they don’t know.

    Men can hire a womb. Just get the seed and you can rent a womb, for a small fee. You get your baby without working up a sweat! It also unshackles women from the notion of being ‘looked after’ by men. Since women can earn their own money, they can get a couple of gigolos for manly attention. Who wants to be lumbered by a snoring gorilla reeking of beer in bed? And which man wants to be shouted dizzy by an Amazon who talks like she has swallowed 120 minute digital CD? The institution of marriage is fast on its way out!
  2. WomanOfSubstance

    WomanOfSubstance JF-Expert Member

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    Wither the institution of marriage?
  3. WomanOfSubstance

    WomanOfSubstance JF-Expert Member

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    its a sad, biter reality ..??
    Why is it that when people just cohabit with no ties, things work out so well..Once they tie the knot..its no longer calm?
  4. Visenti

    Visenti JF-Expert Member

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    There is no way a man and wife can love each other for their entire life, that's too theoretical!
  5. Nkamangi

    Nkamangi JF-Expert Member

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    I love Lusekelos style of writting! Marriage has surely become a scary institution...speaking from afar.
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    PauliMasao JF-Expert Member

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    21st Century ....Materialstic Mariages. Zikiisha na ndoa imekwisha!
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    PauliMasao JF-Expert Member

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    Materialistic Marriages. Zikiisha na ndoa imekwisha!
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    Mama JF-Expert Member

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    Kama hakuna chemistry between the two, hiyo ndoa lazima iporomoke at some time. Je wangapi huwa tunaangalia kama kuna chemistry kati yetu na our significant other? Kama sivyo ni vitu gani vya kuangalia kabla ya kuingia ndoani?
  9. Suki

    Suki JF-Expert Member

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    Raised pretty feasible arguments there.

    ....Happens when more people realize the fact that love only exists in Disneyland.The rest,negative externalities of ''getting together'' too much for so long.The only survivors,imbrolgioproof.

    Still can't get over Lusekelo's writing...makes me sick to my stomach!
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    Tikerra JF-Expert Member

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    There are deliberate efforts to destroy the family unit, so these results are nor surprising .What is surprising though,is that even members of the JF family are swimming in the same boat.Wake up people,there is a hostile attack against the family and against the institution of marriage.

  11. Kamakabuzi

    Kamakabuzi JF-Expert Member

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    let me put my comment in Kiswahili so that many people can understand.
    Huko ulaya ilikoanzia kampeni ya kufifisha ndoa wengi sasa wanarudi kwenye ndoa halisi ambayo ssisi tunaanza kififisha. Nilikutana na mama mmoja wa Kijerumani ambaye alinieleza kuwa haya mambo ya kufifisha ndoa za asili (the instution of marriage) yamewafikisha pabaya. Watoto wanakuwa na tabia za ajabu kwani malezi ya kifamilia hayapo.Turudi hapa Tz, survey mbalimabli zimeonyesha kuwa watoto wengi wa mitaani ni matokeo ya ndoa zilizovunjika au/na single parenthood (watoto waliolelewa na mzazi mmoja). Ni wazi basi kufifisha ndoa halisi kutaleta watoto wengi wa mitaani. Huko Ulaya, si watoto wa mitaani tu bali watoto walio na tabia za ajabu za kutothamini binadamu mwenzake.
    Kuna mtu Paulimassao amesema Materialistic Marriages. Zikiisha na ndoa imekwisha!
    Reply With Quote. Na watoto wamefikia hapo. Kama mzazi huna mali basi mtoto anakukataa na anaenda kulelewa na mwenye mali ati ndiye baba yake. Ulaya yametokea,lakini ukweli wa kinasaba unabaki palepale kuwa baba halisi ni nani.
    Lusekelo anatupeleka katika ajenda nyingine ya ndoa zisizo za kawaida "You seek comfort and affection from any creature which looks like a man or woman." Huu ndio utamaduni wa watu wanaofifisha ndoa. Kwao wao sababu ya kuoana ni kustareheshana tu. Kwa hiyo kama waweza kupata starehe (ngono) kutoka kitu chochote kile basi imetosha! Hivyo mwanamme kwa mwanamme sawa, mwanamke kwa mwanamke sawa, kwa mbuzi sawa, kwa nyani sawa, kwa nguruwe sawa; na baadae hata kwa mama/au baba yako sawa. Hakika huu ni uchafu ambao mwana JF makini hapaswi kuuunga mkono bila kutafakari kwa kina. Ni utamaduni wa kifo. Lusekelo anasema "Men can hire a womb. Just get the seed and you can rent a womb, for a small fee." na kwa wanawake "They can have babies whose fathers they don't know." Hivi siku mtoto huyo akija juu akitaka kujua baba yake ni nani, unafikri patakalika. Kuna wakati unafikia mtoto ana hamu ya kumuona baba yake hata kama unampa starehe na hela kiasi gani, maana vyote hivyo havilingani na baba - Usiombe maana utapigwa na mtoto wako mwenyewe.

    In short, in europe, where these habits started and encouraged, they are revolving backwards to the original instution of marriage. TUSIWAPOTEZE WATANZANIA.
    Next time I get time I will add a comment on the scientific evolution of man muone namna kufifisha ndoa kutakavyoangamiza kizazi hiki.