A TOUCH STORY ON MARRIAGE......What do we have to learn?

[The Finest]

wow!!!!!!! The Finest, This is the best story ever, you won't believe how much it touches me, I'm glad that I come accros and read it, Marriages with full of challenges.The moment you remember to please your wife and found her dead that is very very sad brother.

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[The Finest]

wow!!!!!!! The Finest, This is the best story ever, you won't believe how much it touches me, I'm glad that I come accros and read it, Marriages with full of challenges.The moment you remember to please your wife and found her dead that is very very sad brother.

I am glad you read it.

 

[Loveness]

so sad ila inafundisha, Thanx kwa hii post

 

[The Finest]

so sad ila inafundisha, Thanx kwa hii post

You are warmly welcomed

 

[Kiresua]

real touching lesson!!

 

[Saas]

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to
make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband.... The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up and for those of us not married, we can learn the art of sticking together with your relationship partner despite the odds. You are both stronger than the odds only when you agree.

A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined
together, let not man separate.

Baada ya kusoma hii story nimejikuta nafikiria vitu vingi sana, what a sad story if only watu wasingekuwa wanachezea ndoa zao

 

[Mr Rocky]

Sijaweza kuimaliza kuisoma but so painful
Sijui kama wako watu wanathamini ndoa zao the way walivyoapa siku wanafunga ndoa

Thanx Mkuu

 

[Yasmin]

What a touching and sad love story.

 

[unejoune]

very touching,
very sensitive
very nice
very beautiful
very emotional
very romantic
very sad
and thank you a lot for bring this up
hopeful most of JF member they will have time to read it.... thanx again

and practice it as well. Ok, it is a replica for i happened to read it two or three years back. All in all, it is fantastinc and very touching. Thank you.

 

[The Finest]

Sijaweza kuimaliza kuisoma but so painful
Sijui kama wako watu wanathamini ndoa zao the way walivyoapa siku wanafunga ndoa

Thanx Mkuu

Yah!!! Mkuu we need to go back to the basics

 

[Mr Rocky]

Yah!!! Mkuu we need to go back to the basics

Mkuu sijui ila nadhani watu wanasahau nini maana ya ndoa na ni kwa nini may be mtu anaoa au anaolewa
Na je kile kiapo unachoapa kuwa nitaishi na huyu mtu for good and worse in happiness and sorrow wana maana gani
Watu wanayachukulia yale maneno kama ni story na hayana uzito wowote na kwa kuwa wanakuwa wanasubiri kwa hamu kuingia ukumbini kuwaonyesha ndugu na jamaa kuwa sasa nimehalalishiwa kupata kile ninachotaka for free hapo wanaona wale waapishaji wanawazingua na kuwapotezea muda
Taasisi ya ndoa imepotez amaana na ndo maana divorse ziko nyingi na cheating pia na walio kwenye ndoa wako desparate kutoka na walio nje wanaogopa sana kuingia kwa wanayoyaona
Maana kulala na mke wa mtu au mume wa mtu is not a big deal so mtu anaona duh niingie humo halafu mke wangu afanyiwe haya bora niendelee kuwa bachelor mzoefu ......................................Kama TF

 

[The Finest]

Mkuu sijui ila nadhani watu wanasahau nini maana ya ndoa na ni kwa nini may be mtu anaoa au anaolewa
Na je kile kiapo unachoapa kuwa nitaishi na huyu mtu for good and worse in happiness and sorrow wana maana gani
Watu wanayachukulia yale maneno kama ni story na hayana uzito wowote na kwa kuwa wanakuwa wanasubiri kwa hamu kuingia ukumbini kuwaonyesha ndugu na jamaa kuwa sasa nimehalalishiwa kupata kile ninachotaka for free hapo wanaona wale waapishaji wanawazingua na kuwapotezea muda
Taasisi ya ndoa imepotez amaana na ndo maana divorse ziko nyingi na cheating pia na walio kwenye ndoa wako desparate kutoka na walio nje wanaogopa sana kuingia kwa wanayoyaona
Maana kulala na mke wa mtu au mume wa mtu is not a big deal so mtu anaona duh niingie humo halafu mke wangu afanyiwe haya bora niendelee kuwa bachelor mzoefu ......................................Kama TF

Siku hizi imekuwa kawaida wala watu hawaoni kama ni kitu cha ajabu, wengine mpaka wanajisifia unategemea nini???

 

[Mr Rocky]

Siku hizi imekuwa kawaida wala watu hawaoni kama ni kitu cha ajabu, wengine mpaka wanajisifia unategemea nini???

Yeah na imekuwa so easy kumpata mke wa mtu au mume wa mtu na kulala nae
Sio kutamba na watu wanawatafuta sana wake za watu au waume wa watu maana wanajisifia wale walio kwenye ndoa hata akiwa na wewe atatulia
Ni kushindwa au kutotimiza kile kiapo cha ndoa na masuala ya muhimu katika ndoa kunakowafanya watu watoke nje ya ndoa zao
Na hapo ni kuwa ndoa za wengi zina mapungufu ambayo wanashindwa kuyamaliza wenyewe kwa wenyewe wanaona ni bora kutoka nje ya ndoa jambo ambalo sio la maana

 

[The Finest]

Yeah na imekuwa so easy kumpata mke wa mtu au mume wa mtu na kulala nae
Sio kutamba na watu wanawatafuta sana wake za watu au waume wa watu maana wanajisifia wale walio kwenye ndoa hata akiwa na wewe atatulia
Ni kushindwa au kutotimiza kile kiapo cha ndoa na masuala ya muhimu katika ndoa kunakowafanya watu watoke nje ya ndoa zao
Na hapo ni kuwa ndoa za wengi zina mapungufu ambayo wanashindwa kuyamaliza wenyewe kwa wenyewe wanaona ni bora kutoka nje ya ndoa jambo ambalo sio la maana

I hope everyone play his role to make a marriage institution a better place sababu ni jambo ambalo limebarikiwa na Mungu

 

[Mr Rocky]

I hope everyone play his role to make a marriage institution a better place sababu ni jambo ambalo limebarikiwa na Mungu

Mkuu kama umeoa na kila siku unaona wasichana na wanawake wanapita barabarani na bado unawatamani na kutaka kuwavua chupi bado ndoa yako ina matatizo na huwezi kusema kuwa unaplay your role in marriage
Kama unarudi nyumbani na mke au mume hapati haki yake na hakuna heshima ndani ya nyumba kila siku ni ugomvi baina ya wanandoa huwezi ukazuia mmoja katika ndoa hiyo kutoka nje
Nina maana kuwa ndoa ibakie kuwa ndoa kila mmoja atimize wajibu wake katika kuhakikisha kuwa anatimiza lengo lililokusudiwa ambalo ni kuwa na familia bora ambayo kila mmoja anaheshimu matakwa ya mwenzake
kama ni mke atimize wajibu wake ambao utamfanya mwanaume wake kule aliko atamani muda wowote kurudi nyumbani kuungana na familia yake
Na kama ni mwanaume atimize wajibu wake ambao utamfanya mwanamke awe na tamaa au hamu ya kumuona mume wake mudda wote au akirudi nyumbani kuungana na familia yake
Naamini kila mmoja akitimiza wajibu wake kila mmoja hatakuwa na tamaa ya kukaa baa na kuangalia wauza bar wakoje au atamani kutoka nao au wanawake anaofanya nao kazi

 

[Asprin]

Hii stori niliisoma wakati nikiwa form six. Nilijiapiza sitakaa nimtendee mke wangu ubaya. Sijawahi kumtendea, na naomba Mungu anijalie nisije kumtendea.

 

[Mr Rocky]

Hii stori niliisoma wakati nikiwa form six. Nilijiapiza sitakaa nimtendee mke wangu ubaya. Sijawahi kumtendea, na naomba Mungu anijalie nisije kumtendea.

babu kama umeweza kufanya hayo hongera sana
Ila huyu kijana aliyeleta story hebu mshauri shauri labda anaweza sikia ushauri wa Babu yake akafanya mambo

 

[The Finest]

Hii stori niliisoma wakati nikiwa form six. Nilijiapiza sitakaa nimtendee mke wangu ubaya. Sijawahi kumtendea, na naomba Mungu anijalie nisije kumtendea.

Asante sana babu nafikiri vijana wataiga mfano kutoka kwako

 

[The Finest]

babu kama umeweza kufanya hayo hongera sana
Ila huyu kijana aliyeleta story hebu mshauri shauri labda anaweza sikia ushauri wa Babu yake akafanya mambo

Lol!!! Nilijua hauwezi kuniacha hivi hivi tu

 

[Mr Rocky]

Lol!!! Nilijua hauwezi kuniacha hivi hivi tu

Lol wewe kila siku masuala ya ndoa tuu wakati wewe ni bachelor mzoefu na hutaki kuoa
tangaza ufalme na then uongelee haya au ndo unatafuta uzoefu wa kuingia humu