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20 things about marriage a man
should take note of
Of course there is no right or wrong
way to make your marriage work but
here are some worthy mentions from
the guys that women need to know.
Don't worry men, your turn is next.
We will follow soon with your list.
Don't broadcast your life :
Broadcasting your personal life
and marriage problems on radio
or other forms of broadcast media
is not okay. Your husband is
minding his own business
listening to the radio, and
suddenly he can hear you airing
the dirty laundry for the whole of
SA to hear.
Be patient with your husband :
Patience acts as a lubricant
between you and your mate when
there's friction caused by
misunderstanding one another.
Seek an expert, not a friend :
Women tend to share more than
they should, to their friends. By
asking your friends for advice,
you're actually badmouthing you
man within your circles. Rather
seek expert advice if you think you
need intervention. If your friends'
lives are perfect, then by all
means, go ask them.
Stay away from social media :
Publishing your kinky pictures
with hubby on Facebook or any
other social platform is a no no!
Keep your shenanigans to
yourself. Think before you post!
Also never allow your social
network to know more about you
than your spouse does.
Modern Family : Don’t belittle your
man in front of your family. If you
have issues with him, talk about it
when family members are not
present. If you cannot respect
your man, how do you expect your
family to respect him
Mo' money, mo' problems :
Money does not dictate power.
You may earn more than your
man but that does not mean you
are more powerful than him. Do
not remind him at every chance
you get about how you bring
home the bacon. You will make
him feel worthless. Ask him to
contribute in other ways that will
strengthen the relationship and
the family, and remind him of how
you appreciate his contribution.
Agree to disagree : Women like to
have their way most of the time,
but in marriage, compromise is
important to keep a happy home.
If it's not that important, let it go.
It's okay if you do not have your
way. It does mean that you are
weak.
Tongue-lock : Your tongue can
either bless you or bomb your
marriage. Use it wisely! How you
speak to your mate is a big deal.
Your spouse needs your love, not
your sarcasm, criticism and snide
remarks. Wounding your mate's
emotions, then acting like nothing
happened, will erode your
marriage.
Respect goes a long way: Even the
Bible puts it in simple words.
"Women respect your husband". It
is very important to respect your
man for who he is. Don’t try to
change him to suit your lifestyle.
Competition alert: Don’t compete
with other couples. Yes, they may
have a bigger house, they go on
holidays more often, they spoil
each other with expensive gifts
etc. How they make their
marriage work isn’t going to be
the same method for you. Look at
your marriage and appreciate
what you have. Others may be
jealous of the precious little you
have with your partner that makes
YOU really happy.
Kick paranoia out the door: Don’t
focus on paranoid moments and
negative things. Don't focus on
"Oh my goodness he doesn't love
me", "oh my goodness he doesn't
care", "oh my goodness he is
cheating" etc. If you like letting
the voices in your head to do the
talking, rather brief the voices
these three questions for repeat
play. Ask these basic questions;
What did I say to make his day?
What did I do for him? Did I make
him feel loved? Did I say 'thank
you'.
Package deal : Bringing your
family over to live with your
husband must be a decision you
both feel comfortable with. Don't
just allow your family to come live
in your house for months and
expect that your man be okay with
it. If you do, then you should just
the same expect him to invite his
family to live with you.
It's not Hollywood : Marriage is
not like in the movies or soapies.
Your man is not sleeping around
every week so don't watch
soapies and compare those
scenes to your real life. Alot of it is
just exaggeration. He is also not
Superman, nor is he the Hulk.
Ditch the Cinderella ballgown : It's
okay to hang out with your
girlfriends, but every weekend..?!
Girl, ditch the party girl syndrome
or tone it down. If you like
partying, party with your man.
Don’t use him as a tool : He is not
just your baby daddy, handy man
or atm machine. He is your
partner. Don't just use him like a
tool. Share your life with him and
keep the old flames burning. Don’t
kill the excitement that was there
before marriage.
It’s not all about you: It’s not
about who likes or hates you. If
you don’t get along with his
family, do not prevent him from
spending time with them. You are
a part of that family so get over
yourself and stop being selfish.
Let the man visit his family - and
he would love if you join him.
Break in transmission:
Miscommunication is a marriage
wrecker. Keep talking with your
mate until you both are clear on
what the other is saying. Never
leave things hanging in the air.
But please, don't nag. Men hate
nagging. Sit and talk about it or
send him an email.
Let the grudge go : Women tend to
hold grudges against their mate
when they have done wrong.
Learn to forgive. If you cannot live
with the hurt, then don't live with
him and keep reminding him of
his mistake. Either leave him or
leave the past behind.
Flirting is dangerous: Stop the
flirting with other people. Instead
flirt with your partner.
Marriage is a special relationship
between two people with the
same intentions. If you want to
marry, find the right partner. If you
pretend to be someone you're not,
you will attract the wrong person.
Be true to yourself and marry for
the right reason.

This is nice and helpful.thank you loads,though am not on the marriage zone.but still useful

sonnita said:

This is nice and helpful.thank you loads,though am not on the marriage zone.but still useful

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