SAY NO TO A RELATIONSHIP WITH TOXIC FEATURES!
Singles, be sensitive about relationships with toxic features. It is not healthy to consider such for marital decision.
It has harmful potentials and is dangerous for you now and even in the future. Life can be lost in the process, dreams could be aborted and hopes could be dashed if you are indifferent about it. It is not a relationship you ever wish anyone not to talk of your precious life.
Some of the features may include but not be limited to the following:
(1) He or she does not fear God and does not fear anybody or any authority. Righteousness is an alien to the person, no salvation experience and life is full of sinfulness without any apology. His or her way does not please the Lord. Anybody who does not love God and submit to His authority will not be able to love you genuinely. He or she makes you to compromise your stand in God, each moment together takes you far from God and you struggle spiritually always to catch up again. Do you still want to go ahead? It is dangerous for you oooo!
(2) He or she is inhuman. Behaviours and attitudes are unimaginable. No human feeling or iota of sensitivity to another person's emotions or needs in all areas. He or she enjoys inflicting pains on you and does not see anything wrong in it. You have become emotional reck because of the relationship. You can't get along and survive with a damaged state of mind in the journey of marriage o.
(3) The person does not value you and it is obvious you are the one chasing him or her for a relationship. There is no commitment, no love, no signs of seriousness at any given time. You keep hearing names of other options who are more valuable and appreciated than you from him or her. He or she has options in which you are among. I mean, among the multitude of his fake love network here and there, why would you force yourself on someone you are not his or her priority at any given time and does not even value you.
(4) The relationship is full of abuse and violence. There are often threats and you have become a punching bag. If there is any misunderstanding, they must break objects because of anger. If care is not taking, there will be a broken head in future. There is so much aggression from either or both of you which is unbearable. The relationship is full if all kinds of abuse eating up your values and self esteem. You have not gone to the altar yet. You can turn back and not hook up with a danger that will later explode and claim your beautiful life.
(5) Where there are no harmonization in values and no agreement in virtually everything I mean every matter. You can't get to discuss and agree on important factors that affect your relationship which will guarantee harmony and unity. Your opinions on any matter bring up hot and unhealthy arguments which always results in verbal abuse and shouting match. None of you is ready to hear or consider the other person's point of view. You have numerous unresolved issues without seeking help. If the relationship is this hot and communication is this difficult, what will happen in marriage? Marriage requires fruit of the spiirt and brokenness of parties involved in it.
(6) There is appearance and dominance of fundamental character flaws like deception, falsehood, criminal tendencies, dubious acts, drunkenness, night crawling, humanizing, pathological lies, jealousy, pretence, excessive love of money, uncontrollable flaming anger that no one can persevere, high degree of immaturity, unreliability etc with no readiness of admitting the issues, not to talk of considering help for positive changes. This load is too heavy on you to carry, for how many years do you think you can cope or endure? Be wise
(7) The relationship is a threat to your peace and rest of mind. You are not happy in it, your strength is being depleted every time, it drains your energy. The person keeps breaking your heart and trust now and then. Any little issue between you becomes social media gist. His or her display picture on social media will change to his or her ex's picture just to let you know life continues without you. No matter how strong you think you are, this kind of relationship is dangerous for your well being.
All the features above, don't correlate with a glorious marriage that God has ordained for His children. Don't be disobedient to your Father. These signs are enough red flags. Things may get worse off than you ever imagine. Reason and listen to God and godly counsel. It's all for your good. May the Lord connect you rightly.
For I know the plans I have for you,โ says the Lord. โThey are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT)
Thanks for reading and sharing. Kindly share some other features of toxic relationships in the comments box. God bless you๐
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