The Mockingjay
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- Jan 11, 2011
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Did you know that one of the easiest ways to kill a relationship is
by being jealous? That's right, jealousy not only kills any
attraction you once had but actually moves you further apart. It
shows insecurity and neediness to the point where it's unbearable
for anyone to be around... even your friends!
The thing that causes that jealousy to boil up inside is your mind
playing tricks, which stems from your self worth, if you think you
aren't good enough for your man then he will begin to think this
too and this can lead onto cheating... hence you constantly wanting
to know what he's up to and protecting him.
Here is how you can get rid of your jealous streak and move forward
with your love life.
The most common source of jealousy is an experience in our past in
which someone has betrayed our trust, which as a result causes us
to project our old insecurities onto our current relationship.
Obvious symptoms of jealousy include becoming suspicious or upset
every time you see your guy has text another woman, or if you see
him talking to another woman at a party and feel the need to break
it up.
This is such destructive behaviour for a relationship, particularly
if your guy is actually very trustworthy and has to constantly
explain his actions to you.
Here's how jealousy will cause you to lose a guy:
1. He'll distance himself from you emotionally
If your man happens to be very trustworthy, and you're constantly
accusing him or getting suspicious every time he gets a text, what
you're doing is actually pretty offensive.
Because what you are actually subconsciously communicating to him
is this: "I don't trust you to behave when you're not with me".
This lack of trust will make him lose respect for you and he may
start to emotionally withdraw from the relationship if he feels
like you don't believe he can stay faithful.
2. He'll start to resent your company
If you start getting on his case about enjoying other women's
company when you're out together, he will simply stop inviting you
out.
If he thinks you're going to be difficult then he'll see you as a
burden and try to find ways to get away from your company so that
he can relax and be himself without having to babysit you!
3. The more you act jealous, the more he'll flirt with other women!
This is an interesting point about male psychology.
If you get emotional, protective and upset whenever you see him
flirting with other women, a guy will start to realise that you are
giving him so much attention for it.
By showing him attention you are showing him a form of love, even
if you're angry with him. So what he'll start to associate in his
head is that whenever he wants your attention, all he has to do is
flirt with other women and you'll come running to his side.
So even if he wasn't flirting before, now he's going to make sure
he does because he knows that he gets all that love and attention
if he makes you jealous!
---- From the book "Secrets of Attraction" by Matthew Hussey
by being jealous? That's right, jealousy not only kills any
attraction you once had but actually moves you further apart. It
shows insecurity and neediness to the point where it's unbearable
for anyone to be around... even your friends!
The thing that causes that jealousy to boil up inside is your mind
playing tricks, which stems from your self worth, if you think you
aren't good enough for your man then he will begin to think this
too and this can lead onto cheating... hence you constantly wanting
to know what he's up to and protecting him.
Here is how you can get rid of your jealous streak and move forward
with your love life.
The most common source of jealousy is an experience in our past in
which someone has betrayed our trust, which as a result causes us
to project our old insecurities onto our current relationship.
Obvious symptoms of jealousy include becoming suspicious or upset
every time you see your guy has text another woman, or if you see
him talking to another woman at a party and feel the need to break
it up.
This is such destructive behaviour for a relationship, particularly
if your guy is actually very trustworthy and has to constantly
explain his actions to you.
Here's how jealousy will cause you to lose a guy:
1. He'll distance himself from you emotionally
If your man happens to be very trustworthy, and you're constantly
accusing him or getting suspicious every time he gets a text, what
you're doing is actually pretty offensive.
Because what you are actually subconsciously communicating to him
is this: "I don't trust you to behave when you're not with me".
This lack of trust will make him lose respect for you and he may
start to emotionally withdraw from the relationship if he feels
like you don't believe he can stay faithful.
2. He'll start to resent your company
If you start getting on his case about enjoying other women's
company when you're out together, he will simply stop inviting you
out.
If he thinks you're going to be difficult then he'll see you as a
burden and try to find ways to get away from your company so that
he can relax and be himself without having to babysit you!
3. The more you act jealous, the more he'll flirt with other women!
This is an interesting point about male psychology.
If you get emotional, protective and upset whenever you see him
flirting with other women, a guy will start to realise that you are
giving him so much attention for it.
By showing him attention you are showing him a form of love, even
if you're angry with him. So what he'll start to associate in his
head is that whenever he wants your attention, all he has to do is
flirt with other women and you'll come running to his side.
So even if he wasn't flirting before, now he's going to make sure
he does because he knows that he gets all that love and attention
if he makes you jealous!
---- From the book "Secrets of Attraction" by Matthew Hussey