Don't Marry the Person Who Will Be

Chimbuvu

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The selection of a spouse must be based on who the person is at the present, not on the person's potential, the person you envision him/her becoming in the future -- especially with the assistance of some gentle prodding on your part...

True, there is always the possibility that he will change. There is always the possibility that she will tap into her potential and bring it to fruition. But if at this point your potential mate is not exhibiting those signs, it is not fair to either one of you to marry the person who will be when you are not happy with the person who is. You want your spouse to love you for who you are now, not for who you can be if and only if you change. Your feelings towards your spouse should be the same

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The selection of a spouse must be based on who the person is at the present, not on the person's potential, the person you envision him/her becoming in the future -- especially with the assistance of some gentle prodding on your part...

True, there is always the possibility that he will change. There is always the possibility that she will tap into her potential and bring it to fruition. But if at this point your potential mate is not exhibiting those signs, it is not fair to either one of you to marry the person who will be when you are not happy with the person who is. You want your spouse to love you for who you are now, not for who you can be if and only if you change. Your feelings towards your spouse should be the same
 
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