You have certainly heard about it - the G-spot, also called the Gräfenberg spot, that is characterized as an erogenous area of the woman's sexual anatomy that, when stimulated can lead to intense sexual arousal and orgasms. Since it is concealed, many men do not care to search for it during lovemaking to the chagrin of women. The internet male magazines and books are awash with information about the elusive but all-important spot. Some naysayers including researchers claim that it does not exist at all or, at least it only exists in some women. To this, I disagree.
The way we make love is as personal as DNA, yet there are a few generalizations. For instance, experience has taught me that most men are in too much hurry that they leave their partners yearning for more – hanging off some form of lovemaking cliff. These women have either resigned to the status quo or have tended to seek sexual gratification elsewhere including from your cleaners and watchmen (no offence intended) or lovers outside their relationship confines. Some immerse themselves in the church, work harder than normal while others embrace activities and would frown at the mere thought of lovemaking.
Whether the G-pot exists or not, men need to rediscover and identify what makes their partner's sex life vibrant because as much as we may overlook it, best relationships hinge on good lovemaking and not money or other material things. Women's ineptness of ever achieving sexual gratifications lies in their inability to communicate – to guide men on what is best for them. The assumption that man knows it all is flawed to say the least.
Some, in their superficial coyness may not want to be seen as loose. They will not guide their men to their gardens of Aden. It is time people woke up to the realities that G-spot is any part of the woman's body, especially her heart that guides her to the extreme pleasure and not a locus in her specific anatomy.
Finally, any form of ritualistic lovemaking is a boring affair. Creativity and spontaneity are key facilitators for effective and memorable lovemaking. The human mind loves adventure in anything we do and sex is no exception. Being naughty in bed is not a crime. Indeed, that is what is needed.
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