Slender Agenda
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"Morally? I'm highly loyal. You wont find a more loving and supportive partner. Sexually? Sorry." - RomanKush
This was a tweet I screen munched some months ago only to bump into itagain some time last night as I attempted to dig through my past. The twitter discussion at that point in time was about relationships, sexuality and whether or not we as humans are meant to monoamorous or polyamorous.
Generally, society has raised us to be monoamorous creatures, that is, we are taught that a relationship can only be about two people and that those two people are supposed to stay mutually exclusive to oneanother. Third and fourth party relationships (Polyamorous relationships) are generally discouraged and called unnatural.
The latter for health purposes makes absolute sense because sexual diseases are no longer a myth and the more sexual partners one has the higher the chance that somewhere along the lines, un-protectedsex is happening. But this is not the point. The point is, as humans, are we meant to be monoamorous? Is there anything unnatural about having more than one sexual partner?
Science shows that we are biologically set to seek out other/additional sexual partners once a relationship has matured. The way that hormones and pheromones function in the body is such that after the"honey-moon" phase is over, the phase where in which all the puppy love has been exhausted, we naturally get bored and lose interest in our partners, without necessarily loving them any less.
It is a fact that when you get into a relationship with an individual you do not become blind to other attractive people. It is also well known that men are most likely to cheat sexually (not emotionally) on their partners. Women are more likely to cheat emotionally on their partners.
Considering that our ancestors had multiple wives, is it therefore safe to say we are polyamorous beings brainwashed to think like monoamorous beings? Can we therefore assume that sex does not kill relationships but rather lies do? How many people would be more willing to be in a relationship with someone that lets them know from the get go that they are not about that "sexually faithful life" than someone who will promise them faithfulness and yet be with other people on the side?
Are we only monoamorous because we are selfish beings and want to "own"people and claim them as ours? Does true love mean trusting someoneenough to give them as much freedom as they want?
This was a tweet I screen munched some months ago only to bump into itagain some time last night as I attempted to dig through my past. The twitter discussion at that point in time was about relationships, sexuality and whether or not we as humans are meant to monoamorous or polyamorous.
Generally, society has raised us to be monoamorous creatures, that is, we are taught that a relationship can only be about two people and that those two people are supposed to stay mutually exclusive to oneanother. Third and fourth party relationships (Polyamorous relationships) are generally discouraged and called unnatural.
The latter for health purposes makes absolute sense because sexual diseases are no longer a myth and the more sexual partners one has the higher the chance that somewhere along the lines, un-protectedsex is happening. But this is not the point. The point is, as humans, are we meant to be monoamorous? Is there anything unnatural about having more than one sexual partner?
Science shows that we are biologically set to seek out other/additional sexual partners once a relationship has matured. The way that hormones and pheromones function in the body is such that after the"honey-moon" phase is over, the phase where in which all the puppy love has been exhausted, we naturally get bored and lose interest in our partners, without necessarily loving them any less.
It is a fact that when you get into a relationship with an individual you do not become blind to other attractive people. It is also well known that men are most likely to cheat sexually (not emotionally) on their partners. Women are more likely to cheat emotionally on their partners.
Considering that our ancestors had multiple wives, is it therefore safe to say we are polyamorous beings brainwashed to think like monoamorous beings? Can we therefore assume that sex does not kill relationships but rather lies do? How many people would be more willing to be in a relationship with someone that lets them know from the get go that they are not about that "sexually faithful life" than someone who will promise them faithfulness and yet be with other people on the side?
Are we only monoamorous because we are selfish beings and want to "own"people and claim them as ours? Does true love mean trusting someoneenough to give them as much freedom as they want?