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The 7 Signs a Woman Wants to Be Approached
1. Saying hi right away.
If you said hi to that woman at the coffee shop when you first
saw her, and she didnt say hi back, youd have a good idea that
shes not very receptive to your approaching her. If she did say
hi back, then you both have a little invested in the relationship,
and it will be easier to talk with her more later.
2. Assessing her vibe.
With some women, you really might get the sense that there is a
wall around them and that they are really in their own world.
In that situation, the average guy will make this mistake hell
assume that if he was better with women, hed be able to break
down that wall, talk to that woman, and get her into bed in 20
minutes or less.
Then the average guy will feel bad about himself. Has that ever
happened to you?
The truth is, some women are highly unreceptive, and it doesnt
have anything to do with you, and theres nothing you are going to
be able to do about it. Stop idealizing her as the perfect woman,
who got away and stop beating yourself up about it.
3. Check out her level of eye contact.
If you are around anyone, you are likely to make accidental eye
contact unless that person is making an effort to make sure that
eye contact does not occur. If you cant catch her eye, it doesnt
mean that the game is over, but it might mean that shes less open
to you than you might like.
4. Being a source of certainty that the interaction is going okay.
Remember, most of the time, a woman is looking to you to gauge
whether or not she should be tense in an interaction. If you seem
relaxed, shell be much more likely to relax, too.
On the other hand, if you are tense, shell be tense, too.
Dont wait for her to relax first have the faith that the
interaction is okay, even before theres any proof of it.
Providing that certainty is _much_ more important than having the
perfect line. You can bumble all over the place, but if you are a
source of certainty, then you will have a much better chance with
her.
5. See how she responds to comments.
You can find out if a woman is receptive by making some little
comment, and seeing how she responds to it.
For instance If you are using your laptop computer outside at a
coffee shop, and it is too bright to see the screen so you came
back inside, you might say something like, Wow, its nice out, but
too bright to see the screen as you pass by her.
See how she responds if she grunts or says nothing, shes
probably feeling unapproachable. If she gives you an entire
sentence, you are on your way!
6. Try a simple conversation-starter.
Get this It IS permissible to start a conversation with a very
tepid, non-romantic question.
You dont have to be romantic right off the bat just try a little
test to find out if shes interested in talking with you.
Look for something in the environment you can comment on, or
something about her person that you can ask a question about.
Then make your comment or ask your question.
Its perfectly fine to start a conversation with, Excuse me, I notice
you have an Apple laptop. How do you like it? You just need to get
something started. It can get romantic later.
Its also excellent to ask, Whats the story behind that? about
some article on her person. For instance, you might say, Excuse
me, I couldnt help noticing your unusual necklace. I cant recall
ever seeing one like that before. If you wouldnt mind me asking,
whats the story behind that?
These are good ways to open conversations with any woman, and
will help you see how receptive she is.
7. Dont beat yourself up for missed opportunities.
Weve said it before, and well say it again: It does you no good to
beat yourself up for not talking to every woman who crosses your
path.
Sometimes youll miss opportunities with women. Dont beat
yourself up about it. Beating yourself up about missing
opportunities with women only makes things worse.
We believe that this is true: Missing opportunities and not
beating yourself up about them is part of learning to actually
take opportunities.
The sequence looks like this: 1) You believe there are no
opportunities. Eventually, that leads to 2) You see opportunities,
but dont take them, which leads to 3) seeing opportunities and
taking them. Let yourself feel good about even _seeing_ the
opportunity to approach a woman. That will help you take the
opportunity in the future.
More women than you think want you to approach them. Use these
tips to find out which ones, and take action!
1. Saying hi right away.
If you said hi to that woman at the coffee shop when you first
saw her, and she didnt say hi back, youd have a good idea that
shes not very receptive to your approaching her. If she did say
hi back, then you both have a little invested in the relationship,
and it will be easier to talk with her more later.
2. Assessing her vibe.
With some women, you really might get the sense that there is a
wall around them and that they are really in their own world.
In that situation, the average guy will make this mistake hell
assume that if he was better with women, hed be able to break
down that wall, talk to that woman, and get her into bed in 20
minutes or less.
Then the average guy will feel bad about himself. Has that ever
happened to you?
The truth is, some women are highly unreceptive, and it doesnt
have anything to do with you, and theres nothing you are going to
be able to do about it. Stop idealizing her as the perfect woman,
who got away and stop beating yourself up about it.
3. Check out her level of eye contact.
If you are around anyone, you are likely to make accidental eye
contact unless that person is making an effort to make sure that
eye contact does not occur. If you cant catch her eye, it doesnt
mean that the game is over, but it might mean that shes less open
to you than you might like.
4. Being a source of certainty that the interaction is going okay.
Remember, most of the time, a woman is looking to you to gauge
whether or not she should be tense in an interaction. If you seem
relaxed, shell be much more likely to relax, too.
On the other hand, if you are tense, shell be tense, too.
Dont wait for her to relax first have the faith that the
interaction is okay, even before theres any proof of it.
Providing that certainty is _much_ more important than having the
perfect line. You can bumble all over the place, but if you are a
source of certainty, then you will have a much better chance with
her.
5. See how she responds to comments.
You can find out if a woman is receptive by making some little
comment, and seeing how she responds to it.
For instance If you are using your laptop computer outside at a
coffee shop, and it is too bright to see the screen so you came
back inside, you might say something like, Wow, its nice out, but
too bright to see the screen as you pass by her.
See how she responds if she grunts or says nothing, shes
probably feeling unapproachable. If she gives you an entire
sentence, you are on your way!
6. Try a simple conversation-starter.
Get this It IS permissible to start a conversation with a very
tepid, non-romantic question.
You dont have to be romantic right off the bat just try a little
test to find out if shes interested in talking with you.
Look for something in the environment you can comment on, or
something about her person that you can ask a question about.
Then make your comment or ask your question.
Its perfectly fine to start a conversation with, Excuse me, I notice
you have an Apple laptop. How do you like it? You just need to get
something started. It can get romantic later.
Its also excellent to ask, Whats the story behind that? about
some article on her person. For instance, you might say, Excuse
me, I couldnt help noticing your unusual necklace. I cant recall
ever seeing one like that before. If you wouldnt mind me asking,
whats the story behind that?
These are good ways to open conversations with any woman, and
will help you see how receptive she is.
7. Dont beat yourself up for missed opportunities.
Weve said it before, and well say it again: It does you no good to
beat yourself up for not talking to every woman who crosses your
path.
Sometimes youll miss opportunities with women. Dont beat
yourself up about it. Beating yourself up about missing
opportunities with women only makes things worse.
We believe that this is true: Missing opportunities and not
beating yourself up about them is part of learning to actually
take opportunities.
The sequence looks like this: 1) You believe there are no
opportunities. Eventually, that leads to 2) You see opportunities,
but dont take them, which leads to 3) seeing opportunities and
taking them. Let yourself feel good about even _seeing_ the
opportunity to approach a woman. That will help you take the
opportunity in the future.
More women than you think want you to approach them. Use these
tips to find out which ones, and take action!