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When you find out you have been waiting in vain

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Relief, Dec 15, 2010.

  1. Relief

    Relief JF-Expert Member

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    What do you do when love hurts so badly? you have been waiting for years, been faithful, caring, supportive and most of all loving,.but only to find out that you have wasted so many years,.. waiting in vain. How do you start again?
    Please talk to me friends.
     
  2. semango

    semango JF-Expert Member

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    you get up and start afresh.remember that almost every individual in this world,at one point in time or another, has passed in the same situation.giving up and starting to condemn all men is the worst decision to take
     
  3. Michelle

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    It happens to all of us,but one thing is clear,LIFE HAS TO GO ON, do not magnify this issue,magnify God who has the power to make your life better and on the right time give you the right person,who will value,respect,cherish and LOVE YOU.Time is a healer,have faith,a person that deserve you is coming............you should be happy he/she left you in a good shape,never let anyones decisions or choices determines how you live your life.Be happy and Strong and keep the faith.all the best!
     
  4. Relief

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    Big up to all for your comments, very inspirational.
    Much love!
     
  5. M

    Mamaa Kigogo Senior Member

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    it hurts MUCH but one important thing is just to avoid concentrating for those past things,cause it makes the situation to be worse just having enough time to relax and think careful that your a treasure and if you dont care for yourself no one cares for you. love yourself more than anything am sure you never know it might be the will of god to secure you.Give hope to get the best thing ..........dont give up never.................... if you want to succeed no way you can cross there must be a certain procedures you have to experience through inoder to know dunia ikoje however , for me its a guud think for people to learn and be careful for the coming up relationship
     
  6. Masikini_Jeuri

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    Please rise and thank God and drop all notions and preconceived mindsets which drags you down! Remember that you are unique and you have got a whole life ahead!

    This is your time!
     
  7. njiwa

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    i can feel your pain unajua its hard to wait for something u know wont happen but it is even harder to wait when you know it is everything you want .... Move on
     
  8. Vene

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    I've been there! I know perfectly well what you're talking about. Just learn a lesson from it and then move on with your life.
     
  9. Tausi Mzalendo

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    Sh...t HAPPENS but remember what goes around, comes around.
    Just do the right thing, pray and hope for the best.
     
  10. AMINATA 9

    AMINATA 9 JF-Expert Member

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    First things first, accept that this relationship is over.
    Mourn your loss and commit to moving on. After you have done that if you really feel you want to know why he broke things off take a deep breath, brace yourself for things you will not want to hear, and ask him to be brutally honest. Ask him to tell you why he ended the relationship and tell him that you don't want him to spare your feelings. Chances are that he does have reasons for breaking things off but that he thinks he is being kinder by keeping them to himself. If you really want to know you have to tell him that he is hurting you more by keeping you in the dark than he ever would be by telling you the truth.
     
  11. Smile

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    Break-ups can be difficult and painful, very paiful, but the important thing to remember is that a break up is not the end of the world. Sometimes a break-up can even be a good thing because it will give you a chance to re-evaluate your life, and maybe even lead you to find someone more suitable. The truth is, that you can move on after a break-up no matter how bad it may have been

     
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    Eiyer JF-Expert Member

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    Inauma na inakera,inapotokea hivyo usilitazame jambo hilo kwa mtazamo hasi tazama kwa mtazamo chanya,ukijikwaa haimaanishi safari yako inaishia hapo unaendelea na maumivu yako kidoleni mpaka yanaisha!
     
  13. Relief

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    Thanks to all of you.:A S 465:
     
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    So are you doing better now?
     
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    Hopefully we did something!
     
  16. Relief

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    cant say much much better, but atleast am holdin up fine, i think am reaching there..........almost there
    thanks for your concern Miss RussianRoulete!!

     
  17. Relief

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    Definitely you guyz did it!!
    thanks alot
     
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    There is no situation that ir wasted in the eyes of God. Am sure you learnt something good from the pain you experienced. Focus on what good the Lord has in store for and before you even know it,you will be a new person.
     
  19. King'asti

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    See this:
    However far down the wrong route you have taken, turn around and go back! There is no way around love.
    Move on, get a life! Make new friends, find a new hobby. How about that dream job? Start working towards it, maybe you need a bit of schooling too.
    All the best buddy.
     
  20. Dr.Chichi

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    i have a friend who just got dumped after four years of being in a relationship namwonea huruma kinoma.alikuwa mvumilivu,faithfull na hata bwana wake alivyozaa na mwanamke mwengine she was there for him and suddenly mshikaji kaamua kumuoa maza wa mtoto wake.sometimes love sucks
     
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