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What You Must Always Do in a Marriage Discussion

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Abraham Lincon, Jan 17, 2011.

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    According to the book 'Heart to Heart' by Nancy Van Pelt, the following are the most important things you must do in your marriage discussion.

    1. Do your best to reach an agreement before ending the discussion. Do not leave in the heat of the argument.

    2. Speak in a normal tone of voice, without yelling.

    3. Be positive. No threats should be shouted, and never use threats of divorce.

    4. Use language acceptable to both partners. Teasing or taunting your partner is completely forbidden.

    5. Big argumengs should always be privately discussed and never infront of people outside the family. Limit big arguments infront of the children.

    6. Pay attention and try to understand what your partner wants to communicate.

    7. Adapt an accepting rather than defensive attitude.

    8. Attempt to reach an aggrement rather than winning.
     
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    On the other hand,
     
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    You Must Never Do the following in a marriage discussion;

    1. No name-calling or denigrate your partner.

    2. No threats, especialy of divorce or suicide.

    3. No negative remarks about in-laws or relatives.

    4. No insults concerning physical appearence of your partner.

    5. No doubting your partner's intentions or good will.

    6. No physical violence allowed, even if only as a threat.

    7. No interrupting your partner while talking.

    8. No yelling.

    9. No swearing or coarse words allowed.
     
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    Lucchese DeCavalcante JF-Expert Member

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    Thanks kaka hili soma zuri sana
     
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    Yote haya yakifanyika NO DIVORCE!
     
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    Mkeshahoi JF-Expert Member

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    Red:Hapa vidume vya pwani ndo watafeli hili somo....
     
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    Then hakuna arguements kama kila kitu kinafanywa kwa utaratibu huo....kibongo bongo!
     
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