Rutashubanyuma
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Should I confront girl over sex text?
18/01/2011
Dear Coleen,
I hope you can give me some advice. Ive been dating a woman for the past year and Im completely in love with her but a couple of days ago when she stopped at mine she put her phone on charge.
I removed hers to charge my mobile and accidentally pressed read message, which was from a guy who asked: Fancy meeting up later for sex, hun? Should I ignore it or do I confront her? If its true, Ill be devastated.
I feel I need advice before I see her again. Thank you.
Coleen
says..
I think you should confront her how can you keep this information to yourself?
I think in the first year of dating someone, trust is an important issue you have to build this up if your relationship is to be successful.
Listen to what she has to say about it, though, as theres a chance it could be a jokey text from a mate. Texts and emails can be misinterpreted. The other day, I sent a jokey text to a friend that said I can pay you or I can have sex with you. We were having a laugh and it was innocent but if someone had read it they might have got the wrong end of the stick.
I know youre worried about losing this girl and youre afraid of what she might tell you but you wont be able to put this out of your mind.
Just prepare yourself for the fact that you might not like what you hear.
If she has been cheating, you have to ask yourself if you really want to be with her as it doesnt bode well for the future.
18/01/2011
Dear Coleen,
I hope you can give me some advice. Ive been dating a woman for the past year and Im completely in love with her but a couple of days ago when she stopped at mine she put her phone on charge.
I removed hers to charge my mobile and accidentally pressed read message, which was from a guy who asked: Fancy meeting up later for sex, hun? Should I ignore it or do I confront her? If its true, Ill be devastated.
I feel I need advice before I see her again. Thank you.
Coleen
says..
I think you should confront her how can you keep this information to yourself?
I think in the first year of dating someone, trust is an important issue you have to build this up if your relationship is to be successful.
Listen to what she has to say about it, though, as theres a chance it could be a jokey text from a mate. Texts and emails can be misinterpreted. The other day, I sent a jokey text to a friend that said I can pay you or I can have sex with you. We were having a laugh and it was innocent but if someone had read it they might have got the wrong end of the stick.
I know youre worried about losing this girl and youre afraid of what she might tell you but you wont be able to put this out of your mind.
Just prepare yourself for the fact that you might not like what you hear.
If she has been cheating, you have to ask yourself if you really want to be with her as it doesnt bode well for the future.
