Paula Paul
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- Oct 23, 2019
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Hello Guys,
My mother is dying of Cancer. We tried everything we possibly could, but today we have been told by the Doctors that she will likely die within two/three days. It feels like a nightmare.
She's not afraid of death, she want to die ASAP, because she has already gone through enough.
There is nothing we can do but make her remaining time comfortable and to spend the last 48 hours with her. It's just so tough and I am hoping for a miracle if it really exist.
Guys cancer is awful. I am scared to death.
I am in so much stress and pain right now, I don't know what to do.
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MAONI YA WADAU
UPDATE:
MANENO YA FARAJA KUTOKA KWA WADAU:
My mother is dying of Cancer. We tried everything we possibly could, but today we have been told by the Doctors that she will likely die within two/three days. It feels like a nightmare.
She's not afraid of death, she want to die ASAP, because she has already gone through enough.
There is nothing we can do but make her remaining time comfortable and to spend the last 48 hours with her. It's just so tough and I am hoping for a miracle if it really exist.
Guys cancer is awful. I am scared to death.
I am in so much stress and pain right now, I don't know what to do.
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MAONI YA WADAU
--------------There are no words to express that can bring comfort to you and family at this time.
Its tough and beyond imagination. But, i can advise you right now to trust in God. We shall not live forever; in-fact nothing lives forever. However, to loose someone you love deeply and very closest can very be painful.
This is the time to pray and bless your mother and she bless you. I will pray for you through this and i will put your mother before God.
Please advise her to receive Christ and forgive others and go in peace. Thats the only rightful thing to do right now.
May Godbless you and your family.
--------------Paula Paul, Kuna Zoologist mmoja ambaye alianzia udaktari wa kawaida baadae akajiendeleza zaidi upande wa Zoology hadi kufikia level ya PhD. Ana kliniki yake Kibaha. Jamaa yupo vzr saana kwenye mambo ya tiba mbadala hasa ya magonjwa makubwa makubwa kama kansa. Alishamtibu mtu flani ambaye alikuwa na kansa ya Koo. Huyo mgonjwa alifikia hatua mbaya kweli ya kutokula kutokana na maumivu ya Koo. Alienda kwa huyo zoologist na kupata dawa. Huyo mgonjwa alipata tiba na afya yake imerejea , na kwa Sasa anakula Chakula chochote hadi ugali. Kwa kweli Sina uhakika Kama kansa imetoweka kwa 100% , Ila ninachokiona jamaa amepata improvement kubwa na anafanya mishemishe zake Kama kawaida.
Paula, kama utavutiwa na huyo zoologist nistue ili nikutafutie namba zake kutoka kwa yule jamaa. Pengine anaweza pata nafuu
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--------------Paula Paul....
Wish nije nikuone kama mama amelazwa hospitali ya hapa Dar. Kama hutojali bila kujitambulisha kuwa mimi ni flani na wewe ndo Paula, ukisema mama amelazwa hospital flani binafsi ntafika kumuona mama na kumtia moyo.
Najua haitapunguza maumivu anayopitia wala kumuongezea siku za kuishi au kuwa tiba kwake... (Who knows moyo wa binadamu unataka nini kwa wakati husika.... Ni siri ya mtu binafsi) ila si haba kama uwepo wangu walau utampa tabasamu mama japo yuko kwenye maumivu.
Ni BORA kumjulia hali mgonjwa akiwa kwenye matibabu na kuwatia moyo watu wa karibu wanaomuuguza kuliko kuja kuaga maiti au kushiriki mazishi. Mara elfu mama akasikia sauti za watu kuja kumuona kwa kumfariji na kumsemesha maneno ya upendo, amani na furaha (iwapo maneno ya daktari yatatimia) basi atakuwa ameondoka na kumbukumbu nzuri kutoka duniani haswa kipindi hiki cha mwisho.
Naamini kwa sasa mama anahitaji utulivu Ila pia anahitaji kusikia maneno ya kutia moyo, ya kumfaya asahau maumivu kwa muda hata kama ni nusu saa...
Natamani sana kuja kumuona mama yako si kwa nia ya kujionesha kuwa najali sana hapana au kujitambulisha mie ndo flani hapana, bali kumshika mkono, kumtia moyo, saa ingine hata kumshirikisha mambo yanayoendelea nchini (mfano jana Magu kasema hataendelea kuongoza zaidi ya muhula wake) that's good news to some people na kwa wengine ni bad news then huu ni mjadala iwapo ataweza sema chochote juu ya hili hapo utakuwa umeitoa akili yake kwa muda kufikiria mauti na maumivu....
Well am not a psychologist but I do care about well-being of a human.
Nakumbuka kwenye uzi nilioweka wa make any wish on Christmas, ulimtaja mama kuwa arejee kwenye afya yake.... Nakumbuka nilisema maneno pale.
Am touched about seeing her if it won't matter to you.
Lastly, kwa namna yeyote ile jitahidini msilie mbele yake.... Ukiona umebanwa sana toka nje liaaaaaaa piga keleleeeee na yoweeeee Ila mama asisikie wala asilie. Anahitaji kusikia vicheko hata kama itakuwa vya maumivu au kwa shida na nyie pia mnahitaji nguvu ya ziada, pain unayoipitia wewe, mama anaipitia kubwa zaidi ya hiyo. Sina uzoefu Ila nimeshasikia huko na huko watu wanasema kifo kina maumivu makubwa mno....@Mshana jr anaweza sema kitu juu ya hili.
Paula, have my hugs this morning I can write essays here but please touch your mama's palm this morning and smile at her for me. I wish to do the same to her, just a smile.
Smile Heals... yaani tabasamu ni dawa.
Uwe na asubuhi na siku njema Paula. If you can't say anything here just PM me please.
Kasinde.
-------------Pole sana dear Paula,
Najua mama yetu kapitia mateso makubwa katika kuugua kwake na angali bado anayaishi, Mwenyezi Mungu kaamua kumpumzisha mzigo mzito unaomwelemea.
Katika muda huu uliobaki jaribuni kuwa nae karibu zaidi ya siku za nyuma mkimwombea na kumpa maneno ya faraja. Nyuso zenu zisioneshe simanzi juu yake kwani itamfanya kukosa matumaini.
"Tukimuita BWANA anaitika na kutuwezesha katika mambo makubwa na magumu tusiyoyaweza"
--------------I am very sorry for you, Paula.
Cancer is the beast, i have been in a position to witness patients passing almost in all stages of cancer till their death as our patients and one as my relative(uncle).
Apparently, this monster torments and brings pain which is too much agonising to the sick people.
Surprisingly, people do not recognise it in its early stages, they decide to seek medical intervention while it is already advanced and showing some serious health effects.
I feel so sorry for you. May the Almighty God give you strength during this hard time.
Luck enough u can stay with mama all the time at bedside, stay strong when you are closer, cheer her up, pray with her, tell her you love her till she passes in peace.
My thoughts are with you and the family.
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--------------Kasie,
Dear Kassie.
Hii msg imeniliza. Nimelia sana sikutegemea kupata upendo wa namna hii hapa ndani.
Sikutegemea kama ungekumbuka kuna siku niliandika kwenye Uzi wako kuhusu mama. Kitendo cha wewe kukumbuka pamenifanya macho yangu kutiririsha machozi kama bomba.
Ndani ya ID fake lakini kuna mtu ambaye ana upendo wa dhati.Nashindwa kujizuia. How I real wish tungekuwa siblings. Nahisi hata maumivu niliyoyapata nisinge yapata.
Mama yupo nje ya Tanzania. Asante kwa kuonesha nia na upendo dear.
Thanks for these hugs, nimemsomea hadi mama amefurahi sana. Amefurahi kwamba ataondoka lakini kuna watu wema ambao bado watakuwa wananifariji.
Ni kweli anapitia maumivu mahali, ila anajikaza sana. Mpaka sasa anaweza kutumia simu yake kuchat na kuongea kwenye simu ambapo hauwezi kuamini kama ni mgonjwa.
Mpaka sasa hali yake imebadilika na unaonekana mwenye nguvu sana, anaimba Gospel na anacheza (kujitikisa ile). Anaweza kusoma pia Biblia. Unaweza hizi anapona ila hapa doctor anasema mgonjwa wa cancer kwenye hatua za mwisho huwa anapata nguvu.
Ila kwa Mara ya kwanza ameshindwa kunitofautisha mimi na twin sister. Na sisi hatutaki kumtesa kuanza kumfundisha kutofautisha. Baba yetu ameshindwa kuvumilia kumwona mama kwenye hiyo hali, tunaomba Mungu pia tusije tukampoteza na yeye pia.
Pia kwa sasa hapendi watu wamshangae usoni. Sisi anatuangalia tukiwa hatumwangalii, tukimwangalia anatazama pembeni, hivyo tumeacha kumwangalia direct ili tumpe nafasi ya kutuangalia yeye hadi aridhike.
Ameniambia Leo nilale pembeni yake nimkumbatie. Nimelala nae kidogo ndipo nilipogundua mama amekonda sana hata uti wa mgongo umetokeza juu hamna nyama. Ninasubiri kwanza asinzie maana hataki nimshangae nilale nae tena.
Kwenye hiki chumba tupo wote tunalala na mama, kasoro baba ambaye madaktari wameshauri aondoke hadi masaa ya mwisho ndio aje. Wakionana wote wanalia inafanya mama achoke zaidi.
Mdogo wangu wa kiume kaleta maua ya Christmas na happy new year. Tumeyapamba hapa ndani. Mama kafurahi anatamani angetupikia chakula cha sikukuu. Sikukuu huwa anapika vyakula vingi na mdogo wetu wa kiume huwa anadeka anakaa na mama jikoni ili aonje. Mama anataka sikukuu wote tuwe nyumbani tumpikie mdogo wetu. Hatujui kama tutampa furaha anayoipataga kwa mama. Ila tutajitahidi.
Kasie Nakupenda. Asante sana.
-------------Paula Paul....
Wish nije nikuone kama mama amelazwa hospitali ya hapa Dar. Kama hutojali bila kujitambulisha kuwa mimi ni flani na wewe ndo Paula, ukisema mama amelazwa hospital flani binafsi ntafika kumuona mama na kumtia moyo.
Najua haitapunguza maumivu anayopitia wala kumuongezea siku za kuishi au kuwa tiba kwake... (Who knows moyo wa binadamu unataka nini kwa wakati husika.... Ni siri ya mtu binafsi) ila si haba kama uwepo wangu walau utampa tabasamu mama japo yuko kwenye maumivu.
Ni BORA kumjulia hali mgonjwa akiwa kwenye matibabu na kuwatia moyo watu wa karibu wanaomuuguza kuliko kuja kuaga maiti au kushiriki mazishi. Mara elfu mama akasikia sauti za watu kuja kumuona kwa kumfariji na kumsemesha maneno ya upendo, amani na furaha (iwapo maneno ya daktari yatatimia) basi atakuwa ameondoka na kumbukumbu nzuri kutoka duniani haswa kipindi hiki cha mwisho.
Naamini kwa sasa mama anahitaji utulivu Ila pia anahitaji kusikia maneno ya kutia moyo, ya kumfaya asahau maumivu kwa muda hata kama ni nusu saa...
Natamani sana kuja kumuona mama yako si kwa nia ya kujionesha kuwa najali sana hapana au kujitambulisha mie ndo flani hapana, bali kumshika mkono, kumtia moyo, saa ingine hata kumshirikisha mambo yanayoendelea nchini (mfano jana Magu kasema hataendelea kuongoza zaidi ya muhula wake) that's good news to some people na kwa wengine ni bad news then huu ni mjadala iwapo ataweza sema chochote juu ya hili hapo utakuwa umeitoa akili yake kwa muda kufikiria mauti na maumivu....
Well am not a psychologist but I do care about well-being of a human.
Nakumbuka kwenye uzi nilioweka wa make any wish on Christmas, ulimtaja mama kuwa arejee kwenye afya yake.... Nakumbuka nilisema maneno pale.
Am touched about seeing her if it won't matter to you.
Lastly, kwa namna yeyote ile jitahidini msilie mbele yake.... Ukiona umebanwa sana toka nje liaaaaaaa piga keleleeeee na yoweeeee Ila mama asisikie wala asilie. Anahitaji kusikia vicheko hata kama itakuwa vya maumivu au kwa shida na nyie pia mnahitaji nguvu ya ziada, pain unayoipitia wewe, mama anaipitia kubwa zaidi ya hiyo. Sina uzoefu Ila nimeshasikia huko na huko watu wanasema kifo kina maumivu makubwa mno....@Mshana jr anaweza sema kitu juu ya hili.
Paula, have my hugs this morning I can write essays here but please touch your mama's palm this morning and smile at her for me. I wish to do the same to her, just a smile.
Smile Heals... yaani tabasamu ni dawa.
Uwe na asubuhi na siku njema Paula. If you can't say anything here just PM me please.
Kasinde.
===Dear Paula,
I can understand how you are feeling and what you are going through.There are certain times in life when we are left so empty and powerless when it comes to certain things.
You made me shade tears coz of what is happening to you while you have nothing to do.Sometimes we want our beloved ones to be there no matter how much we and the sick ones are going through.l remember when my mum was so sick and sometimes l prayed for God to take her so that she rests.
But deep inside me l wanted her to stay and be happy again.l also think sometimes she wished she was dead but sometimes she thought she could fight.Make her comfortable as much as you can and don't stop praying.Nobody but Allah knows when we shall pass away!
UPDATE:
===Guys,
Thank y'all for the kind words and advice and supports. I really appreciate your contributions.
My mother passed away . Its really difficult to be strong when it comes to the death of parent. We knew about her death yes, but still we were confident that she'd beat it even through miracles, though she insisted that she was not going to beat cancer and death was inevitable.
Towards the end, she was mostly quiet, and free of pain and didn't want to see anyone. She covered her eyes with a handkerchief and gave us a chance to say goodbye.
I heard father whispering in mother's ear, that he'll marry her again and again. He will choose her again and "i will see you again right? Just wait me there" He believes in reincarnation power. He was smiling and one eye watering.
We hugged her and the last words told us was, she was going to miss us and she was very sorry that she can't be around, and " take care of your brother, and father". I gave her a kiss on the forehead, then she slipped away peaceful five min later.
It's an extremely hard day. We've missed her already. It feels surreal, weird and it sucks. Guys, it's hard to put into words. But we a glad that the mother we loved so much is no longer suffering.
I am glad that I got to say goodbye and tell her I loved her and how great a mother and perfect she was to us. I followed all the advice y'all gave me.
MANENO YA FARAJA KUTOKA KWA WADAU:
-------------Paula Paul,
My heartily condolences to you and your loved ones Sweet Paula, I real understand that your pain right now is very unbearable,
But I do hope that Our Alive Almighty God can cease these sufferings as soon as possible, May He be your comforter, May He shower you with everlasting blessings, May He hold you with his righteous hand and most importantly trust His doings, He can be everything you need at each and every second.!
May a Holly Ghost's care, peace and comfort be upon you! Be strong as you've been always, My prayers are always with you Mumie!!
I know this is deadly hard to you but I promise you this too shall pass, every beginning has got its ends.!!
May our beloved mother rest in eternal peace, she has been through alots let her walk away smilingly from all this world's pain and sufferings!
Be thankful that at least you've been with in her last days, that's a huge blessing, more importantly, don't disappoint her, be that brave girl that she'll always be proud of!
dont forget that, there's always light at the end of the tunnel, Just be strong, I do trust that you can do this..!!
Paula Paul, My Condolences,
There aren't really words to provide you comfort.
I have felt a tiny bit of what you feel, I feel for you Paula. My heart aches for you all.
I don't know what to say exactly coz your pain is palpable and so challenging but it will get easier as time goes by, and when all of the grief gradually goes away you'll be reminded of good and happy memories you shared with her that you will cherish forever.
And yeah it's okay to miss your mother and if you feel to cry just cry. Don't ever feel weird about crying or missing your mother.
Be strong and continue to do what would make her proud. Take care of your brother and father for your mother.
Oh , I am practically crying. Sending you prayers, hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.
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