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Mke wangu na salon za ghali!

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by mshikachuma, Dec 17, 2010.

  1. mshikachuma

    mshikachuma JF-Expert Member

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    Siyo siri mwenzenu nimechanganyikiwa na sielewi hatma ya ndoa yetu.
    Nashindwa kumwelewa mamito wangu! [mama watoto wangu] Tuna miaka 5 ndani
    ya ndoa yetu,na tumebahatika kupata 2 kids. Lakini akiaga kwenda salon tu,basi sahau
    kama una mke! yaani atakaa uko from morning till down. Na kinachonisikitisha zaidi ana
    penda salon za HIGH KLASS- mikocheni,masaki na mbezi ambazo nafikiri ni very expensive.
    Mwenyewe kajipangia Jtano na Jpili [yaani x2 kwa wiki]. Jmatano anafanyiwa pedicure,
    manicure,na full body srub. Jpili anapendelea kusukwa nywele ndogondogo hivi ndefu au wana
    mshonea nywele fake za wazungu na zinakuwa kama zake original,akimaliza hapo anaingia
    massage room na anafanyiwa massage. siku hizo anarudi home saa tatu hadi saa nne usiku.
    kuna siku nilimshuhudia analipa billservice yake karibu tsh.laki mbili. Nikimgombeza tu anajibu
    ulinikuta na maisha haya before na pesa ninazospend ni za kwangu from my job. mmmmh mwe
    nzenu ndoa yangu iko matatani au mie ndiye nina matatizo? -Nawasilisha
     
  2. roselyne1

    roselyne1 JF-Expert Member

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    pole.vunja ukimya ongea naye mwambie sio kuwa hupendi aende saloon,ungependa afanye hivyo ila kwa kiasi!saloon isimfanye akasahau majukumu yake mengine kama mama na mke.
    fanya maombi kimya kimya muombe mungu amfungue mkeo,anasumbuliwa na pepo la ushindani...kujiona expensive...huu ni ubinafsi au kapata mwanaume mwingine?
     
  3. Pearl

    Pearl JF-Expert Member

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    Duh pole sana,pesa yote hiyo siwezi kutumia saloon tu hata nikipewa bure(zo hakuna cha bure)jaribu kuongea nae na kumueleza ugumu wa maisha kwa sasa,hata kama mna kisima cha kuchimba pesa lkn kisima hicho kinahitaji maintenance kwa jili ya pesa mo,mueleze malengo n mipango yenu mliopanga,yepi yametimia yepi hayajatimia na kwann,pangeni income and expenditure yenu,lakini ukiona hiyo pia haifanyi kazi jaribu kutafuta saloon kama hizo ananoenda yeye with te same facilities but cheaper in price mpe suprize trip huko atengenezwe na kupendezeswa as long as umeshajua siku zake za kwenda saloon,hope that will work out,pole sana.
     
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    Nightangale JF-Expert Member

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    nywele mara mbili kwa wiki anazifanya nini, masaji kila mara sijui ma pedikua na manikua wat for?
    its a complete misuse and abuse of family income/funds.
    Afu nimeshtukia kuna huduma nzuri tu unaweza kupata na kwa bei ya kawaida. Lakini hata kama mfuko unaruhusu, mara mbili kwa wiki saluni? sasa hizo nywele ndogo za nini na weave anasuka za nini? Mwambie abaki natural tu.
     
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    KIBE JF-Expert Member

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    Ndo maana wezenu tumeoa walimu lengo ni kuepukana na matatizo kama hayo.
    Utafiti unaonyesha asilimia kubwa ndoa ambazo mwanamke ana ela zinaleta shida ndani ya nyumba heshima inakuwa haipo.
    Haiwezekani mama mwenyenyumba unaondoka asubuhi hadi usiku ndo unarudi!!!! Wakati kuna majukumu ya mama kama mama anatakiwa ayafanye nyumbani?
    Hebu chunguza je kwa mshahara wake anaweza kulipa hizo gharama hizo mana hapa kwa hesabu zaharaka anakwenda saloon kwa mwezi mara 8?kama matumizi hayo makubwa kuliko kipato chake anapata wapi?.na je ni kweli huo muda wote anakuwa saloon? Au ndo kapata papaaa nje?

    Tatizo kuiga na ushindani wa wanawake matokeo yake wanajiingiza katika mambo ambayo siyo.
    Ushindani na matumizi mabaya ya fedha yanafanya ushindwe kutekeleza majukumu ya maendeleo katika familia.
    Pia hata kama una hela mwanamke unatakiwa kuwa na heshima kwa mumeo .
    Ushauri hebu kaa na mkeo mwambia vitu ambavyo vinakuboakutoka kwake.
     
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    Msindima JF-Expert Member

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    Imenichekesha hii.
     
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    roselyne1 JF-Expert Member

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    and why is that?
     
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    maarufu Member

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    Kwa nini usimtegee usiku ukamnyoa upara hayo yote yataisha itabaki masaji tu ambayo hata wewe unaweza kumfanyia.
     
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    Msindima JF-Expert Member

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    Kilichonichekesha my dear ulipoandika kuwa anasumbuliwa na hilo pepo, nimejaribu kufikiri nikaona ni kweli kwa sababu siku za jumapili ndo siku za kukaa na familia na kupumzika ili kujiandaa na wiki inayoanza sasa inakuwaje mtu aende salon siku nzima kama sio pepo la ushindani na kujiona expensive linamsumbua ni nini zaidi?
     
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    Preta JF-Expert Member

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    amekuwa spoiled na hivyo vitu....vinaspoil sana
     
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    semango JF-Expert Member

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    ni kweli alikua hivyo kabla ya kuoana?kama alikua hivyo then it seems ulikubaliana kua na mke wa namna hiyo so itakua ngumu sana kumshape sasa hivi.but kama hakua hivyo then ndio uanze kufatilia tatizo
     
  12. Lukolo

    Lukolo JF-Expert Member

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    Kumbe kama ulimkuta akiwa anafanya hayo, kinachokusumbua leo ni nini? Ungetaka kumbadilisha basi ungefanya hivyo tangu kwenye uchumba. Kwa sasa ni too late. Wanaume wengi huwa ni wanafiki, ukimpenda mwanamke basi unajitahidi kuonyesha kwamba umeridhika na anayoyafanya hata kama yanakuboa, hatusemi ukweli kwa kuhofia kumkosa. Ukishampata ndo unakunjua makucha, hapo utamlaumu bure huyo mwanamke.
     
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    vicenttemu Member

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    Pole man. Ask God, he 'll show u the way. He ddnt gv u a woman that would b a burden 2 u, he intends u to have a woman that 'll bring happiness to you.
     
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    babukijana JF-Expert Member

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    Kama anatumia pesa yote hiyo kwa salon sipati Picha bajeti yenu kwa mwezi ya köa kitu,inaelekea mko njema sana mkuu,vinginevyo naona kifo cha presha kinakunyemelea
     
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    Preacher JF-Expert Member

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    sasa shida ya huyu husband ni kuwa mkewe anaenda saloon expensive au ni kuwa anakawia kurudi saloon au yote mawili yanamchanganya??

    Kama ni saloon expensive - basi ndio lifestyle anayotaka huyu wife - naamini hata nguo zake ni expensive; hata nyumba wanayoishi ni expensive; hata magari waliyonayo ni expensive na wakati huyu husband anamchumbia - alikuwa ana outing expensive - na inawezekana familia hiyo ina mshiko wa kutosha - watoto wanasoma expensive school etc. - yaani ni familia ya kujirusha

    kuchelewa nyumbani - labda hili ndilo tatizo lako - kama umeshaona hata akilipa - ina maana ulim-escort .......au?? Afadhali ungesikitika kuwa huyu mama hana cha sundays (kwenda kusali) au Fridays .........kama ni moslem ..........yaani ni "kuuchakachua mwili wake" kwa kwenda mbele ............. bila shaka una-muadmire na anapenda kukufurahisha wewe mumewe ...........au???

    Ndio shida ya waswahili - kwani hizo fedha si angewasaidia hata watoto yatima na wajane wanaoteseka kuliko kufuja hivyo??? Ongea na mke wako na mwambie Mungu amembariki ili awe baraka kwa wengine pia - hayo maneno ni ya Mungu na yatamgusa moyoni na atabadilika.
     
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    mshikachuma JF-Expert Member

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    I thank all of u kwa kunipa majibu mazuri na yenye hekima zidi ya mamito wangu.
    Siyo siri nakereka na vitu hivyo 2. kupoteza mda salon na kuspend mo money ever
    where kwa ajiri ya mwili wake. Pia ni kweli nilimkuta ana mazoea ya kwenda salon,
    lakini si salon hizi za expensive? That time alikuwa anakwenda salon za uswazi na
    alirudi mapema sana home. Na kuhusu vipato vyetu -yeye ni msomi kidogo na amepata
    kazi mzuri kidogo kimshahara,na mimi ni wa A'level ya kuungaunga na naendesha bias
    hara zangu ma self [mjasilia mali]. Ahsanteni sana nitajaribu kukaanae tena ili nimpe
    somo upya kwa manufaa ya our future.
     
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    TUKUTUKU JF-Expert Member

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    Pole sana mkuu!sijui mlipendeana nini mbaka mkaoana,lakini inavyoonekana mwanamke uliyenaye hakufai kabisa.Tafadhari jipe muda zaidi ili umchunguze zaidi!!
     
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    LeopoldByongje JF-Expert Member

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    Huyo sikuwa anapenda Saloon expensive bali amelewa umaarufu na inawezekana ana mtu ambaye anamfinance na anapenda muonekanao wake. Mkuu sipendi kuingilia ndoa yako lakini inabidi ufahamu vionjo vya mkeo na pia gharama zinazoambatana na vionjo hivyo. Hata kama anakazi nzuri hawezi kumudu gharama za saloon laki moja mara bili kwa wiki mara wiki 52 za mwaka ni zaidi ya milioni kumi (100,000/= X 2 = 200000/= x 52 = 10,400.000/=). Kiasi hiki ni kikubwa sana hata kama ni asilimia moja ya mapato bado haiingii akilini. Jaribu kufuatilia usijekuwa una mwezio ambaye anatunza. Maana hayo Massage, manicure nk. Mhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Pole mwanakwetu.
     
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    afrodenzi Platinum Member

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    mmhhh kwakweli anaraha sana ...
    kweli wanawake tunapenda sana hivyo vitu ..
    lakini labda usimgombeze ka ulivyosema hapo juu..
    jaribu kuongea naye taratibu tu..
    halafu mwambie unamwomba aiweke familia kwanza
    kabla vitu hivyo..
    usikate kabisa ila apunguze tuu..
    maana ka amezoea kufanya hivyo vitu ni ngumu sana kuuacha..
    all the best

    AD
     
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    kasimba123 JF-Expert Member

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    hahahaha napenda lile wazo lililowahi kutolewa kuwa amuambie mkewe kuwa atatafuta nyumba ndogo ije ikae home
     
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