Mapenzi,mapenzi ,mapenzi,mara mwaume huyu kanitongoza,mara mwanamke huyu hivi lkn ni vizuri pia tukajua na kuchambua mapenzi na pia kuwakumbuka haswa wale watokao ktk muungano wetu wa mapenzi,hapa namaanisha watoto wetu. Mapenzi neno lenyewe ni pana asana lakini pia ni mjumuhisho wa watu na vitu vingi kama a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. Si vibaya leo tukajikumbusha majukum yetu kama wazazi na pia kutambua mchango wetu kwa watoto wetu! Take Care of the Biological Needs of Children The first role of the parents is to take care of their childs biological needs. Providing physical care to fulfill the needs of the child imply: proper food, fresh air, good lighting, enough sleep, recreation time, etc. Provide an Optimal Environment You have to provide a safe, nurturing and supportive environment that allows the children to grow healthy. For an optimal development, children need: adequate physical home environment; a tolerant and positive atmosphere; conditions for positive changes and improvements; opportunities to explore and experiment in his environment; consistent routine; etc. Protect Your Children Make sure their environment is safe. You have to protect your children, to warn them by telling what is safe to do and what isnt, before they venture out on their own. Teach your child the difference between right and wrong, and that wrong may be harmful both for him and for others Teach and Educate Your Child To raise your children properly, your duties arent limited to food, shelter and protection, but also require you to teach and educate them, to shape knowledge and character, to prepare your child to face the real world. So another parents role is to make possible learning of such actions as walking and talking, reading and writing (to facilitate learning of these activities, a parent must have patience and understanding). Provide Guidance, Direction, Assistance and Help Sit back and listen to your child, abstain from imposing your point of view and just offer appropriate direction and guidance. Another important role of parent is to provide guidance and assistance in the process of personal development and growth. The most effective way to help children is to advise them instead of commanding and to guide the progress of child development without doing his work (help them cope, but dont solve yourself their problems). Take Care of the Social Emotional Skills Another duty of you as a parent is to help your child to acquire emotional wellbeing. There are positive factors, such as: praise, encouragement, calm talk and response, affectionate attention, etc. that will help to build healthy emotions. Strive to eliminate negative factors such as will annihilation, sarcasm, neglect or bullying. Each child is unique, dont compare your child with others (especially when you observe a weakness), rather help him deal with being different and even encourage him to be unique. Assist children in learning how to express their feelings and desires and help them develop healthy relationships. Socialize your child. Discipline Gently Understand what the child is communicating directly or indirectly by his attitudes and behaviors. A major aspect of the parents role is to establish and maintain order in family by requesting a certain level of discipline. Always have a calm reaction, respond consistently, appropriately, and sensitively and gently give a corrective feedback to your child when his behavior is inappropriate. A calm and emphatic talk helps children become conscious of their mistakes. An upset reaction increases the tendency of child to defend him. You have to do what is best for your children, rather than overlook their ways of behaving in order to meet your need for silence. Practice a gentle but firm style of discipline. Kwa leo ni hayo tu,nawatakia malezi mema.