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10 signs you're being cheated on

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  1. GIB

    GIB JF-Expert Member

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    10 signs you're being cheated on

    Thinking your partner might be unfaithful can wreak havoc on relationships. But pretending everything’s fine when you just can’t shake that nagging suspicion can be just as dangerous. –Don’t pretend everything’s fine. If you suspect your partner is having an affair, look for these telltale signs. Of course, they’re not absolute proof your other half’s playing away but they may indicate something is amiss between the two of you.

    Leaving the room to make a call
    Usually your partner is happy gassing on the phone while you’re together but if you’ve noticed he or she leaves the room every time the phone rings then it could be because there’s something to hide.

    Working late

    If your partner’s work patterns have changed, it could be down to a new project or heavier workload, but you should also be wary that it’s not because of the appeal of spending late nights at the office with a favored work colleague or heading out with someone else. Don’t jump to conclusions but rather show an interest in what your partner’s working on to suss out whether the excuses seem realistic.

    Being vague
    If your partner is cheating on you then the devil is in the detail. Changing from being open with you to a being difficult to pin down on who he or she’s been talking to or going out with and reasons for getting home so late, might mean your partner’s not be being straight with you.

    Avoiding future plans

    Not wanting to commit to anything can be a sign of doubts. If your partner’s less enthusiastic than usual about a holiday you had in mind, or keeps on trying to put off plans you had together, such as moving house or booking festival tickets, then it’s worth asking why.

    Sudden need for privacy
    Being in a couple brings a certain amount of intimacy and sharing. If you feel your partner is becoming distant from you, either emotionally or physically, then it could be because there’s something to hide.

    Behaviour that doesn’t add up
    Use your intuition. If there’s something puzzling you about your partner’s behaviour then maybe you have good reason to be suspicious. It could be that an excuse for being late doesn’t tally with the facts or claiming to be short of money when you know it’s just been payday, but little inconsistencies tell their own story. Trust yourjudgment and if something makes you uneasy, bite the bullet and ask about it.

    A change in tastes or opinions

    One of the joys of being in a couple is discovering new things together and being on the same page. It can be jarring if your partner suddenly develops a passion for activities, foods and TV shows you’ve never seen and starts mouthing off with opinions you’ve never heard. If alarm bells are ringing, probe further about where these new found loves and opinion came from, and be on the lookout for clues of a third party.

    Making more of an effort
    You might appreciate your partner’s newfound attention to grooming but did it come out of the blue? In long term relationships, love may indeed be a little blind and a few too many of those cosy meals on the sofa often take their toll on your waistlines. But if your usually lazy partner starts buying new clothes, hitting the gym or booking beauty treatments, it could be to impress someone else.

    Guilt gifts
    Be aware of presents bestowed on you for no reason. Yes, it could be that your partner saw that fragrance and thought of you, but it could also be a sign of a guilty conscience.

    Spending less time with your friends and family

    If your beloved starts dropping out of plans you’ve made with your friends or family, and thinking up excuses not to see them, be wary. It could be a sign that you’re partner isn’t interested in making an effort with people in your life, which is bad enough, but it could also be because seeing the people who love you most only makes the guilt feel worse.
     
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    Bado niponipo sana . . . . . !
     
  3. Nyani Ngabu

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    Hakuna jipya hapo.

    Na infidelity is here to stay and I dare say it that men and women are neck and neck when it comes to it.
     
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    @NN, I thought u never cheat??
    What with the sudden change?
     
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    Did I say I cheat?
     
  6. Mkereketwa_Huyu

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    Ni kweli kabisa. Kwa hapa bongo kupata partner wako peke yako is unthinkable, kila mmoja ana share. Kwa kweli tutakwisha na hili gonjwa ukizingatia una demu halafu unamwacha nyumbani unaenda kuchapa rafiki yake, naye demu anaona umeondoka anaenda kuchapwa na chakubanga. Na chakubanga akimaliza, anarudi uswahilini kuchapa mwingine. Duh jamani nishikeni mkono nitaendelea kuanika maovu yetu humu, ohooo!
     
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    Ahaaa, so its like u are acknowledging that infidelity is here to stay but u don't play the game urself?
     
  8. Nyani Ngabu

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    I am a realist and I live in Realville and not fantasy land. I see what goes on in the real world and therefore I call it as I see it and I'm not in denial about it.

    Infidelity has been there since time immemorial. Acknowledging its existence is not confirmation of my partaking. You don't have to be a partaker to acknowledge such a naked fact.

    Did you get a D- in your Reading Comprehension 101 class?
     
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    Hahaha! I don't even remember seating to be tested. Thought I could outsmart my dumb head. Disappointed that u noticed hehehe
    (Moyo umepona? Nataka kukushona na shazia banaa)
     
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    What are you talking about now? I'm lost...
     
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    nimeisave kwa matumizi ya baadae.....:A S cry:
     
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    sawa sawa. kazi ni kwako
     
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    ...enyi wanaume wenzangu, women cheat "responsibly" ....itakuwa kazi bure kujaribu kumbana mkeo kwa dalili tajwa hapo juu.

    Haziwagusi hawa, -they are always a step ahead!- ....wamejaaliwa 'multitasking'....muishi nao kwa akili!
     
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    These are fairly accurate measures of infidelity,
    Ila sasa wabongo wengi hawana ukaribu wa hivyo kwenye ndoa zao. Utakuta mtu mumewe akiwa anaacha hela za matumizi na akirudi usiku wakalala wote ndio ndoa tayari na kamili kabisa- kiasi kwamba once hizi tabia zikianza mke hawezi kujua kabisa!
    Kitu nilichonote mimi ni kwamba mwanamke akiwa mfanyakazi ukimuuliza mumewe mara nyingi utakuta mwanaume anajua mkewe anafanya kazi gani. Ila wanawake sasa! yani wengi wataishia kujua tu labda mumewe anafanya kazi benki, ukimuuliza kazi gani hajui, hapo hata mumewe abadilike vipi hana Idea kabisa!
     
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    Dah!!!!!! Kazi kweli kweli.
     
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    Mh kwa niliyoyaona, yote uliyowaweka hapo ni kweli mkuu,
     
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    mie nawakalibisha kwenye chama cha mabachelor.....,hakuna haja ya kuchunguza kama uko cheated kila m2 na mpango wake, surely ni chama kizuri sana no stress.
     
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    katika maisha kuna vitu vingine havikwepeki ila mengine yanachangiwa na mhusika ukiamua kula chobingo jiandae kuishi kwa wasiwasi kama unaoga njee.
     
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