Castle
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- Jul 25, 2008
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Sometimes the guys who seem the most chivalrous are the guys to look out for
My friend Alexandra just had the most awful experience. She went out with a guy who seemed like the most thoughtful, polite guy in the world, but ended up being basically the biggest misogynist shes ever met. She said he was one degree removed from being the Preppy Murderer. We went out for dinner the other night and talked and came up with a series of signs that might indicate youre in for a bait-and-switch like this.
1) He wont let you open any door car, restaurant, your own apartment but you get the sense hes not completely listening to you. Opening doors can either be polite, or it can be a power play. Keep your eye out.
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2) Hes the kind of guy who calls your father sir, but isn't the kind of guy who might actually want to know anything about your father. Unless hes in the military, calling someone sir is suspect enough. But if hes the kind of guy who does it without having that underlying, genuine sense of respect its a sign youre dealing with a class-A manipulator.\
3) He likes the show Mad Men a little too much. For lots of men I know, its a lifestyle set-piece about a world where women should be seen and not heard.
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4) He refers to you, either while speaking to you or someone else, as miss. The guy my friend went out with said to the waitress at dinner, Miss Alex here will have the pan-seared halibut.
5) He orders your pan-seared halibut for you, and he doesnt make a joke about the fact that he's ordering your dinner; sure, this one can go either way, but again it's what's behind it. If it feels less like someones trying to do something nice for you than that someones trying to put you in your place... well, that's not good
My friend Alexandra just had the most awful experience. She went out with a guy who seemed like the most thoughtful, polite guy in the world, but ended up being basically the biggest misogynist shes ever met. She said he was one degree removed from being the Preppy Murderer. We went out for dinner the other night and talked and came up with a series of signs that might indicate youre in for a bait-and-switch like this.
1) He wont let you open any door car, restaurant, your own apartment but you get the sense hes not completely listening to you. Opening doors can either be polite, or it can be a power play. Keep your eye out.
Related: Why Men Love to Take Care of You!
2) Hes the kind of guy who calls your father sir, but isn't the kind of guy who might actually want to know anything about your father. Unless hes in the military, calling someone sir is suspect enough. But if hes the kind of guy who does it without having that underlying, genuine sense of respect its a sign youre dealing with a class-A manipulator.\
3) He likes the show Mad Men a little too much. For lots of men I know, its a lifestyle set-piece about a world where women should be seen and not heard.
Check out the five things men love about their wives that they never believe.
4) He refers to you, either while speaking to you or someone else, as miss. The guy my friend went out with said to the waitress at dinner, Miss Alex here will have the pan-seared halibut.
5) He orders your pan-seared halibut for you, and he doesnt make a joke about the fact that he's ordering your dinner; sure, this one can go either way, but again it's what's behind it. If it feels less like someones trying to do something nice for you than that someones trying to put you in your place... well, that's not good
