What Makes a Loving Wife Cheat?


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[FONT=&quot]You can't believe that circumstances have conspired to make your loving wife cheat on you and risk your marriage by doing so. You never thought she would be capable of such an act. Not only do you feel betrayed because she turned to another man but you also feel betrayed because she did something you would have never believed she could.

Why?

This question rings sadly through many marriages and the number is on the rise. It isn't limited to wives who cheat on their husbands. Women ask very similar questions when they learn their husbands have cheated as well.

It would be so much easier if you could just turn off the love and suddenly hate (or even better feel completely numb towards) your wife for cheating but that isn't the way love works. If it's any consolation, she is still the same loving wife today she was yesterday. She's just a little less perfect in your eyes. [/FONT]

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While we're on the subject, it's a good idea to talk a little about that perception of perfection and the pedestal that many men place their wives on. It's hard for many women to stand up to the constant pressure to live up to your expectations. You grew up on episodes of Leave it to Beaver (or perhaps the reruns) and may have a different view of how marriage should be in the modern world.

It's one thing for a woman to be the perfect wife when some man is writing the script for her and episodes last 30 minutes (minus commercial interruptions). It's another matter entirely when it comes to the daily grind, careers, children, expectations, headaches, hormones, and real life crashing in uninvited.

Your wife loves you and wants to make you happy. Sometimes, she feels it's impossible. She feels like a failure. And then, another man comes along and makes her feel special, wanted, and appreciated. [/FONT]

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She is putty in his hands and before she realizes what has happened, your loving wife has done the unthinkable. Is it your fault? Absolutely not! Does it mean she doesn't love you? No way! Could it have been prevented? Possibly. But don't let it get you down. I'm going to tell you what you can do to prevent it from ever happening again.

It's two easy peasy lemon squeezy steps. 1) Adjust your expectations. 2) Show her your appreciation. Do these two things and you'll see a huge difference in your marriage and in your wife.

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Women's relationships today follow
a very predictable pattern:
They push men for commitment
They get what they want
They lose interest in sex
They become attracted to someone else
They start cheating
They become angry and resentful
They begin telling their partners that they need time apart
They blame their partners for their behavior...and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, long period of time, they end their relationships or marriages.
 

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to me kuhalalisha umalaya wa mrs simply ni upumbqavu uliokubuhu at any measure unit

no cheating is noble and worth justification....upuzi mtupu!!!!!!

Yanayofanyika nyuma ya pazia wacha yaendelee hivyo hivyo---- na si kuyahalalisha, if we do that, then tutatafuta kingine cha kufanya nyuma ya pazia
 

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to me kuhalalisha umalaya wa mrs simply ni upumbqavu uliokubuhu at any measure unit

no cheating is noble and worth justification....upuzi mtupu!!!!!!
sometimes i wonder hii dunia tunaelekea wapi! mtu anakwambia adjust your expectations!!!! kwa mai waif?????
 

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kwangu hakuna uwezekano wa mke kuendelea kuitwa, pindi nikigundua amekwanyuliwa. the act, on itself, marks the end of everything.
 

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kwangu hakuna uwezekano wa mke kuendelea kuitwa, pindi nikigundua amekwanyuliwa. the act, on itself, marks the end of everything.
Now you have to be conscious that no one in this well never cheated....! But, it depends on what counts as cheating for you...!
 

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[FONT=&quot]You can't believe that circumstances have conspired to make your loving wife cheat on you and risk your marriage by doing so. You never thought she would be capable of such an act. Not only do you feel betrayed because she turned to another man but you also feel betrayed because she did something you would have never believed she could.

Why?

This question rings sadly through many marriages and the number is on the rise. It isn't limited to wives who cheat on their husbands. Women ask very similar questions when they learn their husbands have cheated as well.

It would be so much easier if you could just turn off the love and suddenly hate (or even better feel completely numb towards) your wife for cheating but that isn't the way love works. If it's any consolation, she is still the same loving wife today she was yesterday. She's just a little less perfect in your eyes. [/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]

While we're on the subject, it's a good idea to talk a little about that perception of perfection and the pedestal that many men place their wives on. It's hard for many women to stand up to the constant pressure to live up to your expectations. You grew up on episodes of Leave it to Beaver (or perhaps the reruns) and may have a different view of how marriage should be in the modern world.

It's one thing for a woman to be the perfect wife when some man is writing the script for her and episodes last 30 minutes (minus commercial interruptions). It's another matter entirely when it comes to the daily grind, careers, children, expectations, headaches, hormones, and real life crashing in uninvited.

Your wife loves you and wants to make you happy. Sometimes, she feels it's impossible. She feels like a failure. And then, another man comes along and makes her feel special, wanted, and appreciated. [/FONT]

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She is putty in his hands and before she realizes what has happened, your loving wife has done the unthinkable. Is it your fault? Absolutely not! Does it mean she doesn't love you? No way! Could it have been prevented? Possibly. But don't let it get you down. I'm going to tell you what you can do to prevent it from ever happening again.

It's two easy peasy lemon squeezy steps. 1) Adjust your expectations. 2) Show her your appreciation. Do these two things and you'll see a huge difference in your marriage and in your wife.

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RED: Stupid and so low of her to be carried away that easily...
BLUE: Her reasoning is worst...disqualifies her as the so called 'loving wife'..!!
 

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If one agrees to lead a marriage life(men and women alike)..there is no... not on earth.... any justfication to cheating behaviours...!!
 

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Una maanisha na yeye afaye vivyo hivyo pindi akigundua umekwanyua?:embarrassed:
on matter siwezi kuwa msemaji wake, ila kila binadam angependa kusamehewa akosapo....uamuz wa msamaha anao mkosewaji.
 

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