Wanawake na hofu ya kusaidiwa na nyumba ndogo

pauline said:
chochote unachoona kiko kny uwezo wako kifanye!!!.........................usitafute kisingizio cha kuwa lazy ili uvunje nyumba yako.............ukimwi unaua,sijui niko too westernized ila bado sijamfulia na kunyooshea mtu mzima nguo
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Nilidhani maisha ni kusaidiana, mume anafanya hili na mke anafanya lile ofcourse kama mama yupo busy na mwanaume hana kazi ya kufanya hakuna neno kama atafua nguo au kuingia jikoni...., kwahiyo nadhani kusaidiana kazi ni kuonyesha upendo na kushare responsibilities sio kwamba unaogopa mtu atakukimbia after all inabidi ufanye all the best you can na sio kumpa mtu excuse..., akikuacha isiwe because of you bali mapepe yake mwenyewe...., after all there is nothing better kama kutumia kitu kilichotengenezwa kwa mapenzi na Mrs....., somethimes small things matter a lot
 
VoiceOfReason said:
Nilidhani maisha ni kusaidiana, mume anafanya hili na mke anafanya lile ofcourse kama mama yupo busy na mwanaume hana kazi ya kufanya hakuna neno kama atafua nguo au kuingia jikoni...., kwahiyo nadhani kusaidiana kazi ni kuonyesha upendo na kushare responsibilities sio kwamba unaogopa mtu atakukimbia after all inabidi ufanye all the best you can na sio kumpa mtu excuse..., akikuacha isiwe because of you bali mapepe yake mwenyewe...., after all there is nothing better kama kutumia kitu kilichotengenezwa kwa mapenzi na Mrs....., somethimes small things matter a lot
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soma michango ya wakaka na baadhi ya wadada humu utajua haiko kotekote....maisha ni mke kumtumikia bwana tu....mnh,karibu sana VOR where have you been...tumemiss michango yako......
 
pauline said:
hapo nilipobold mwanajamii huoni na wewe umeingia kny huu mtego wa kuwa mtumwa kwa kuogopa nyumba ndogo?sijakataa usimfulie mumeo ninachopinga in return mbona mume hajishughulisha na yeye kukufulia siku moja moja???hayo mapenzi mapenzi gani ya upande mmoja???kwani yeye ndio hapendi akuone unavutia mitaani?mbona asijishughulishe????mie ningependa kuconduct survey kuona wanaume wenye nyumba ndogo kama hawafuliwi na kunyooshewa nyumnbani?lol:lol:
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Pole mpenzi wangu sikuwa nimeiona hii post pauline. Well kutokumpatia sababu ya kwenda nyumba ndogo pauline sikumaanisha kuwa unakuwa mwoga wa nyumba ndogo la hasha hapo nilimaanisha epuka kumpatia kisingizio cha kujustify nyumba ndogo yake. ..... sijasema kuwa hana au hatakuwa nayo. Cha msingi ni kuwa aitafute kwa matakwa yake na mapenzi yake lakini si kwa kukosa amani nyumbani kwangu mie kama mkewe, si kwa kukosa heshima/heshimiwa, si kwa kukosa huduma yoyote anayostahili kupewa na mimi kama mkewe............juzi tulipewa somo la gubu, radhau na jeuri na jinsi vinavyohatarisha ndoa zetu.

utakapoanza kujiuliza maswali kama yako, ya why mimi tu nimfanyie hivi, why mimi, why,why and why inakubidi ukae chini na kuanza kujichunguza kama upendo wako kwake bado imara kama ule uliokuwa nao wakati wa ubf au uchumba. Sikatai kuwa yeye hapaswi kukusaidia la hasa naye yu apaswa tena sana but afanye kwa mapenzi yake si kwa kushrtishwa mpenzi wangu.......... akifanya kwa kushrtishwa (eti kwa kuwa wewe umefanya jana na juzi) haina ladha ya mapenzi. Mie akinipikia chakula kwa kuwa ni zamu yake wala sitashtuka but itokee narudi nakuta anakaangiza.......... ntasisimkwa mpaka unywele!
 
pauline said:
nimegundua hili ni tatizo la wanawake wengi,wanakuwa kwenye mahusiano kimachale machale saa yoyote mumewe anaweza kuwa na nyumba ndogo.....hofu hii imepelekea kuwafanya kuwa watumwa wa ndoa zao,atajitahidi amtreat mumewe kama mfalme/bossi lol,atamfulia,atamnyooshea nguo,atajitahidi awe anaamka mapema amtengenezee chai.........akihofia asipofanya haya mumewe ataenda nyumba ndogo.............................wakina kaka kuweni rensponsible kidogo...chochote unachoona kiko kny uwezo wako kifanye!!!.........................usitafute kisingizio cha kuwa lazy ili uvunje nyumba yako.............ukimwi unaua,sijui niko too westernized ila bado sijamfulia na kunyooshea mtu mzima nguo:smash::smash::smash: hata kupika nitajitahidi kumshirikisha na yeye alternative days...lol
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siweki neno hapa kama vile tunadanganyana
 
Binafsi nimejifunza kitu kutoka ktk hii thread, nitajitahidi kufanya kila niwezalo kwa ajili ya shemeji yenu (my gf)!
 
nyumba kubwa said:
Nyumbani kwangu ni marufuku kufua chupi sijuhi boxers kutumia machine kwa sababu nina watoto wadogo na siamini sabuni zinaua wadudu wote. Naona vibaya kufua nguo za wanangu kwenye machine inayofua chupi za watu wazima. And mind you kuna other family members kama h/girls ambao wakiona unafua chupi kwa machine they will do the same kama wana magonjwa yao uoni kuwa ni hatatri kwa watoto.
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Kwani boxers na shati au fulana tofauti yake nini? Labda kama unaivaa siku nne na chini kunatoa jasho or something...ila ni nguo tu,na kama kila saa kumi na mbili unaibadilisha sioni uchafu wowote....labda kuna watu huwa usafi chini ni noma.
Halafu maambukizo gani?...detergents zinaua vijidudu vyote hata vya kikwapa,
Baada ya hapo,dryer inamalizia.......unanikumbusha mshikaji alikuja kutembelea huku akawa anafua boxers akioga,halafu anaanika bathroom
That was just creepy.
 
pauline said:
soma michango ya wakaka na baadhi ya wadada humu utajua haiko kotekote....maisha ni mke kumtumikia bwana tu....mnh,karibu sana VOR where have you been...tumemiss michango yako......
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Thanks a lot Pauline nilikuwa nina committments kidogo nikajipiga BAN...

Hao makaka ambao wanadhani wake zao wapo kuwatumikia wanaishi katika old stone age...., tena nadhani siku hizi unakuta kazi nyingi anafanya mfanyakazi.., sio kwamba ni vibaya bali ni kutokana kwamba wote wapo busy basi inabidi wapate msaada...., lakini nadhani unakubaliana na mimi kwamba hakuna jambo zuri kama hata mpenzi wako akikupa mkate au chakula hata kama kimeungua ni kuonyesha upendo na kusaidiana....., kwahiyo awe mwanaume au mwanamke nadhani kufanyiana vitu kunazidisha mshikamano baina yenu kuliko kila mtu kumind issue zake..., na wale wanaokimbilia nyumba ndogo kwa kusingizia hiki au kile wanatafuta sababu tu.
 
Keren_Happuch said:
Uporoto,
Akakufanyia hayo yote halfu ukamuacha...mhhhh!!!

Mzima lakini wewe? Nakutakia weekend njema!
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Si unajua tena smily 2(Pauline-smily 1)mambo ya first love ni kama driving school kila mmoja akishafuzu anatafuta mwingine.Nawe pia nakutakia weekend njema.

pauline said:
bora wewe Uporoto ulikuwa unajishughulisha kidogo,wenzio hata hawajishughulishi wanaona ni haki wao kufanyiwa tu ila wasifanye lolote....
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Mi pia ni mpishi mzuri ntawaalika smily wote wawili for lunch one of these days.
 
uporoto01 said:
Pauline hujapata bado mtu unayempenda kwa dhati acha kufua,kupika na kumpigia pasi utafanya vitu hata hujawaza maishani lol! Mimi kuna msichana alinipenda alikuwa anakuja kwangu na kufanya vyote hivyo na kuninunulia nguo,viatu perfumes hadi chupi hahaha!
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mhh.... ndoa ngumu saaaana wajameni!!
 
nyumba kubwa said:
Mume wangu ni smart sana, kwa hiyo sijawahi kumyooshea nguo kwani anaona yeye hiyo kazi anaiweza zaidi. Lakini kufua nafua. Tuna washing machine nguo zinafuliwa na machine. boxers zake nafua kwa mikono yangu na wala sioni kama ni kuonewa kwa kuwa NAMPENDA kupita maelezo!

Inategemea uko kwenye stage gani ya ndoa. Kwani nakumbuka nilipoolewa nilienda kwa wakwe zangu. Wakati nimekaa nje nafua mume wangu akaja kunisaidia imagine mbele ya mama na bibi yake! Bibi akasema unabahati umepata mume anayekujali.

But with time aliacha kufua na mimi mwenyewe nguo zangu na zake nafua kwa nadra sana kwani tuna H/girl na machine. Ila chupi namfulia na nitaendelea kufanya hivyo.

Hivi kwa Tz kuna kazi gani mpaka mtu utake mume nae akusaidie. Kwa sababu unaweza kuwa na mahouse girl hata wawili sasa sioni kwa nini umpigishe deki mtoto wa mwenzio.

Hao wanaokaa ulaya waache wasaidiane kwani najua mziki wa kuishi nje hamna cha housegirl kwa hiyo msaada ni muhimu.
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He is a lucky man to have you as his wife. Congratulations! for being a good house wife.
 
I THINK HOFU HII INATOKANA NA LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE IN MARRIED WOMEN...they dnt blv in themselves dat they are able 2 cntrol their huzbs...they dnt learn new ways of meking their huzbs happy,coz they ctl dnt realyz da main reason of their huzbs to hav nyumba ndg,ukiachana na mambo ya kumpkia,kumfulia,kumpa zawad nk. kitu ambacho most huzbs lyk ni pale their wives wanapoweka a romantic environment wen they (huzbs) are back at home,hawatafti nyumba ndg ili wafuliwe nguo bali kupata yale mambo ya zero distance...

also there's s'thing called COURTESY,da dictionary defynz it as 'gracious politeness...a considerate act or remark'...Ralph Emerson penetrated 2 da very heart of da word wen he wrote,"LOVE IS THE BASIS OF COURTESY"...ONE MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR said dat a lack of courtesy on da part of HUZB OR WYF is da basic cauz of 80% of da estrangements,quarrels n separation in married lyf...Courtesy shuld b da rule btn wapendanao,it shuld b manifested thru kindnec,even wen misteks are made,it will soften n help 2 solve misunderstandings,it will guard da ton of voic n RECOGNYZ THE WORTH OF THE ONE U LOVE....HICHI NDO KICWA CHA MALAVDAV...
 
pamoja na mambo mengine yanayopelekea nyumba ndogo,ikiwemo tamaa zetu tu wanaume and alike,mitazamo kama hii kwa wadada ndio inapelekea ongezeko la nyumba ndogo.kwanini tu usiwe MWANAMKE?kujaribu kupingana na asili kama matokeo ya westernization na mazao ya makongamano kama lile la beijing,sterio-types tu za mtaani na kujaribu kuishi maisha ya kwenye tamthilia,hasa kwa dada zetu,yataendelea kuathiri sana ndoa na jamii zetu waafrika.yalianza huko kwa wazungu na sasa yanakuja kwa kasi kwenye jamii yetu!hebu tuwe waafrika kwa mambo yasiyotudhuru,tuna tamaduni na mila za kwetu jamani.elimu,kazi,kipato,historia ya familia,exposure etc. havikufanyi usiwe mwanamke au mwanaume!!
 
pauline said:
: hata kupika nitajitahidi kumshirikisha na yeye alternative days...lol
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ukisaga nyanya yeye anakata vitunguu. Lol.Tatizo wanaume wa siku hizi wanaoa kisa wamechoka kujipikia, kujifulia.. Mara wamechoka kujifungulia mageti wakirudi, wengine wameachiwa watoto hvyo wanaoa ili wapate mlezi wa watoto wao. Hapo mwanamke lazima uwe uchakarishwe hata kama hupendi.
 
Kwa nini kupenda kuiga kila kitu kutoka kwa weupe? Africa tuna utaratibu wetu, tuuenzi huone madume ya kizungu yatakavyowapenda zaidi waafrika. Mambo ya nyumba ndogo ni tabia tu ya mtu. Myself sijawahi kuwa na nyumba ndogo labda ku ..... ebu kidogo
 
Pauline

Of all your threads zako nimesoma this is so useful to me
Thank you…
 
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