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The Pursuit Of Extramarital Happiness
Will Smith explains the rules of his open marriage.
Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, who have been married for 11 years, have permission to sleep with other people. The enduring rumour is enjoying another lap round the internet this week in light of an interview Will gave Reveal magazine. "Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural and you're going to be attracted to people," Will says. "And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: 'Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I'm not going to if you don't approve of it.' In our marriage vows, we didn't say 'forsaking all others.' We said 'you will never hear I did something afterwards.'" So elegant!
That might not be the most romantic line for a vow, but it seems to be working. For Will, at least. It sounds like Jada has never taken advantage of the fidelity loophole. "I don't know how I'd feel [if Jada slept with someone else]," he confesses. "But I know I would react better than if I found out about it afterwards." Will doesn't say he's taken advantage of the solemn vow to sleep around either, but considering how detailed his hypothetical scenario is, it's clearly crossed his mind once or twice or every day for the past eleven years.
Along with the occasional extra-curricular love affairs, Will and Jada have sought out advice from fallen Hollywood super couples Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise to get pointers on strengthening their marriage. "With Bruce and Demi, we spent hours talking to them," Will says. "And Tom and Nicole--hours, just trying to understand what happened. I don't let a day go past that Jada doesn't feel like the Queen of the World." Jada feels like Queen Elizabeth
After countless hours of golden couple grilling, that's the big lesson? Um, ok. We're pretty sure Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman didn't break up because Nicole didn't make Tom feel special enough. Tom always feels special. That's the problem. Demi we could see needing a little more reinforcement, like "baby, you look exactly the same as you did in 1990" or "honey, your cosmetically-enhanced knees are looking so taut." At least that's a better lesson for the masses than "ask before you cheat."

Will Smith explains the rules of his open marriage.
Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, who have been married for 11 years, have permission to sleep with other people. The enduring rumour is enjoying another lap round the internet this week in light of an interview Will gave Reveal magazine. "Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural and you're going to be attracted to people," Will says. "And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: 'Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I'm not going to if you don't approve of it.' In our marriage vows, we didn't say 'forsaking all others.' We said 'you will never hear I did something afterwards.'" So elegant!
That might not be the most romantic line for a vow, but it seems to be working. For Will, at least. It sounds like Jada has never taken advantage of the fidelity loophole. "I don't know how I'd feel [if Jada slept with someone else]," he confesses. "But I know I would react better than if I found out about it afterwards." Will doesn't say he's taken advantage of the solemn vow to sleep around either, but considering how detailed his hypothetical scenario is, it's clearly crossed his mind once or twice or every day for the past eleven years.
Along with the occasional extra-curricular love affairs, Will and Jada have sought out advice from fallen Hollywood super couples Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise to get pointers on strengthening their marriage. "With Bruce and Demi, we spent hours talking to them," Will says. "And Tom and Nicole--hours, just trying to understand what happened. I don't let a day go past that Jada doesn't feel like the Queen of the World." Jada feels like Queen Elizabeth
After countless hours of golden couple grilling, that's the big lesson? Um, ok. We're pretty sure Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman didn't break up because Nicole didn't make Tom feel special enough. Tom always feels special. That's the problem. Demi we could see needing a little more reinforcement, like "baby, you look exactly the same as you did in 1990" or "honey, your cosmetically-enhanced knees are looking so taut." At least that's a better lesson for the masses than "ask before you cheat."