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The Most Ridiculous Fights Ever

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by BAK, Oct 4, 2009.

  1. BAK

    BAK JF-Expert Member

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    The Most Ridiculous Fights Ever

    Couples dish on the stupidest and silliest fights they've ever had, and The Nest chimes in with tips on how to be sure you're fighting fair.
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    I was chopping tomatoes for dinner and my husband thought I was doing it wrong. I finished cooking dinner and he refused to eat it. Instead, he ordered pizza with every single topping I don't like. — court&john
    We had a standoff for almost a week to see who would give in first and finally buy toilet paper. For the record, I won. — steve+mel
    How to pronounce Cameron Diaz's name. I said "dee-oz" and he insisted it was "dee-as." Who cares? I didn't speak to him for the rest of the night. — mcnam002
    We got into a fight while assembling the furniture in our new house. If we made it through that, we'll make it through anything! — AubreyDub
    It was over a t-shirt.'Nuff said. A t-shirt! — aim7896
    Whether or not to tuck in the sheets at the end of the bed — every time I make the bed, I tuck them in, and every night, he untucks them. — KDTully
    Fighting Fair
    Some of your relationship fights may not be as silly as these. Here are some rules about fighting fairly, so you can get the most out of the argument:

    1. Avoid repeats: If you find you're fighting about the same thing over and over again, your heated words aren't effective, no matter how many times you say them. Find a new method. It might mean that you have to compromise or see a professional mediator (like a religious official or therapist).
    2. Be open-minded: As hard as it sounds, put yourself in your mate's shoes to consider his point of view. Can you empathize at all? Try to. And explain yourself so he can do the same.
    3. Listen: Don't cut each other off. The best way to get the most out of an argument is to really hear what the other person is saying and to try to figure out where she's coming from. The only way to do that is to stop thinking about how pissed off you are and to listen. So don't plan the next point you're going to make; try to learn more about the cause of this tiff. Oh, and keep your voice down. Everything sounds and seems much worse when it's loud.
    4. Remember the real point: As much as you want to be right the purpose of argument is to learn more about your partner and what you need from each other. Try to find a compromise so neither of you has to"win" (unless one of you really screwed up). That way, the real point of this disagreement is fighting for your relationship.
    5. And remember: It takes two to tango, so keep in mind that no matter how you slice it you're half the problem. But if you talk to each other openly and with respect, you'll quickly kiss and make up.
  2. WomanOfSubstance

    WomanOfSubstance JF-Expert Member

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    Mara nyingi couples hugombana kwa vitu vidogo sana - hii hutokana na backgrounds tofauti za malezi, umimi, kutokubali kuona umeshindwa, nk.

    Kumbe basi ingewezekana kukwepa ugomvi kwa kukubali yaishe.Fikiria watu wanagombania namna ya kutandika kitanda, kukata nyanya n.k.Kuna couple moja walikuwa wanagombania kuchonga nanasi, matokeo yake katika purukushani za kunyang'anyana, mmoja akamchoma mwenzie kisu kile na kumuua! Mwisho ukawa mbaya sana - ilikuwa rahisi tu kuachiana kisu kile na kutafuta kitu kingine cha kufanya.

    Wewe mwanaume unayekasirika kisa mkeo kakukatia vibaya nanasi au katandika kitanda vibaya kwanini usiwe wa kwanza kuonyesha mfano badala ya kusubiri mwenzio afanye halafu uje kwa jeuri zote kumkosoa?

    Mimi mwenyewe jana nilijikuta kwenye hali kidogo kama hii ambapo mwenzangu alidhani nilipoweka bouquet la maua sipo na akataka nilihamishie pengine.Mimi sikupenda kulihamishia hapo alipotaka yeye, lakini kwa vile sikutaka malumbano, nilikubali kulihamishia alipotaka yeye.Matokeo yake, hata yeye akaona kachemsha maana halikupendezea hapo.Mbona aliniomba nilirudishe pale nilipoliweka mwanzo! Nilicheka sana na kumwambia - kwani mwenzangu mpaka nikaliweka hapo sikuwa nimeona? Lol! Tukaishia kucheka badala ya kugombana.