Single Mothers.......

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Very true
What if I said after reading the article in the Citizens Newspaper it reminds you of your ex lover who is a single mother and this leads you to feel sorry for her (kumuonea huruma au have sympathy with her) sijui kama nimepatia tafsiri maana transaltion ya lugha ni shiida. Hence decide to share with us, its no harm but what I wanted to say is, its not right to think that this single moms wanahitaji kuonewa huruma au walionewa before na wanaume (not all the time). Instead you would have bring the topic and let people discuss single moms in every angle as everyone sees them.

Still I do not have the right kukukosoa but it is just my thoughts.

Back to the topic: I have bad experience of single moms, this mom was using us the relatives of the father of her child as a source of earning money. It reached a point she was teaching her child to call us and tell us that her mom needs help to raise her WHILE we were taking every care of her child every bill you know for a child.
Ilifika kipindi tukatamani kumchukua mtoto tukae nae coz tuliona anamfundisha tabia mbaya mtoto bu haikuwa rahisi. For that naona single mom ana behave vibaya.

In other way, kuna single mom wako perfect hadi unasikia raha, yaani mtoto ana adabu, respect na mama ana respect mahusiano yake bila ku effect mtoto. Mama anajituma na ni mchaparikaji akikwama anaomba msaada wa ku boostiwa sio kumtumia mtoto kuomba kila kitu khaaa .

HELLO to all single moms sina uzoefu nao hivo siwahukumu ila napenda wa behave mbele ya watoto na kuwafundisha watoto tabia njema regardless what.

OUT OF TOPIC: I respect single Dads as inajulikana malezi ni ya mama, ukikuta baba analea mtoto wake bila mama na mtoto yuko vizuri in tabia na kila kitu. I give BIG RESPECT.

Kasie.
 
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Today I would like to celebrate single mothers. I may not have been raised by one but the burden of single motherhood is not lost on me.

One of my ex is a single mother. She has one lovely boy! From what i see her go through, my admiration and respect for her goes higher each day.

Single mother is a parent who stayed when things went awry and the man walked away. The single mother stood by her children and took the challenge head on! To me a single mother is the definition of wonder woman. Her salary and everything is not hers but belongd to her children.

She is the man and woman of the house,she pays the bills single-handedly,draws up family budget and ensure the salary lasts up to next pay. You can not compare a single mother to a married woman who has support of a husband from home to paedriatic wing!

Single mother watch over her son/daughter all by herself and still make it to work next day and whenever the children begin to ask 'where is daddy?' she has to come up with an answer solid and wise enough for the sake of peace and to protect her children.

Yet the society ostracizes the single mother and 'slut-shames' her! Why is she a single mother? Cant she keep a man? And how dare she have children before marriage? We dont know maybe she left an abusive marriage to protect her children from a violent childhood. Or we dont realize she is the parent who stayed when the man walked out on her and refused even to take care of the children. We dont even think may be she is a widow!

We dont celebrate single mothers enough because their strength and tenacity intimidate us and we are left wondering how can a woman possess so much strength?!! And when she decides to get herself out there and meet new man we tell her she is too old,used to get a man! She is damaged goods. That she has too much buggage and she should be happy alone.Some even say she doesnt deserve dowry! We give her side eye as if single mothers do not deserve love.

We call her a loose woman for having children by one man and going out with another yet we celebrate men with children from different women! This has to stop

I SALUTE ALL STRONG SINGLE MOTHERS OUT THERE

Source: The Citizen.
GREAT ARTICLE INDEED. BUT LET ME PUT IT CLEAR THAT HAVING CHILDREN WHILE THE PARENTS ARE NOT IN A MARRIAGE IS A CURSE. ANYONE CAN DO THEIR ON RESEARCH ON THIS, IN FACT THOSE CHILDREN ARE KNOWN AS "BASTARDS". IT'S A DISGRACE EVEN TO OUR SOCIETIES. PERSONALLY I SUPPORT SINGLE MOTHERS WHO ARE OR WHERE BEFORE ALREADY IN A MARRIAGE.
 
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Hivi pacha wangu huyuhuyu ndo alianzisha hili lisiredi?
 
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Its a good article.... Imeniingia akilini na nimeielewa sana kama sio kuikubali mantiki.

Ila ikumbukwe pia kuwa a mans heart is different from that of a woman ndio maana its a rare case single mom kupata a promising relationship while a single dad can get any relationship he wants because always the kid at hand will stir pain in a man while to a woman it may stir sympathy.

all in all a single mum makes me regret my past choices.

hats down to single mum that dont depend on tips from bf or relatives.
Fundichupi uko wapi aisee nataka unishonee chupi
 
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Huo ndio u selfish ambao akina mzabzab wanausema....unajali matakwa yako tu, vipi haki ya mtoto kulelewa na baba na mama?
Sasa inafikaga wakati umri unaenda na haupo na mwanaume wa kueleweka..ndo tuseme ubaki bila mtoto eti kisa ukizaa atakosa malezi ya baba? Mm mwenye apa bado naangalia upepo tuu ela ikisimama vzuri na nikianza nusa 30 basi ntazaa tuu yann kusubiri ndoa na 30+ imekufika. all in all hakuna mwanamke anaependa kulea mtoto peke ake.
 

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