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Today I would like to celebrate single mothers. I may not have been raised by one but the burden of single motherhood is not lost on me.

One of my ex is a single mother. She has one lovely boy! From what i see her go through, my admiration and respect for her goes higher each day.

Single mother is a parent who stayed when things went awry and the man walked away. The single mother stood by her children and took the challenge head on! To me a single mother is the definition of wonder woman. Her salary and everything is not hers but belongd to her children.

She is the man and woman of the house,she pays the bills single-handedly,draws up family budget and ensure the salary lasts up to next pay. You can not compare a single mother to a married woman who has support of a husband from home to paedriatic wing!

Single mother watch over her son/daughter all by herself and still make it to work next day and whenever the children begin to ask 'where is daddy?' she has to come up with an answer solid and wise enough for the sake of peace and to protect her children.

Yet the society ostracizes the single mother and 'slut-shames' her! Why is she a single mother? Cant she keep a man? And how dare she have children before marriage? We dont know maybe she left an abusive marriage to protect her children from a violent childhood. Or we dont realize she is the parent who stayed when the man walked out on her and refused even to take care of the children. We dont even think may be she is a widow!

We dont celebrate single mothers enough because their strength and tenacity intimidate us and we are left wondering how can a woman possess so much strength?!! And when she decides to get herself out there and meet new man we tell her she is too old,used to get a man! She is damaged goods. That she has too much buggage and she should be happy alone.Some even say she doesnt deserve dowry! We give her side eye as if single mothers do not deserve love.

We call her a loose woman for having children by one man and going out with another yet we celebrate men with children from different women! This has to stop

I SALUTE ALL STRONG SINGLE MOTHERS OUT THERE

Source: The Citizen.
 
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Its a good article.... Imeniingia akilini na nimeielewa sana kama sio kuikubali mantiki.

Ila ikumbukwe pia kuwa a mans heart is different from that of a woman ndio maana its a rare case single mom kupata a promising relationship while a single dad can get any relationship he wants because always the kid at hand will stir pain in a man while to a woman it may stir sympathy.

all in all a single mum makes me regret my past choices.

hats down to single mum that dont depend on tips from bf or relatives.
 
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Its a good article.... Imeniingia akilini na nimeielewa sana kama sio kuikubali mantiki.

Ila ikumbukwe pia kuwa a mans heart is different from that of a woman ndio maana its a rare case single mom kupata a promising relationship while a single dad can get any relationship he wants because always the kid at hand will stir pain in a man while to a woman it may stir sympathy.

all in all a single mum makes me regret my past choices.

hats down to single mum that dont depend on tips from bf or relatives.
This is more a stereotype/culture thing than a 'heart'
 
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Regardless of how well u wana make it look but deep down selfishness is wat led them to being single mothers.
 
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Mmmh tungekuwa tunawaappreciate hivi kila siku, daah mbona Ingekuwa poa sana. Some shoes are too big to fill, regardless waliamua kuwa single mothers or whatever. Kulea mtoto/ watoto on your own isn't a joke. Kuna muda hata uwe na pesa kiasi gani, unawish angekuwepo mtu tu wa kukushika mkono. Imagine una mtoto usiku kazidiwa ghafla unamkimbiza hospitalini Peke yako, unakesha alone hadi asubuhi, unatamani angekuwepo mtu (baba) hata akuhug tu na kukutia moyo but ndo hayupo

Heshima hizi za kipekee kabisa ziwaendee pia wanawake wote ambao wameolewa na " zaidi ya married singles". Mtoto anachokijua kuhusu baba yake ni surname aliyompa na sura ya mzee wake anayoiona akiamka asubuhi na akirudi kalewa chakari au kahamia kwa mama mdogo. Mama ndo anajua watoto wanakula nini, wanavaa nini, ada ya shule, wakiumwa na Kila kitu. Mama akitetereka tu kidogo, basi watoto imewacost. Ila angalau hata hawa watoto wamepata neema ya kumuita mtu "baba". Respect to our mothers
 
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This is more a stereotype/culture thing than a 'heart'
unasema hivo kwa experience au mada za kusoma gazetini tu....

Uzi wako ni mzuri ila hizi opinion sasa zitaboa na kuharibu uzi, ukiona mwanaume anakaa/anaishi full time sio kuwapeleka watoto boarding school na likizo kuwapeleka wakatembee kwa ndugu, ila ni analea full time watoto ambao sio wa damu yake mheshimu maana hujui anashindana vipi na odds anazokumbana nazo kisaikolojia na kihisia ili awe an idol to the kids na kuwapa a promising future.

ukisha experience haya na ukayaweza bila wivu,chuki na manyanyaso kwa mtoto wa kufikia ndio utajua kama ni stereotype/culture ama ni a heart thing.
 
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unasema hivo kwa experience au mada za kusoma gazetini tu....

Uzi wako ni mzuri ila hizi opinion sasa zitaboa na kuharibu uzi, ukiona mwanaume anakaa/anaishi full time sio kuwapeleka watoto boarding school na likizo kuwapeleka wakatembee kwa ndugu, ila ni analea full time watoto ambao sio wa damu yake mheshimu maana hujui anashindana vipi na odds anazokumbana nazo kisaikolojia na kihisia ili awe an idol to the kids na kuwapa a promising future.

ukisha experience haya na ukayaweza bila wivu,chuki na manyanyaso kwa mtoto wa kufikia ndio utajua kama ni stereotype/culture ama ni a heart thing.

everyone is entitled to her/his opinion...
 
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i respect women who show some respect.
Teh teh teh teh, basi respect yako ina ualakini, alafu usiniongeleshe kiinglish maana sina hela sasahivi, nikichacha kingreza huwa hakipandi bwana.
 
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Mmmh tungekuwa tunawaappreciate hivi kila siku, daah mbona Ingekuwa poa sana. Some shoes are too big to fill, regardless waliamua kuwa single mothers or whatever. Kulea mtoto/ watoto on your own isn't a joke. Kuna muda hata uwe na pesa kiasi gani, unawish angekuwepo mtu tu wa kukushika mkono. Imagine una mtoto usiku kazidiwa ghafla unamkimbiza hospitalini Peke yako, unakesha alone hadi asubuhi, unatamani angekuwepo mtu (baba) hata akuhug tu na kukutia moyo but ndo hayupo

Heshima hizi za kipekee kabisa ziwaendee pia wanawake wote ambao wameolewa na " zaidi ya married singles". Mtoto anachokijua kuhusu baba yake ni surname aliyompa na sura ya mzee wake anayoiona akiamka asubuhi na akirudi kalewa chakari au kahamia kwa mama mdogo. Mama ndo anajua watoto wanakula nini, wanavaa nini, ada ya shule, wakiumwa na Kila kitu. Mama akitetereka tu kidogo, basi watoto imewacost. Ila angalau hata hawa watoto wamepata neema ya kumuita mtu "baba". Respect to our mothers
Penda sana wewe mwanamke ubarikiwe...! Shida wakisifiwa mibichwa inawavimba waache kuwa desperate wakijipanga waweza kuwa na wenza shida yao wazazi wenzao wengi wao ni michepuo yao...! NDOA NA IHESHIMIWE NA WATU WOTE ATA WALIO IKOSA...
 

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Teh teh teh teh, basi respect yako ina ualakini, alafu usiniongeleshe kiinglish maana sina hela sasahivi, nikichacha kingreza huwa hakipandi bwana.


hahahaha! wee atoto unachekesha mchungaji!!! usingle mother ni ajali, ingawa sasa ivi mabinti hawajitambui wanajingiza kwny mahsiano bila utaratibu
 
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hahahaha! wee atoto unachekesha mchungaji!!! usingle mother ni ajali, ingawa sasa ivi mabinti hawajitambui wanajingiza kwny mahsiano bila utaratibu
Na wengine wanaamua kabisa kuwa single moms maana hata wanaume nao hawajitambui, so unaamua tu kuwa na kababy kako maisha yasonge.
 
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Na wengine wanaamua kabisa kuwa single moms maana hata wanaume nao hawajitambui, so unaamua tu kuwa na kababy kako maisha yasonge.
Huo ndio u selfish ambao akina mzabzab wanausema....unajali matakwa yako tu, vipi haki ya mtoto kulelewa na baba na mama?
 
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What if I said after reading the article in the Citizens Newspaper it reminds you of your ex lover who is a single mother and this leads you to feel sorry for her (kumuonea huruma au have sympathy with her) sijui kama nimepatia tafsiri maana transaltion ya lugha ni shiida. Hence decide to share with us, its no harm but what I wanted to say is, its not right to think that this single moms wanahitaji kuonewa huruma au walionewa before na wanaume (not all the time). Instead you would have bring the topic and let people discuss single moms in every angle as everyone sees them.

Still I do not have the right kukukosoa but it is just my thoughts.

Back to the topic: I have bad experience of single moms, this mom was using us the relatives of the father of her child as a source of earning money. It reached a point she was teaching her child to call us and tell us that her mom needs help to raise her WHILE we were taking every care of her child every bill you know for a child.
Ilifika kipindi tukatamani kumchukua mtoto tukae nae coz tuliona anamfundisha tabia mbaya mtoto bu haikuwa rahisi. For that naona single mom ana behave vibaya.

In other way, kuna single mom wako perfect hadi unasikia raha, yaani mtoto ana adabu, respect na mama ana respect mahusiano yake bila ku effect mtoto. Mama anajituma na ni mchaparikaji akikwama anaomba msaada wa ku boostiwa sio kumtumia mtoto kuomba kila kitu khaaa .

HELLO to all single moms sina uzoefu nao hivo siwahukumu ila napenda wa behave mbele ya watoto na kuwafundisha watoto tabia njema regardless what.

OUT OF TOPIC: I respect single Dads as inajulikana malezi ni ya mama, ukikuta baba analea mtoto wake bila mama na mtoto yuko vizuri in tabia na kila kitu. I give BIG RESPECT.

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