Nilichokiona leo Dodoma hakina afya kwa mustakabali mzima wa ustawi Taifa letu, tujirekebishe kwa maslahi mapana ya Taifa

[Livejr]

Read between the lines,utanielewa.

Bado naona unaendeleza minyukano.Anyway,
wanawake hamna budi kujitambua,the path that you have choosen is dangerous.Hii confrontational stance against man haitawasaidia sana,at most it will destroy the family establishment.Most important of all ni uasi dhidi ya Mungu.

Niombe samahani, mimi sio mwanamke.
Ungenijibu tu swali langu then ukakausha naamini usingepungukiwa na chochote.

 

[binti kiziwi]

Hii ni attitude mbaya sana.Kwa nini mawazo yetu yanafikiria in terms of men and women as unrelated entities.Hii ni shida kubwa.Solution ni kuangalia community issues collectively, and who is suited best for what role for the collective advancement of our families,community and nation.Hii tabia ya kuangalia men and women as independent entities ni mbaya na itatufikisha pabaya.

Naona unachokataa ndicho unachofanya but in favour of men. Soma replies zako vizuri.

Binafsi ni muumini wa uwezo wa mtu bila kujali jinsia yake, sasa unatakiwa uprove kuwa hao wanawake hawana uwezo.

 

[ESPRESSO COFFEE]

Kama Taifa hatukujiandaa kuwa na Rais Mwanamke, Hatukuwahi kufikiria na hatupo tayari. Wengi tulidharau nafasi ya makamu wa Rais kwa miaka Yote tukiamini haina umuhimu wowote tuliona ni kama kitu cha kupeana kama Taifa tulihitaji sana msiba wa rais alie madarakani kwa mwaka wowote ule ili tuone maisha ya pili yanakuwaje. Kwasasa tumebakiza upinzani kushika Nchi NYUZI humu JF italemewa

 

[mkamanga original]

Miaka yake minne tu, 2025 hana ubavu wa kutoboa. Ccm ndio wanao ongoza kwa mfumo Dume .tunza hii kauli yangu hadi 2025

 

[Nyani Ngabu]

Ushindi wa 100% ni ushindi wa aibu, watu watatilia shaka uthabiti wa mchakato uliotumika.

Kwanza suala zima la mtu mmoja kugombea uenyekiti linaonesha uchaguzi huu ni magumashi tu.

Kwenye demokrasia zilizopevuka, ushindi wa 100% ni kama huwa haupo!

Vilevile, Samia kachaguliwa au katangazwa tu kuwa yeye sasa ndo mwenyekiti mpya wa chama?

Manake kwangu mimi uchaguzi ni lazima uwe na zaidi ya kimoja ili watu wapate kuchagua kati ya vilivyopo…

 

[motowagesi]

Nyumba inaelekea tufani ukikaribisha majizi hakuna namna ngoja tuibiwe R.I.P JPM

 

[Mafiningo]

Wewe utakuwa genge,, nna mashaka na mwandiko wako
SSH hoyee.

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[Shoctopus]

Wote tunafahamu msemo usemao umoja ni nguvu,na utengano ni udhaifu. Hakuna shaka yeyote kwamba penye mafarakano hakuna mafanikio. Bwana Yesu alipoambiwa kwamba anatoa pepo kwa kumtumia Belzebuli, alisema, "nyumba ikifitinika haiwezi kusimama!"

Leo kule Dodoma nimeona nyumba ya mama Tanzania ikifitinika, nimeona mafarakano ya wazi kati ya Wanawake na Wanaume, mafarakano ambayo si ya afya kwa taifa letu. Nilitegemea kwamba ujio wa Rais mwanamke, Mama Samia Suluhu, ungeleta umoja, badala yake naona mbegu za minyukano zikipandwa. Ni kama wenzetu wanawake walikuwa wanasubiri nafasi hii, ili waendeleze minyukano zaidi, ambayo kiukweli tayari ilikuwepo.

Sijui kama it's mere coincidence kwamba katika wagombea sita wa kujaza nafasi za NEC, waliochaguliwa kujaza nafasi hiyo, wote ni wanawake! Mimi naamini sio coincidence, bali ndio minyukano kati ya Wanaume na Wanawake imeanza. Maneno aliyotamka Mama Kabaka Mwenyekiti wa UWT, wakati anatoa hotuba ya kumtunuku Rais zawadi,yanathibitisha hili.

Upo ushahidi wa kutosha, kwamba minyukano hii inahamasishwa na kupewa financial support and backing na nguvu zilizo-jificha za nchi za magharibi through NGOs, vyombo vya habari, mitandao, internet na hata wakati mwingine makampuni ya simu, ili kuvunja familia na ustawi wa jamii yetu kwa maslahi mapana ya nchi hizo.Na kama hatutakuwa makini kama taifa,baada ya miaka kumi ijayo, familia zetu na jamii vitakuwa vime-sambaratika kabisa.

Mimi sina shaka yeyote kwamba kuchaguliwa wanawake tupu kwenye kinyang'anyiro hicho kumewezekana kwa kuwa wajumbe wengi waliohudhuria ni Wanawake. Lakini je, kuchaguana kijinsia kuna tija kwa taifa letu? Ukweli ni kwamba hapana, kwa kuwa hii ita-compromize kwa kiwango kikubwa weledi na hii ni hatari kwa wa ustawi wa Taifa letu.

Lipo wazo la kugawana madaraka 50/50. Kwa nini kuwe na target ndilo jambo linalokera. Linakera kwa kuwa likely-hood ya ku-compromize weledi ili kua-chieve target is obvious. Hili nimeliona sehemu nyingi sana. Infact hata leo kule Dodoma jambo hili limejionyesha wazi. Who knows, labda katika wale wagombea wanaume walio-achwa, some are more competent than the ladies elected.

Sina tatizo na wanawake kupewa responsible positions, naomba nieleweke, nina tatizo na ku-compromize professionalism at the expence of gender equality. Our main target should be professionalism, not gender equality.

Nafurahi kwamba wapo wanawake wanao-jitambua, ambao hawataki kupewa nafasi yeyote as a reward, wanapenda kupewa nafasi kwa kuwa wanastahili. Ningependa huu ndio uwe msimamo wa wanawake wote. Tuache professionalism iwe ndio kigezo pekee cha mtu kupata nafasi yeyote anywhere. Minyukano hii inayo-endelea sasa kwa sababu ya kuganga njaa, sio healthy sana, tutangulize mbele kwanza maslahi ya Taifa letu.


Ili uweze kupata.picha kamili ya kile kilichotokea Dodoma leo na kwa nini kimetokea,tafadhali fuata link ifuatayo.Hii ni vita kamili dhidi ya familia,and the sooner we realize that and do something about it the better.

Tuko vitani: Msingi imara wa familia ya asili unashambuliwa kwa nguvu zote kutoka kila upande

Tuko vitani, msingi na uimara wa familia ya asili unashambuliwa kutoka kila upande. Angalia uharibifu uliopo: watu wachache leo wanaoa. Na wale wanao-oa, ndoa zinavunjika, watoto wadogo kabisa wa hata mwaka mmoja wanapekwa shule za bweni. Majukumu kwenye familia yamebadilika, kazi za baba sasa...

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Mbegu ya national self destruction ilipandwa na Kikwete alipoikataa katiba ya Warioba.
Ikarutubishwa na Uchaguzi Mkuu feki wa mwaka jana.
Hakuna democracy CCM.

 

[Mwanga Mkali]

Kwani wanawake hawafai kuongoza? Kama huridhiki kakate rufaa.Kwanza tulichelewa Sana kuwa na viongozi wanawake.Wanawake wengi ni waadilifu kazini

Wife upo!🤔

 

[Mathanzua]

Experts Warn Marriage and the Family Unit Are Under Attack​

PRESS RELEASE PR Newswire
Mar. 13, 2018, 01:19 PM


SYDNEY, March 13, 2018 /PRNewswire/ -- Will marriage be a thing of the past? Will couples stay together unhappily? Or will both parties choose to build and sustain a successful marriage? These are just some of the questions that can be drawn from the latest Fracchia & Co. The Future of Marriage survey. The findings, published in The Death of Marriage, a client-exclusive report, capture the sentiments of 912 married couples from all over the world. The key finding? That 91% of couples are unhappily married and that percentage is on the rise.
"The bottom line is that despite only 9% of couples being happy in their marriages, fewer than 1% have been consistently happy for three or more years, and when juxtaposed with findings from ourThe Realities of Divorce report, it is not surprising that 83% of spouses who say they want a divorce do so without ever talking about it beforehand," saysGianni Fracchia, Co-Founder of Fracchia & Co. "Poor communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, broken trust, conception challenges and work-life imbalance are still among the leading reasons couples cited for being unhappy," addsDanielle Fracchia, Co-Founder and Director.
The second survey of its type, The Future of Marriagequestioned respondents across five dimensions: Expectations, Communication, Intimacy, Trust and Unity. Encompassing all pillars of a successful marriage, survey findings explore the imperative of building and sustaining a healthy marriage to long-term happiness and success.
"Fundamentally, what happens at home radiates outward to impact all areas of life, from physical, emotional and psychological health to work and career performance, it's inescapable," saysDanielle Fracchia. "Like a Trojan horse, a set of visible and invisible forces have infiltrated marriages and the family unit, and like a cancer they are destroying them from the inside out," Gianni Fracchia adds. Among these forces are: the trivialisation of marriage and subsequent ease of separation and divorce, increasing economic tension and bureaucracy, political correctness and self-censorship and dramatic shifts in the ways people interact socially.
Exploring the impacts of marriage on personal, professional and societal wellbeing,The Death of Marriageemphasises that the costs of an unhealthy marriage transcend any nominal price tags placed upon it. The key takeaway: married couples have a mission to lead by example and show themselves, their children, their friends and family and the world that a successful marriage is achievable. The way forward: communicate openly and transparently, balance the three types of intimacy and travel a shared journey. The burning question: will marriage become a thing of the past?

 

[polokwane]

Wote tunafahamu msemo usemao umoja ni nguvu,na utengano ni udhaifu. Hakuna shaka yeyote kwamba penye mafarakano hakuna mafanikio. Bwana Yesu alipoambiwa kwamba anatoa pepo kwa kumtumia Belzebuli, alisema, "nyumba ikifitinika haiwezi kusimama!"

Leo kule Dodoma nimeona nyumba ya mama Tanzania ikifitinika, nimeona mafarakano ya wazi kati ya Wanawake na Wanaume, mafarakano ambayo si ya afya kwa taifa letu. Nilitegemea kwamba ujio wa Rais mwanamke, Mama Samia Suluhu, ungeleta umoja, badala yake naona mbegu za minyukano zikipandwa. Ni kama wenzetu wanawake walikuwa wanasubiri nafasi hii, ili waendeleze minyukano zaidi, ambayo kiukweli tayari ilikuwepo.

Sijui kama it's mere coincidence kwamba katika wagombea sita wa kujaza nafasi za NEC, waliochaguliwa kujaza nafasi hiyo, wote ni wanawake! Mimi naamini sio coincidence, bali ndio minyukano kati ya Wanaume na Wanawake imeanza. Maneno aliyotamka Mama Kabaka Mwenyekiti wa UWT, wakati anatoa hotuba ya kumtunuku Rais zawadi,yanathibitisha hili.

Upo ushahidi wa kutosha, kwamba minyukano hii inahamasishwa na kupewa financial support and backing na nguvu zilizo-jificha za nchi za magharibi through NGOs, vyombo vya habari, mitandao, internet na hata wakati mwingine makampuni ya simu, ili kuvunja familia na ustawi wa jamii yetu kwa maslahi mapana ya nchi hizo.Na kama hatutakuwa makini kama taifa,baada ya miaka kumi ijayo, familia zetu na jamii vitakuwa vime-sambaratika kabisa.

Mimi sina shaka yeyote kwamba kuchaguliwa wanawake tupu kwenye kinyang'anyiro hicho kumewezekana kwa kuwa wajumbe wengi waliohudhuria ni Wanawake. Lakini je, kuchaguana kijinsia kuna tija kwa taifa letu? Ukweli ni kwamba hapana, kwa kuwa hii ita-compromize kwa kiwango kikubwa weledi na hii ni hatari kwa wa ustawi wa Taifa letu.

Lipo wazo la kugawana madaraka 50/50. Kwa nini kuwe na target ndilo jambo linalokera. Linakera kwa kuwa likely-hood ya ku-compromize weledi ili kua-chieve target is obvious. Hili nimeliona sehemu nyingi sana. Infact hata leo kule Dodoma jambo hili limejionyesha wazi. Who knows, labda katika wale wagombea wanaume walio-achwa, some are more competent than the ladies elected.

Sina tatizo na wanawake kupewa responsible positions, naomba nieleweke, nina tatizo na ku-compromize professionalism at the expence of gender equality. Our main target should be professionalism, not gender equality.

Nafurahi kwamba wapo wanawake wanao-jitambua, ambao hawataki kupewa nafasi yeyote as a reward, wanapenda kupewa nafasi kwa kuwa wanastahili. Ningependa huu ndio uwe msimamo wa wanawake wote. Tuache professionalism iwe ndio kigezo pekee cha mtu kupata nafasi yeyote anywhere. Minyukano hii inayo-endelea sasa kwa sababu ya kuganga njaa, sio healthy sana, tutangulize mbele kwanza maslahi ya Taifa letu.


Ili uweze kupata.picha kamili ya kile kilichotokea Dodoma leo na kwa nini kimetokea,tafadhali fuata link ifuatayo.Hii ni vita kamili dhidi ya familia,and the sooner we realize that and do something about it the better.

Tuko vitani: Msingi imara wa familia ya asili unashambuliwa kwa nguvu zote kutoka kila upande

Tuko vitani, msingi na uimara wa familia ya asili unashambuliwa kutoka kila upande. Angalia uharibifu uliopo: watu wachache leo wanaoa. Na wale wanao-oa, ndoa zinavunjika, watoto wadogo kabisa wa hata mwaka mmoja wanapekwa shule za bweni. Majukumu kwenye familia yamebadilika, kazi za baba sasa...

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Usijali uanamume wa mwanaume hautetereki mwanaume ni mwanaume tu haitakuja kubadilika hiyo hata iweje hakuna namna yeyote ile yakafanyika mapinduzi mwanamke akaweza kuwa juu ya mwanaume hizo ni siasa tu ndugu yangu usiwe na shaka , hata Mh. Rais mama samia ni rais lakini ana heshima , adabu na utii mkubwa kwa mume wake.

 

[Mathanzua]

FAMILIES UNDER ATTACK​

Our guest speaker, Jason Wong, was a former Deputy Director of the Singapore Prisons Service and was instrumental to the start of the Yellow Ribbon Project and later, Dads for Life. He is passionate about the family and of its central position in our Christian faith. Jason started the sermon by emphasising that family is God’s idea as mentioned in the book of Genesis. Family is the basic unit and the bedrock of our society. Family is where God-man, man-woman and parent-children relationships can be lovingly expressed.
Satan is out to destroy the family, as it is God’s idea. We see these attacks prevalent in popular culture, including the Ashley Madison website that promotes marital infidelity and in TV sitcoms that promote LGBT relationships as an alternative lifestyle. This is also evident in the worldwide movement by some to legalise same-sex marriages, with the latest countries, USA, Ireland and Vietnam doing so. Singapore is not immune and is being targeted by this movement. The current position by the Singapore government is to stay one step behind to observe the impact of such radical departure on the definition of marriage. Jason said that Singapore should however stay far behind on this. He also highlighted the danger of re-defining marriage. Once redefined and God taken out of the picture, marriage may risk becoming further extended to include other deviant sexual preferences such as threesome, incest, etc. In Leviticus 18:1-5, God instructs to stay away from forbidden sexual practices (see Leviticus 18). There are consequences when we move away from God’s design. As our Creator, God knows us and knows what is good for us.
Jason then outlined a strategic framework to counter this growing homosexual agenda. The intervention is divided into four approaches: (a) for activists promoting this lifestyle (e.g. Pink Dot), we are to engage; (b) for moderate people living the lifestyle, we are to befriend; (c) for those struggling with their gender identity or orientation, there should be ministry; and (d) for those who have overcome, they have power testimonies to share which would counter the deceptive narratives put out by LGBT activists. The Bible tells of the inspirational story of Saul becoming Paul. In today’s context, can Saul become Paul? The answer is definitely Yes!
We then have a testimony of an overcomer, who was previously homosexual. He shared his struggle with same-sex attraction since young; on his loneliness, on his misunderstanding of the Bible to justify his relationships with other gays and the use of gay dating websites to satisfy his need for companionship through one-night stands. He later claimed God’s promises found in Matthew 6:33 and Proverbs 3:5-6 when God told him to trust in Him and He will take care of his sexuality and the deep sense of loneliness. God told him that he does not need to act on his same-sex attraction desires and shared with him the beauty of singlehood and of marriage. Through close mentorship under Jason who acted like a father figure to him - in the same way Elijah was to Elisha; he was able to see that his same-sex attraction originated from a longing for his father’s love. In church, he responded to an altar call for anointing of the Holy Spirit. Thereafter in the toilet, his belt buckle broke into 3 pieces which was a sign that God had broken his chains. Henceforth, he lost his desire to masturbate and moved away from a gay lifestyle. Through the love and help of God, he is healed and given a clean slate after the HIV test in late 2013.
What is the role of the church? The church must pray and intercede for the LGBT activists and for the government. The church must also offer pastoral care to those struggling with these issues. The church can also proactively promote the following: (a) Christian or Biblical worldview as opposed to the prevailing secular, humanistic system of values which over time, especially among the young could engender greater support for same-sex marriage if left unchecked; (b) strong families as it is the result of broken heterosexual relationships that many societal problems emerge - we need to go back to God’s design because God’s design leads to blessings and benefits; and (c) the fathers’ movement. Fathers are the solution in God’s eyes and the key to the prevention strategy. Therefore, Jason led a rallying cry for Christian fathers to rise up - see Malachi 4:5-6, saying that a constructive, affirming character modelling relationship with a father or a father figure will avert boys looking elsewhere for a masculine, affirming relationship with another man.
Discussion Questions
1) Jason Wong shared that family is under attack. What makes this an important issue? Share with the group on the ways family is under attack. [10 min]
Leader’s Notes: This is a recap question. As mentioned in Genesis, family is God's idea. It is God's design through which blessings flow. And when blessings flow, we will enjoy the benefits. Family is also the basic foundation of society and when it breaks down, many societal problems will emerge.
Satan is out to destroy families. These attacks are prevalent in popular culture. Jason Wong cited examples such as the marriage infidelity website of Ashley Madison, TV sitcoms, movies and songs also seek to portray alternative and/or promiscuous lifestyles as normal or glamorous. These can influence and change societal attitudes over a generation.

2) Jason Wong outlined the role of the church in responding to this attack on families. How could we, both as a church and as individuals, respond in practical ways to those having same-sex attraction? [10 min]

 

[SACO]

Wangechaguliwa wanaume tupu usingesema hayo

 

[Mathanzua]

Family values are under attack​

If we see a family’s house on fire, what will we do?
Will we sit by and watch it burn? Knowing there are children in it, will we call 911 and go inside and help save as many as we can? We may get burned, breathe in smoke, and yes, perhaps die. We’ve all heard the Golden Rule: “Treat people the way we want to be treated." Paraphrasing what Jesus said in Matthew 7:12 – "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." How many of us have risked something to help someone else as we would want it to be?
Today, our families are on fire, their very being attacked, devalued, lied to, filled with propaganda in every aspect of culture and education. In every aspect of what God had established with respect to mother, father and their responsibilities to children and God has been slowly but surely redefined downward, perverting the meaning of love, character, and most of all cheapening the value of life – especially of the child in a mother’s womb. In 1993, then-Sen. Patrick Moynihan, D-N.Y., coined the phrase “defining deviancy down." In other words, deviant behavior was redefined to a lower standard to say it is normal.
In America, such has been the efforts by the LGBTQ faction, Planned Parenthood, the radical feminists of the so-called “women’s rights” faction and today’s Democratic Party to exempt abnormal and deviant behavior, as has been recognized by Judeo-Christian values since and before our founding. If a person kills a pregnant mother, in most cases you will be charged with a double homicide murder.

The killing of unborn is murder, so act like it's murder. Any other passive action will not work.
Vel Rains
Bowling Green

 

[Mathanzua]

Wangechaguliwa wanaume tupu usingesema hayo

Statement ya Mama Kabaka,"Asante mama kwa kutuondolea mfumo dume" is sickening frankly.This shows that there is a silent war going on between men and women.

 

[Valentina]

WABABA TUSALIMIANE KWA JINA LA JMT. Kazi ina Endelea. Duh? sasa hii inaitwa watawanye ili uwatawale. Sasa hawa wamama wameamua kututawanya wa baba ili tutawaliwe vizuri. Sasa tutegemee CDF..., IGP.., JAJI MKUU.. PM, Ma RC, MaDc, n.k wasaidizi wa vitengo kwa uchache watakuwa wababa kwa mbaaaaali.

Ha haa mkuu nimependa hiyo salamu yako kwa wababa

 

[SACO]

Statement ya Mama Kabaka,"Asante mama kwa kutuondolea mfumo dume" is sickening frankly.This shows that there is a silent war going on between men and women.

Mwanaume kulialia haipendezi... Inaonyesha shemeji anakukong'oli haswaa

 

[Mathanzua]

The Enemy's Attack on Families​

Written by Keith Butler

Satan is afraid, really afraid, of Christians multiplying. He's against our populating, big time. Because the more of these tongue-talking, Bible-quoting, devil-casting-out, dominating believers come along, the faster the return of the Lord and the quicker things are going to get wrapped up around here.

Now, Adam made the wrong choice. He sinned, and because of it everyone born after him is born with that nature of death. Satan has now become god of this world.

Satan thought he had the whole thing locked up. He thought he had God now. Every man that is born after that is born with the nature of sin. God intended that every person born after Adam would be born with all godly characteristics, but now they have the opposite. It looks like God's had it.

God is determined to have a race of people, a nation if you will, who would serve him; and who would operate in his image and likeness; would be blessed, would be fruitful, would multiply and replenish and dominate.

Satan's Strategies
But now Satan gets to populate the earth. Every man born after Adam is born with that nature of sin; and Satan is getting a larger and larger family everyday; that's getting more and more wicked everyday.

Satan developed strategies, because he knew God wanted to populate the earth. He thought he had God shut out; but Jesus came along and defeated the devil. Then God, once again, could have a godly seed, walking in the land. When Satan saw that, Satan said, man, these people will multiply like rabbits, if I don't get them to start thinking the wrong way.

Divorce is one of Satan's strategies. The author of no-fault divorce is the devil. First of all, there's no such thing as no-fault; both of you all are at fault. It takes two to mess up.

Because he understands that the most important unit to building a nation under God is the family. If you can destroy the family, then you can cripple, you can slow down; you can't stop, but you can retard the rate of population of a godly seed.
You know what happens with divorce? Not only is it a tearing apart of two spirits, but it also does severe damage to children. Nobody wants to talk about this any more. It does severe damage to children. There are people, grown folks, still wounded by the divorce of their parents, having trouble handling it.

So, Satan has been attacking the family unit. Doing everything he can to break it up.

Make the Decision
Now I can tell you the first rule of staying married is having made the decision before you got married that you're staying married regardless of what. We see folks who've stayed together through thick and thin.

Marriage does have thick and thin. That's no negative confession. You get two people together, and sometimes they have things they need to deal with. She wants the roll of toilet paper one way, he wants to roll it the other. She wants the windows up at night; you want them down. You want covers on you; she wants them off. You want oatmeal; she wants something else. You want a black car; she wants a bus.

That's human nature. But we said, come hell or high water, no matter what, we are staying together and we're not going to divorce, amen. There were times when Deborah looked at me, and I know she thought she'd never say it, but I know she's said it, "I think I missed God." There were times I looked at her and said, "I missed God." We've both looked at each other and said, "Come out, in the name of Jesus."

So, Satan attacks families. Let's read in Malachi:

Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.

And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
(Mal. 2:14-15)

Why did God make you to have one wife? That he might have a what? What kind of seed? That he might have a godly seed. God wants born-again, filled with the Holy Ghost, dominating, blessed Christians. To multiply and produce more that are like Him.

So, first thing that you've got to do if you're the devil is to break up the family unit. Because, man, these Christians get to multiplying if they get together and stay together.

 

[Mathanzua]

Satan’s Attack on the Family​

Joyce, Bryan
God’s Word makes it clear that we are engaged in warfare against Satan. We need the armor of God to be able to “stand firm” against the “schemes of the devil” (Eph 6:10-18). Many Biblical writers describe the evil character of the one who seeks to destroy what God loves. Peter describes the devil as our adversary who “prowls around like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour” (1 Pet 5:8 NIV). In Revelation, John refers to him as “the old serpent,” who “deceives the whole world” (Rev 12:9). John’s gospel is where we learn that the devil “was a murderer from the beginning and has nothing to do with the truth because there is no truth in him … he is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44). Paul calls him the “god of this world who has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ” (2 Cor 4:4). He is the “prince of the power of the air” who is “at work” around us. This evil one seeks to turn people from what God has designed for their ultimate blessing and good.
Satan knows that God created marriage as a beautiful, living picture of Christ and the Church. God designed both marriage and the family for our benefit. Satan knows the value of the family, how it is the fabric of a good solid society, the foundation of vibrant growing assemblies, and the future of God’s work on earth. If Satan can be successful in tearing down the structure and substance of the family unit, then he will be successful in damaging what is dear to God’s heart.

Satan’s Attack on the Institution of Marriage, the Foundation of the Family​

When God finished creating the first couple, He called what He had made “very good.” This man and woman were united in a holy bond before God. For the benefit of future generations, God explained, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” God requires from the married couple a level of separation from others and a commitment to each other which will provide a stable foundation for the family unit.
Satan’s initial attack on the family occurred in Eden where the old serpent worked his evil deception on Eve and destroyed the harmony of the first marriage. In listening to Satan and disobeying God, Eve and Adam plunged themselves, and all subsequent families, into slavery in the “kingdom of darkness.” Satan’s attack on the family has continued until today. There are signs of it all around us. With the increasing rate of divorce, the acceptance of common-law relationships, the barrage of Hollywood immorality, and the legalization of same gender marriages, we can see how successful Satan has been in twisting and perverting God’s best for us and depriving us of the blessings that marriage brings to the family.

Satan’s Attack on the Internal Mechanics of the Family Unit​

Good marriages are the foundation of solid families. If Satan can successfully destroy the marriage, this will have a devastating impact upon the rest of the family. According to a recent survey,1 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. However, even when a father is present, if the parents are not married, it is still detrimental to the children. In an annual report,2 David Popenoe, a Rutgers sociology professor and report co-author speaks of the increase of cohabitation, “I don’t think it’s good news, especially for children … As society shifts from marriage to cohabitation — which is what’s happening — you have an increase in family instability. The United States has the weakest families in the Western world because we have the highest divorce rate and the highest rate of solo parenting.” God, in His wisdom, knew that children needed the stability of married parents.
The more closely we understand God’s design for the family, the better we will be able to recognize when Satan tries to change and undermine it. Through Paul and Peter, God gives us clear instructions regarding the spheres of responsibility and authority within the family (Eph 5:22-6:4; Col 3:18-21; 1 Tim 5:14; Tit 2:4-5; 1 Pet 3:1-7). Two truths, which appear repeatedly in these passages, are the headship of the husband and the submission of the wife. Scripture likens their relationship to that of Christ and the Church. John Piper, in his book, This Momentary Marriage, says, “Headship is the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christ-like servant leadership, protection, and provision in the home. Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts.” In Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s Letters and Papers from Prison, he writes about the husband, “As the head, it is he who is responsible for his wife, for their marriage, and for their home. On him falls the care and protection of the family; he represents it to the outside world; he is its mainstay and comfort.” The responsibility of the husband is to provide leadership that is motivated and directed by the agape love of Christ. The husband is to love his wife “as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her,” and to “nourish and cherish” her as one would his own body. When the husband provides a leadership marked by this sacrificial love, the wife will respect her husband and the marriage will flourish. The husband, who is fulfilling his role as head, will seek to meet the needs of the family. The wife, secure in the love and devotion of her husband, will support and help him in every possible way.
Satan has done a masterful job at distorting these two divine mandates (headship and submission). So often we see men who authoritatively control families in a selfish, self-serving way. The other extreme, in which men cede the responsibility for guiding the family to the wife, is also widespread. Correspondingly, while some women are dominated by their husbands, others seek to be the controlling force in the home and do not respect them. These scenarios reveal how successful Satan has been in persuading people to abandon God’s ideal. Any time someone believes that living out the principles of godly headship and submission would somehow make their family life less than it should be, Satan has been successful at his pernicious work of deception. May God give husbands today the courage to provide the loving leadership God intended them to exercise, and wives the grace to respect and support their husbands.
The Scriptures provide clear guidelines for the children’s sphere in family life. God instructs them to accept the authority of their parents, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother” (Eph 6:1-2). Satan has tried to undermine the parental authority of the home by introducing messages of insubordination and by seeking to render the parents unable to assert their authority over the children. Once you are aware of this truth you can begin to see the many specific ways that Satan is doing this today in the media, literature, music, etc. Many television shows and children’s books portray the father figure as weak or foolish. One of the numerous songs which encourage children to resist parental authority, Billy Joel’s “My Life,” defiantly addresses parents: “I don’t want you to tell me it’s time to come home. I don’t care what you say anymore, this is my life. Go ahead with your own life, leave me alone.” Thus Satan whispers to children that submission and obedience are not best for them. The music the children listen to, their entertainment, and the atmosphere of the home are important leadership responsibilities. If fathers are to bring up children in the “discipline and instruction of the Lord,” they must fulfill their leadership responsibilities in the family and this is to be done lovingly, without provoking their children to anger (Eph 6:4).

Satan’s Attack on the Intention of God for the Christian Home​

The home is where the Word of God is taught and preserved, and where sound doctrine is explained and lived out. This is the Scriptural pattern. A godly life of faith which characterized Timothy was first displayed in the home of his grandmother, then his mother, and then his own. From childhood he was “acquainted with the sacred writings” which were able to make him “wise unto salvation through faith in Christ Jesus” (2 Tim 3:15). Parents must give the Scriptures priority in the home because God’s Word is the necessary foundation. Satan has done a masterful job at keeping families so busy that they have little time to read the Bible, let alone study it and put it into practice in their lives. Spending time in God’s Word and waiting upon God is essential. If Satan can keep families too busy for the Scriptures, they will lose their joy, strength, and effectiveness in this world. Satan, using busyness as his tool, has robbed many families of the time God wants them to spend with each other. This results in a lack of both closeness and enjoyment in each other. Husbands and wives need time together to nurture their relationship. They need time with their children if they are going to fulfill the Scriptural mandate of training up a child in the way he should go (Prov 22:6). This training takes time and focus, both of which are lost when lives become frantically busy and stressed. The family needs time when the earplugs are out, Internet is closed down, and telephone ringers are off, and when the needs of family members are lovingly met. Time must be taken for reading and praying together and for eating and playing together. As families live out God’s plan for them, God will be glorified, families blessed, and assemblies enriched.
When parents spend time with God and allow their behavior to be guided by God’s Word, this will produce Christlikeness in them that will draw their children’s hearts to God. Any way in which Satan can keep parents’ lives from exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control—will detract from the character of the family and the members will suffer loss. When he can plant the seed of unforgiveness, family peace and joy are destroyed. If he can convince members to act in a hypocritical manner, integrity is lost. If he can persuade children or parents to stretch the truth or shade it, even the smallest bit, trust is destroyed and damage ensues. The family’s ultimate protection against Satan’s attacks is to know and live out God’s truth. As His truth and love are expressed through the functioning of the family, even neighbors and friends may be drawn to God.
In conclusion, God, Who created the family, has provided the divine design and instruction in His Word so that families can flourish. Our best defense is to know the pattern, so that we will be able to discern Satan’s subtle attacks, and to let the fruit of the Spirit characterize our lives. We need godly leadership, respect, and love, along with fervent prayer and dependence on God. He alone can preserve our families for His own honor. May God help families to follow His truth and cling closely to Him.
1 Men Against Domestic Violence.
2 An annual report, which analyzes census and other data, issued by the National Marriage Project at New Jersey’s Rutgers University.

 

[Mathanzua]

Why Are Families Under Attack?

by John Spritzler

July, 2004
(This is an updated version of the article originally published in 1997 in New Democracy)​

The cover of the March 1997 Fortune magazine asks, "Is Your Family Wrecking Your Career?" Inside is an article headed "Oh, Quit Whining and Get Back to Work! It's heresy to say so, but let's say it anyway: Sometimes your job is more important than your kid's Kodak moment." The article describes the demands that top-ranked corporations place on working couples trying to raise children and make time for their families. The culture of the most successful corporations, according to the article, is one in which devotion to the company comes first, before family. The message to Fortune's CEO readers seems to be that successful corporations must be anti-family.

The anti-family culture reflected in this pro-business magazine is something that millions of people must buck everyday as they work to make their families healthy and keep them intact. In spite of politicians' talk about "family values," the pressures on working families have grown more intense in the last decade in many different ways.

Capitalists would have us believe that the pressures on families result from economic necessity. This is not true. From 1947 to 2000 the productivity of American workers has almost quadrupled.(Publications : Office of Publications and Special Studies: U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics). We could produce more now than we did then if our families sent only one parent to work for twenty hours a week or each parent to work for ten hours. The "Leisure Society" that was foreseen in the '60s is just as feasible economically as the massive "downsizing" and overtime work that capitalists prefer. The necessity driving the attacks on the family is not economic but political. It results from capital's need to control working people by attacking the most fundamental bonds of solidarity among human beings.



Why is Capitalism Hostile to Families?

Families are a social institution within which the values of selfishness and competition--the bedrock values of capitalism--are not viewed as appropriate. In healthy families, the important things like emotional support, shelter, medical care and food, are shared according to need: not sold, but given freely. People work hard in families, not for pay but out of love and solidarity. The self-serving values and behavior that are viewed as normal when engaged in by corporations, if practiced inside a family are seen as sick. Corporations are built on greed and competition: buy low and sell dear, move the factory to where labor is cheaper, bring in scabs to break strikes, pit people against each other, sell tobacco to kids. To capitalists, anything is OK as long as it makes money. The corporate leaders who engage in the most vicious practices are frequently rewarded with the highest salaries. Healthy families are a challenge to capitalism. The countless things we do as family members, caring and providing for one another, making family events from an evening meal to a large family reunion, helping each other in an emergency, giving advice and hugs, listening sympathetically, enjoying each others' company, and even squabbling and arguing to resolve conflicts or giving valuable negative feedback - all these things we do everyday in our families have a significance which often goes unnoticed. They are efforts to make our little corner of the world the opposite of the world of buying and selling. Capital's hostility to families is part of a broader hostility to the values of working people generally. Working class culture values solidarity and equality over selfishness and greed. It's a culture that says you shouldn't cross a picket line and if you do you're a scab. Working class struggles have always drawn much of their strength from family ties. Working class family values are an active force against capitalist power. The great sit-down strikes of the '30s, the valiant struggles of Hormel meatpackers and Staley workers and Detroit newspaper strikers in the 80's and 90's, and the strikes by janitors and grocery store workers in more recent times, have all depended on family ties and values of solidarity and equality forged in the families of working people.​

How Capitalism Attacks Families



One key form of capitalist attack on the family lies in a process called "commodification," in which capital seeks to undermine the natural forms of human interaction in all spheres of life and replace them with commercial relations. In particular, capital strives to turn loving family relations into mere "commodities"- services bought and sold in the marketplace. By reducing important aspects of our humanity to commodities, capital creates an image of human "freedom" in which people are "freed" of all social commitments and all social norms and morality. The ruling elite hope in this way to undermine bonds of solidarity and reduce people to solitary individuals, isolated and powerless. The owning class is trying to do more thoroughly to the family what it has long done to people at work. Corporate owners don't want labor to be a social activity that people engage in collectively for shared goals--a process which makes people very conscious of their power--but rather a commodity the owners can purchase by the hour. By purchasing our labor, capital seeks to take control of the labor process and product out of our hands. Capital tries to chop working people up into pieces of "usefulness"--our ability to turn a screw or punch a number or fry a hamburger--so that we ourselves can be treated like commodities: cheap and easy to replace. In recent years the impact of this process on specifically family-related aspects of our lives has been accelerating.​

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Outsourcing Mom​

Corporations used to hire only men for jobs that paid enough to support a family. This demeaned women and undermined family solidarity by making it impossible for husbands and wives meaningfully to share outside work, child-raising, and housework. But capital's "reform" of the unequal roles of men and women in the family is a further attack. In the last 30 years, capital has outsourced or automated millions of "family wage" industrial jobs and cut the pay of others, thereby forcing working class wives into the labor market to compete for the remaining low-paid jobs, all in the name of "freedom for women." Now families are stressed even more, since both parents typically have to work at least one job, and sometimes two or three, leaving little time to devote to children or relaxation, to community service, or to anything else. Additionally, capital is attacking mothers by trying to commodify everything about them that makes them valuable members of a family.

• Having driven mothers of infants and toddlers to take jobs, capital now forces them to purchase mothering as "day care" from a growing industry whose employees are often themselves mothers of small children. (This is particularly ironic in the case of mothers on welfare forced into day-care jobs.)
• After forcing people to work such long hours that they don't have time to prepare their own meals, capital is using restaurant chains, like "Boston Market" specializing in "home-cooked, family-style" meals, to move hard-pressed moms (and dads) from their own homes, where cooking was an act of love, to corporate kitchens where it's wage labor.
• Capital is moving women out of their own homes to be maids in wealthier homes working for a growing housekeeping industry.
• Corporations are making Grandmother's wisdom a "wholly owned subsidiary" by hiring women to give advice on child-rearing and other domestic questions to their employees. The more corporations undermine families, relocating people away from family and friends, the more "Corporate Grandma" is needed.
• Capital even puts a mother's womb on the market with the growing phenomenon of paid "surrogate mothers," whose motherhood and humanity is commodified as a womb put out for hire.

Downsizing Dad​

Capital is challenging the simple truth that a child's relation with his or her biological father is valuable. The image of fathers has come under increasing attack, as more TV sit-coms feature fathers as incompetents ("The Simpsons" and "King of Queens" are current examples) and movie plots involve abusive fathers (The Breakfast Club, Affliction, and Daredevilto name only a few.) Many courageous women have long been forced by circumstances to raise their children alone. Now, however, as celebrities like Camryn Manheim (Ellenor of TV's hit lawyer show, "The Practice")choose to have and raise babies without a father (both in real life and as her fictional character, in the case of Manheim), Hollywood sends the message, "Who needs a father?" Academics deride fatherhood in books likeFeminism, Children, and The New Families, in which Susan E. Krantz dismisses the notion that "two parents are necessary for the well-being of a child" and argues that "the role of the father is overemphasized." Academic "experts" are trying to split off Dad's "male presence" from the rest of him and make it just another commodity. Writing in the Journal of Marriage and the Family, Alan J. Hawkins and David J. Eggenbeen state, "Men may be important to children's healthy development, but biological fathers can readily be replaced by other adult men." (Cited in David Blankenhorn,Fatherless America, p. 80) Stepfathers may be nice people, but the claim that children have no need for a close relation with their biological father cannot bear the weight of common sense or scientific scrutiny.(For example, a study of 17,000 British children born in 1958 showed that children in step-families "experienced far worse outcomes than did children who grew up with their two biological parents." Blankenhorn, p. 191). The "any male will do" notion is ideologically driven by capital's desire to commodify men. This commodification of men is quite apparent in states like Massachusetts, where the "progressive" agenda is well advanced, and divorce courts aggressively separate fathers from their children. (The author has personal experience with Massachusetts' family courts.) Courts routinely restrain fathers from seeing their children, sometimes for years, without due process, evidentiary hearings, or the rules of evidence that are accorded accused criminals. The courts' attitude is that a father's only important relationship to his children is financial, so there's no real loss if a loving father is barred from seeing his children.

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Splitting Up Mom and Dad

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Liberal politicians and advocacy organizations have increased the rate of divorce in the United States enormously by enacting policies based on the premise that fatherhood is not important. The result has been a host of social, psychological and economic problems suffered by children and caused by their fatherlessness. [childrensjustice.org -&nbspTämä WWW-sivu on myynnissä. -&nbspchildrensjustice Lähteet ja tiedot.] A major cause of the increased divorce rate has been the introduction of "no-fault" divorce coupled with the policy of family courts of awarding the mother solely, instead of both parents jointly, exclusive physical custody of the children (unless the mother is grossly unfit) and requiring the father to pay child support sufficient for the mother and children to maintain their former standard of living, even though it impoverishes him (courts often garnish the man's paycheck directly.) Once rare, divorce is now common and two thirds of divorces in the U.S. are initiated by women. [http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/divorce.html] The state has essentially told women, "Feel free to leave your husband whenever you feel like it, no matter how trivial the reason, because the state will make sure you keep your children and your husband's income." The result is that in millions of broken families the state has moved in to assume the role of head of the family and "parent" to both the mother and father. All concerned--the mother, the children and the father--have become more directly controlled by and, in the case of the mother and children, more dependent upon the state, and therefore less able to stand up against the capitalist class. It would be difficult to imagine a policy better suited to covertly undermine marriages and families.​

The liberal attack on marriages would not be able to succeed, however, were it not for the helpful role of the right-wing "pro-family" and pro-capitalist religious leaders and their ilk. Together these groups play a "damned if you do and damned if you don't" routine that makes people feel hopeless about improving the situation. The right-wing religious leaders point to the evils of the liberal agenda on families but they insist that the only alternative is a patriarchal society where women must submit to men. Some women and some men may support this view but most men and women want relationships based on equality. But no mainstream leadership articulates what most people want in this regard. Although it is economically perfectly feasible, what leader today calls for all wages to be raised enough, and corporate practices to be changed, so that a mother and father can each work a half-time job (or only one parent work outside the home full time, if they prefer) and raise their children comfortably on the income? With no opposition except from the right wing, which calls for a patriarchal nightmare for women, the elite get a free pass to carry out their liberal attack on our families.

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Making Childhood "Lean and Mean"

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In healthy families, parents love and protect their children as special people. They value them for themselves, not as a means to an end. Capitalism, in contrast, uses children as little workers and consumers, and tries to replace relations of love with marketplace transactions. Corporations flood Saturday morning TV with shows designed to manipulate children to measure their parents' love by the toys and "Happy Meals" they buy. For capitalism, parental love is a cash transaction that passes through the Toys 'R Us cash register. Millions of children overseas work in factories preparing goods for the U.S. market. In the U.S., children are increasingly told that childhood is a time to prepare themselves to meet the needs of corporations. Corporate leaders call for increased standardized testing in public schools, so that we can "better compete with Germany and Japan." Capital insists that children be graded from "A" through "F" - to teach them to compete against each other, and to sort them like cuts of beef so that corporations in the market for labor will know what "grade" of employee they're hiring. Corporate "education reformers" view our children not as people who should receive a well-rounded education, but rather as commodities to be sorted, graded, and prepared for sale to corporations.

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Homosexual Families and the New World Order

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In recent years the capitalist class has aggressively promoted the idea that homosexuality is as good and natural and moral a basis for a family as heterosexuality, and that anyone who disagrees with this view is a bigoted "homophobe." Television promotes homosexual families with lesbian characters like Carol and Susan on "Friends," Melanie and Lindsay on "Queer as Folk," and the characters on Showtime's lesbian series "The L Word." Judges in Massachusetts have legalized homosexual marriage. While they attack traditional families, corporations increasingly treat homosexual couples as if they were married. The Massachusetts Department of Education encourages students to form "Gay-Straight Alliances" [http://www.doe.mass.edu/hssss/GSA/Intro.html] to eliminate any stigma associated with homosexuality, despite the fact that the current Republican governor, Mitt Romney, purports to be a solid "conservative" on the issue.

Marriage and sexuality are not just about procreation, and to the extent that children are not involved there would be no reason for legislation to meddle in these private affairs between individuals. But since marriage and sexuality do often lead to procreation, society has a responsibility to decide what to promote and what to discourage in this otherwise private sphere of life. The concerns that people have about laws regarding marriage and society's attitude towards homosexuality are largely related to the impact of these things on children. Most people believe that the best thing for children is to be raised by their real mother and father in a strong and loving family. An important reason people disapprove of homosexuality is because it is impossible for a gay couple to make this kind of family. This is why parents don't want the schools teaching their children that it makes no difference if they marry someone of the same sex or the opposite sex. Most people rightly believe in tolerance when it comes to civil rights for homosexuals, but they don't believe that society should endorse the idea that a homosexual relationship is just as good or healthy a basis for a family as a heterosexual one. [Please see my more recent proposal regarding same-sex marriage here.]

Capital attacks people for feeling this way, and calls them bigots, because it likes the direction in which homosexuality moves society. In capital's ideal world where everyone is an isolated individual, sexuality is not a social relationship connecting parents with children, but just a way people use each other, and children are just something you buy. If two men want a child, then they can rent a womb and buy an egg from a surrogate mother. Why not? It's just a business transaction the way all human relationships ought to be. Or if two women want a baby, just buy some sperm. Why not? Fatherhood is just a commodity like toothpaste or clothing. A professor of law testifying before Congress described sperm donors as "providers of gametes," and offered the legal opinion that "A consumer's right 'to make contracts with providers of gametes' cannot be prohibited or limited except to assure that such contracts 'are knowingly and freely entered into.'" (Blankenhorn, p. 179) This is the capitalist idea of Paradise, in which people are no more than their constituent parts: a womb, a source of sperm, a "male presence," a child support check, a "day care provider." No longer will children's mothers and fathers be unique and beyond price.

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How Can We Defend Our Families?

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The media are full of very sophisticated anti-family messages, which can come from both the right and the left. Liberals denigrate the value of families in which children are raised by their real mother and father, and they sometimes suggest that such families are often patriarchies with abusive fathers. Conservatives often call for "family values" in which women are subordinate to men and inequality prevails. Neither liberal nor conservative views reflect true family values of equality and commitment to each other. There are immediate steps we can take to defend families. One step is to reject anti-family propaganda for what it is. Another is to recognize the attack families are under and to see that it is part of capital's attempt to control ordinary people. Fully to defeat the attack on our families, and to create a truly pro-family society, we need to build a revolutionary movement that challenges capitalism, its values, and its right to rule society. The revolution we need is one which aims to extend to all of society the kind of relationships we work so hard to build within our families.

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