Long Distance Relationship: Raha, kero na jinsi ya kutunza mahusiano

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Dear members

what is your insights of Long Distance relationships? Do they work? Does it worth to wait?
Tips for Your Long Distance Relationship

1. Use a web cam

A web cam is a great way to interact with your mate while you are apart. Connect your web cam to your computer and use your favorite messaging utility (MSN, Yahoo, AOL, etc.) and not only will you be able to hear your mate, but you will also be able to see your mate.

2. Take pictures of everyday activities and send them to your mate
A picture is worth a thousand words and can help you and your mate feel closer together in your long distance relationship. Today, with most cell phones equipped with a digital camera and cameras small enough to fit in your pocket, it's very easy and convenient to take pictures and email them to your mate. With pictures, your mate can easily know what you are talking about when you describe the great party you went to or the new hairstyle that you just got. Some other examples of when you can take a picture are listed below:

* New outfit that your have purchased.
* Family or friends get together.
* Changes to your bedroom.
* Changes to your physical appearance (hairstyle, piercing, etc.)
*Pictures of your office or cubicle.

3. Send gifts to your mate's from their local country or city
You can save a lot of money by searching the Internet for local companies to buy from and deliver your gifts. For example, if you are living in the United States and your mate is from Italy, find an Italian company that has the great gift that you want to send to your mate. In most cases, you will save on international shipping costs and you might even save on the currency exchange rate. Also, a local company will be able to deliver a gift much quicker for those last minute shoppers.

4. Use text-messaging capability to keep in touch more frequently
Text messaging can be a simple was to keep in touch with your mate in a long distance relationship. For those across the border relationships, this can also be an inexpensive way to communicate. It's not always convenient to call, so text messages are a good alternative. You can send good night messages or little love notes throughout the day.

5. Trust your mate
Ideas of mistrust can easily seep into the minds of those involved in a long distance relationship because you don't get to physically see your mate. They may be saying that they are not seeing anyone else, but how do you know that for sure hundreds or even thousands of miles away? This mistrust can ultimately lead to the relationship ending. You should approach the trust issue in a long distance relationship the same way as you would in a normal relationship. If there is no indication or evidence of cheating, it is most likely not happening.

6. Use Skype to call your mate and talk for free
Invest in a headset or a Skype phone to make free PC to PC calls anywhere in the world. If you would prefer to call a regular phone or a cell phone, Skype had very low and reasonable rates. Skype can save you and your mate a lot of money without a lot of hassle and technical setup. Just download the software for free from Skype and plug in your headset and now you are ready to talk for free.

7. Introduce your mate to your friends and family
How many times have you been out with your friends and you bring up your mate into conversation and your friends don't believe he/she even exists? It is typical in a long distance relationship when two people visit each other they spend time only with each other. Although it is necessary to have time together, it is also necessary for your mate to experience other aspects of your life. Introduce him/her to your friends and family, so they can get to know your mate. It will only broaden your relationship and it will have a greater chance to succeed.

8. Visit each other frequently
This is not really a tip for a long distance relationship to be successful, but rather a requirement. To keep your long distance relationship going, you need to have in your mind the feeling and emotions of being with your mate. What keeps you together while you are apart is the idea of eventually being together. This can only be achieved by visiting each other whenever you have a chance.

9. Ease into being together
It can sometimes be difficult for two people who are involved in a long distance relationship to connect easily when they are together with their mate. Yes, you probably know everything about each other and talk everyday, but that is not a substitute for real contact. Both of you will need some time to adjust to being in each other's presence. Be aware that it may take your mate longer than you and you should allow them that time.

10. Write letters and send cards
Nothing is more romantic than a handwritten letter or card that you send to your mate for no reason at all. Variety in a long distance relationship will help keep things new and fresh. Your mate will appreciate the fact that you took time out to write such a wonderful letter or sent a card.
 
Dear members

what is your insights of Long Distance relationships? Do they work? Does it worth to wait?
 
Its always a waste of time.siku mtakayo kuja kuwa pamoja karibu ndio utakuta vitu vingi vilikuwa ndoto.zingine zinawezekana lakini mara chache sana.uzuri wa relationship mue karibu kwani mtawezana kujuana kwa undani zaidi.give it a try if u have time.
 
ooow shit someone please delete this post... double posted
 
Worth it if there is trust. Jaribu utajionea mwenyewe kwa sababu it works differently
 
i dont believe it works,unless uhusiano wenu uwe umekomaa vya kutosha,mmeshakuwa wachumba ama wanandoa...ila boyfriend na girlfriend sijui upuuzi gani...aah hapo sahau,lol
 
True love only weathers time and distance and that is how u find out who really loves you.
 
True love only weathers time and distance and that is how u find out who really loves you.

this is only in ideal world and as long as other factors remain constant, but in real life, everyday and every encounter has the effects to a strong and loyal love/relationship!!! Everyone needs security, embrace and romance so any reason for that not happening leads to vulnerability na mwisho alternatives start to contaminate a good love
 
this is only in ideal world and as long as other factors remain constant, but in real life, everyday and every encounter has the effects to a strong and loyal love/relationship!!! Everyone needs security, embrace and romance so any reason for that not happening leads to vulnerability na mwisho alternatives start to contaminate a good love

I agree with you,I have experienced it...
 
i believe it realy works although within secial time limits depending on a number of factors......... try to imagine the time when JF was in a long distance relationship with its members membership was re-examined, royalty re-pondered, ............. love re-newed............. jealouse burned........... tears shed............. thirsty sustained............. etc........... so it works in that way.......... but too long distance relationship will eventually fail.............. so if this is you prefered option, be wise and take care .............
 
i believe it realy works although within secial time limits depending on a number of factors......... try to immgene the time when JF was ina long distance relationship with its members membership was re-examined, royalty repondered, ............. love renewed............. jealouse burned........... tears shed............. thirsty sustained............. etc........... so it works in that way.......... but too long distance relationship will eventually fail.............. so if this is you prefered option, be wise and take care .............
Hey Akili h r u keeping dear? ulipotea kitambo... welcome back...

do u always have to compare human relations with computers and softwares/hardwares... hahha..
so u r saying it will eventually fail...?
 
i dont believe it works,unless uhusiano wenu uwe umekomaa vya kutosha,mmeshakuwa wachumba ama wanandoa...ila boyfriend na girlfriend sijui upuuzi gani...aah hapo sahau,lol
I hear u Roselyne.... kwahiyo ni upuuzi eehh...
 
ni ngumu sana, ni almost ndoto ya mchana kwa kweli......hasa inapokuwa ni uhusiano tu wa blf na g/f

kupigana vita na adui usiyemjua........u can imagine (experience matters here)

ngumu ngumu ngumu...........binafsi nilishindwa kwa kishindo
 
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