How do you know if you married the right person?


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Ndoa nayo ni kazi kama kazi nyingine, Inahitaji commitment ili Upendo, Uaminifu na Amani viweze kuwepo. Lasivyo Inabakia kujilaumu na kuiona Ndoa Chungu.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,
you fell in love with your spouse. You
anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and
liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In
fact, it was a completely spontaneous
experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love - because
it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my
feet." Think about the imagery of that
expression. It implies that you were just
standing there; doing nothing, and then something
came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and
spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria
of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY
relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
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become a bother (if they come at all), touch is

not always welcome (when it happens), and your
spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every
relationship, but if you think about your
marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference
between the initial stage when you were in love
and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start
asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as
you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire
that experience with someone else. This is when
marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse
for their unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment. Hili ni suruhisho?

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and
sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But
sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie
outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love
with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same
situation a few years later. Because (listen
carefully) THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN
MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

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SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You
can't "find" LASTING love.
You have to "make" it day in and day out.
That's why we have the
expression "the labor of love." Because it takes
time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM. .


Hapo kwenye bold- Kutojuwa maana halisi ya ndoa ndo tatizo kwa wengi.
Kutegemea itakuwa raha mstarehee bila mawimbi, kutojidhatiti na kutowajibika kwa wanandoa kuimalisha ndoa inabaki kusukumiana makosa kwa mwenzi wako.
 
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ukimwomba mungu kwa dhati na imani atakupa mke/mume mzuri, unajua biadamu ni mtu wa kubadilika kila sekunde hivyo kuwa makini na kama ulivyo sema ndoa ni kazi kama kazi nyingine it might be true !
 
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kuna jumla ya mambo mawili (kwa mujibu wa mahesabu yangu)
1.maisha ya uchumba
2.maisha ya ndoa

maisha ya uchumba ndio yanaashiria jinsi maisha ya ndoa yatakavo kuwa,
kama uchumba ulikuwa mchungu kama shubiri,hamna hata haja ya kwenda katika ndoa maana huko itakuwa balaa!

So,utajua umeoa mke /mme sahihi kutokana na mlipeana mda kiasi gani kufahamiana!

(mtazamo wangu na ndivo navo endesha love life yangu)
 
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very beautifully poem.... thank you....
when i find my Prince Chaim
will take some of that in consideration ...
lol:angel:
 
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A good piece of an article
 
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kuna jumla ya mambo mawili (kwa mujibu wa mahesabu yangu)
1.maisha ya uchumba
2.maisha ya ndoa

maisha ya uchumba ndio yanaashiria jinsi maisha ya ndoa yatakavo kuwa,
kama uchumba ulikuwa mchungu kama shubiri,hamna hata haja ya kwenda katika ndoa maana huko itakuwa balaa!

So,utajua umeoa mke /mme sahihi kutokana na mlipeana mda kiasi gani kufahamiana!

(mtazamo wangu na ndivo navo endesha love life yangu)
Maisha ya uchumba mara nyingi huwa ni mazuri kila mtu anajaribu kumridhisha mwenzie mpo wawili tu, kamwe hayawezi kufanana na ya ndoa. so usitegemee maisha ya uchumba yakawa sawa na ya ndoa
 

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