Mr. husband just work on your skills period. very recently I heard of a case where a man was complaining that his wife was no longer receptive to love making and bla bla and their pastor called the two of them. The Pastor began by saying how can you after 9 years now start denying your husband, do you want him to go outside? she calmly replied 'it may do us both a world of good, perharps it will help him improve his skills' after which she broke down in tears and narrated her pain of 9 years and she could no longer cope or keep pretending. everyone has a breaking point! Friend Please do not judge the woman, you are not wearing her shoes. Any person who's willing to wait for ten years before spewing how bad things were has a carcinogenic and poisonous mind. If she kept complaining in the course of the marriage, then she is free to take a walk, 10 years to figure out that it would not work is very self serving and deceitful in nature. This woman is nothing, but a Delilah. Having the knowledge that it would never work from the onset and she went ahead to sign the marriage contract anyway renders it a nullity. Let's re-enact the scenario, it took a guy ten years to tell you that she had another wife in his village after you had kids for him? Would that be acceptable by you. There is a legal loophole to be explored in this marriage" that this marriage never happened" He should seek for a marriage annulment not a divorce.