I think it's OK for guys to cry. Some situations, however, are not acceptable forman-crying. In fact, crying canpush a girl away from time to time. I've only seen my dad cry once in my entire life. Growing up, my sisters and I alwayswondered why he didn't cry like we did when he hurt himself. He's very stoic, and even keeled. After my initial battle with testicularcancer, the Oncologist discovered that some of the cancer had moved into mybloodstream. I remembered tellingmy dad the situation on the phone, and for the first time in twenty-two years Iheard him sobbing. At 18, I learned that crying after a breakup did absolutelynothing to bring a girl back into the relationship. In fact, it pushed her away. I didn't realize that the new guy in her life seemed likethe fun easy-going one, and I looked like an emotional sobbingtrain-wreck. Which guy would thegirl rather be with? Then there are the embarrassing times I've cried. The first few weddings I attendedbrought tears to my eyes when my friends appeared in the aisle. That was just an example of memoriesflooding my mind too quickly: overload. Then, I cried ongraduation night from college, and all my friends made fun of me. They now understand why I cried thatnight. In the 2000 AFC Divisional Playoff game, Ravens linebackerRay Lewis intercepted a pass at midfield and returned it for a touchdown,sealing the game against the Tennessee Titans-a team I had feared the entireweek leading up to the game. Witheach step toward the end zone, I screamed louder, and simultaneously realized Iwas crying out of happiness and emotional overload. Songs can make me cry, and-of course- TV and movies. The most shameful cry I ever had was atthe end of "Sleepless In Seattle". No excuse for that. You know I'm guilty of trolling the women's channels quiteoften during my many TV watching sessions. WETV has some good ones: "20/20 on WE" and this other show called "The Locator". Yes, I admit "The Locator" airsSaturday nights and I'm sometimes home to watch. But that's a whole other story. I have a connection to "The Locator" because the host of theshow, Troy, re-unites people who haven't seen one another in years-usually amother and the child that never knew them. Because my grandfather was an orphan, my sisters and I arenot sure of our volatile ethnic mix. We'd love to know more about him, but he died when we were reallylittle. At least my mysteriousethnic background allowed me to check off "Other" in the Ethnicity section ofmy college applications-think that's how I got in to most of the schools. I did some research on Troy and found solace because he hasplayed football and spent time as a private investigator. Those are both "manly" things-but he,too, is guilty of crying during the process of re-uniting families andfriends. And he's been re-unitingfor a long time-he has practice trying to hold back the tears. I decided to test my "Locator Crying Theory" (stating thatover 50% of people that watch will cry) with my guy friends and we all sat downand watched an episode. I washappy to see that the majority of them couldn't even make it through theopening ten minutes of the show without an emotional reaction. But maybe all this crying together is good for us guys-myfriends seem to think so. They arealready planning a get together for our weekly TV night to watch back-to-backepisodes for the upcoming series finale: guys only. Then it's off tothe West Village for manis and pedis. Just kidding about that last part. Girls have playfully poked fun at me when they've seen mecrying over a movie or TV show. But crying over a breakup or fight seems to turn a girl off. Do you mind when a guy cries, and doesit depend on the situation? Whatis your reaction when he cries over a breakup or fight?