Dating a married man By ZEIN NOOR Posted Friday, May 15 2009 at 17:16 Temptation of the forbidden - Some people perceive married couples as the forbidden temptation since they are already committed and hence unavailable. Interestingly, theres an excitement that stems from the fact that such people are already taken, and attracting them gives the hunter a sense of power and accomplishment. Furthermore, the challenge and the risk involved in conquering the prey makes the entire game even more exciting. It is no secret that most single women have an obsession for married men owing to the human trait of wanting what one cannot have. On the other hand, some hunters go for ones confidence, experience in intimate matters and authority. And even though its utterly unjustifiable and shameless, some people find a sense of accomplishment in bedding someone elses man or woman. This has a lot to do with the satisfaction that comes with breaking rules and doing things the wrong way without being caught. In other words, some people seek their sexual highs through cheating because of the excitement that comes with getting away with something taboo. The need to win Irrespective of the fact that todays women are liberated, many still continue to perceive the married man as having a certain type of security. Cynical as it may sound, such women tend to think that married men will cater for their emotional needs better than any single man out there. On the other hand, some women perceive having an affair with a married man as some sort of triumph over the wife. Although this signifies a lack of self-respect and self-worth, such women get a feeling of accomplishment and triumph over the legitimate woman. This perception could not be further from the truth as it is obvious that the married man (trophy) is already taken. Unfortunately, such women get a non-existent feeling that they are extra special and better than the mans legal wife. This again clearly shows that such women are only living in a fantasy world. Additionally, some women go after the married man because they are dying to get what the legitimate woman has. In most cases, women do this maliciously to try and get back at the married mans wife for reasons better known to them. Security reasons Although not in the least justifiable, some women claim to go for married men saying that they have all the qualities a woman would look for in a man. On the other hand, many young men turn to married women for security reasons. Its not surprising to find young men nowadays pursuing married women because they are financially stable. Therefore, most hunters will pursue such people so that their financial needs may be taken care of. Its no news that many young men out there are also dating older married women because their financial needs are being catered for by these women. Sadly, such gold diggers prefer being kept by women who already have families as long as their material needs are fulfilled. The same goes for a lot of young women out there. Nowadays, many young girls have no qualms about dating married men as long as their rent is being paid and the cash is flowing. Its unfortunate that these are the reasons that contribute to the ruining of many marriages. Such women also need to keep in mind that anything immoral and short of unalloyed commitment between a man and a woman hardly ever lasts. So next time you decide to date a married man for his money, think hard about whether its really worth it. Has marriage lost its meaning? Theres no denying that times have changed and most of us live in a culture that largely dismisses the significance of marriage. This has led many young men and women to lose confidence in the idea of fidelity, believing that all people out there are incapable of being faithful. A former Member of Parliament was recently quoted as saying that all married men have other women on the side. Although this caused a bit of a raucus with many men denying this allegation, there are those who agreed wholeheartedly with him.