Hope you all doing well. jamani naomba msaada..am not sure this is the right place for this but will go ahead..niwieni radhi! I lost my elder sister last year.. mwaka mmoja ulitimia July 20th, Mungu amrehemu. Its been hard sana coz of the circumstances which i beg not to discuss. kwanza sikuwa nyumbani so I didn't get to participate in the burial etc etc. sasa dada aliwaacha watoto wawili wakiume, 13 and 11 yrs old. huyo wa 13 yrs seems to be 'coping well'... he has no problem even talking abt his mom.the 11 yr old is very erratic.mara atanyamaza sana na awe hataki kuongea au kucheza au kushirikiana na wenzake. wote kwa sasa wako kwa mamangu (bibi yao), actually even before the death walikuwa wanaishi kwa nyanya yao and only going to visit the mom shule zikufungwa. hebu nisaidieni niweze kuwasaidia kimawazo. while i want to talk abt it with them..sijui nianzie wapi. How do i let them talk abt thier mom without hurting their feelings. sitaki kusema i know what they are going thro coz i have never been in that situation. kumuhusisha counsellor ni sawa? ama niache tu until it happens naturally. am afriad if we dont openly discuss and talk abt her which is kind of a no go zone right now and especially when the kids are around will have deeper and harder to deal with repercussions. hebu nipeni ushauri wats the best thing to do here?