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While some men dont want to settle down and claim a girlfriend, most men dont need any girl
friends either. After all, what man wants to just hang out with a beautiful woman?
Thats what his boys are for. Its totally possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but thats not normally how it starts.
The man is attracted to a woman, he asks her out, and they spend time together. But then somewhere along the line, said man falls into the dreaded friend zone and he has no idea how he got there. Hes not sure if shes playing hard to get, or if hes been hoodwinked and while hes trying to figure it all out, the woman knows exactly what shes doing. If youre not sure if youre being played for a fool, here are some signs that she just might be using you.
1.*You Are Her Personal Chauffeur
You have a car she doesnt. This is not a big deal, and being the gentleman you are, you have no problem picking her up for dates. But after a while, youre not just picking her up to go to the movies. Youre driving her to work, to her doctors appointment and even to her friends house. As a matter of fact, she asks you to drive her AND her friends around to the club, the mall, wherever. But shes attractive, so you do it, even if its totally out of your way. The way you see it, shell think youre such a nice guy that she might even invite you INSIDE of her home one day.
But she doesnt, and you barely get a kiss on the cheek for all of the gas youve burnt up.* If shes given you ZERO indication that shes even remotely physically attracted to you, then shes using you for a ride. Unless youve at least gotten to second base, keep your car parked and let her figure out how to get around herself.
2.*Youre Her Flunky
Its not enough that you drive her around, but sometimes she sends you out WITHOUT HER to run her errands. She asks you, in that ever so sweet voice of hers, to pick up her dry cleaning since its on your way home. She has to work late, so she wants to know if youd be a dear and walk her precious dog for her. And you do it, because you figure thats what a good boyfriend would do, right? Right.
Problem is, youre not her boyfriend, youre her errand boy; and any hopes you had of becoming her boyfriend went out the window along with your dignity. Shes not going to date you because she doesnt respect you. Some women dont like a guy who does whatever she says or who she can walk all over. What you see as kindness, she may view as weakness. Its sad but true. Theres nothing wrong with being a good friend, if thats all you want to be. But if you want more, and shes not giving it to you, despite all of your good intentions, then bounce and let her hire an assistant.
3.*You Are Her Go-To Date
If you find that she only wants to go OUT to the movies, a concert or to her favorite restaurant, chances are she just wants to get out of the house and you are her go-to date. Every time she calls, youre always available probably because you sit around waiting for your phone to ring. She knows this, and she also knows that you will do anything to be in her presence.*
If shes always busy when you invite her to your crib or youve never seen the inside of her place, then she probably doesnt want to be anywhere where something could jump off and shed have to turn you down. Just once or twice, be busy when she calls or tell her no to an outside date and see how she reacts. If shes bent out of shape or stops calling, then youll know shes probably not that into you.
4.*You Pay For ALL Dates
Not only are you her go-to date you also PAY for ALL of the dates. Some women expect men to pay for all dates, and some men even agree with that. But you shouldnt be going broke while youre trying to figure if she actually even likes you.*
If youve got the means to stick it out until she magically falls in love with you, then rock on. But if you have to take out a small loan just to keep courting this woman, while she NEVER ever offers to pay for anything, then stop now. See how long she wants to date you when you tell her that you forgot your wallet.
5.*You Pay Her Bills
Its one thing to pay for dates, but its another thing to pay her rent. Theres nothing wrong with helping out a friend in need, or LOANING someone some money until they get on their feet. But unless you are her MAN, and you KNOW this, then there is no way you should be paying for anything thats in her name.*
Men and women use each other all the time for different things, but youre a straight up sucka if she hands you a utility bill and you actually pay it regularly. And dont try taking her to court when she drops you for some other fool and youre out hundreds or thousands of dollars. Shell claim it was a gift and youll never get your money back. Listen to what Im telling you and save yourself from having to learn an expensive lesson on your own.
6.*Youre Mr. Fix It
Youve let it be known that youre pretty handy when it comes to fixing things, so she invites you over one Saturday afternoon to help her paint her house. You think itll earn you some cool points and youll get to be INSIDE her place and you can seduce her while you wait for the paint to dry. WRONG!*
All shes going to do is find a way to be busy doing something else while you paint, and when youre done, shell suddenly need a ride to Home Depot to pick up some things for the next project youll be working on. So you drive her there (See #1 ) and pay for all the materials (See #5 ) and then go back to her place to install her new cabinets, hang some shelves and fix her leaky faucet. She doesnt even offer to feed you (See #4 ).* She rushes you out of her house when the work is done because shes tired (has a date with someone else) so you leave, hoping for another chance to get closer to her bedroom. You, my friend, have been had. Next time, tell her to hire a contractor and keep it moving.
7.*Youre Her Confidante
So by now, you realize that youre in the friend zone, but you dont care. You think you still have a chance to woo her, so you continue to be her shoulder to cry on hoping that one day shell come to her senses and realize what a wonderful, caring, compassionate man you are.*
So you endure endless hours of her late night calls crying to you about the jerk who broke her heart (again). You encourage her complaints about all the no-good men out there and remind her that if she were your woman, youd never hurt her and treat her like the queen that she is. Little do you know, shes a glutton for punishment, only likes bad boys and thinks nice guys like you are weak and pathetic. Dude, run or else shell just continue to use you up and walk all over you. Youre wasting your time if you think shell change her mind about you and if she finally ever does, itll be too late because you will have found a woman who appreciates you.
8.*Youre Her Sex Toy
Now, this might not be a problem for most men out there, but if you are genuinely interested in having a real relationship, getting married and having kids one day, then you might want to find a woman who wants you for more than sex. Believe it or not, there are women out there, like men, who have jump-offs who they will never be seen out in public with. The sex is earth shattering, but she doesnt want a relationship, OR, she doesnt want a relationship with YOU.*
Maybe youre too short, dont have a job, have multiple children with multiple women, have some teeth missing who knows. Either way, she doesnt want her girlfriends to know about you, so you become her dirty little secret and she calls you after midnight to come by and crack her back. Now, again some, if not most, men would be fine with this arrangement. But if youve somehow caught feelings for her, then its best you leave now before your heart gets broken into a million little pieces once she finds a guy she can actually be seen in daylight with.
NOTE:
Nimeitoa kwenye mtandao mmoja nikaona siyo mbaya kushare na wana jamvi wenzangu
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Thats what his boys are for. Its totally possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but thats not normally how it starts.
The man is attracted to a woman, he asks her out, and they spend time together. But then somewhere along the line, said man falls into the dreaded friend zone and he has no idea how he got there. Hes not sure if shes playing hard to get, or if hes been hoodwinked and while hes trying to figure it all out, the woman knows exactly what shes doing. If youre not sure if youre being played for a fool, here are some signs that she just might be using you.
1.*You Are Her Personal Chauffeur
You have a car she doesnt. This is not a big deal, and being the gentleman you are, you have no problem picking her up for dates. But after a while, youre not just picking her up to go to the movies. Youre driving her to work, to her doctors appointment and even to her friends house. As a matter of fact, she asks you to drive her AND her friends around to the club, the mall, wherever. But shes attractive, so you do it, even if its totally out of your way. The way you see it, shell think youre such a nice guy that she might even invite you INSIDE of her home one day.
But she doesnt, and you barely get a kiss on the cheek for all of the gas youve burnt up.* If shes given you ZERO indication that shes even remotely physically attracted to you, then shes using you for a ride. Unless youve at least gotten to second base, keep your car parked and let her figure out how to get around herself.
2.*Youre Her Flunky
Its not enough that you drive her around, but sometimes she sends you out WITHOUT HER to run her errands. She asks you, in that ever so sweet voice of hers, to pick up her dry cleaning since its on your way home. She has to work late, so she wants to know if youd be a dear and walk her precious dog for her. And you do it, because you figure thats what a good boyfriend would do, right? Right.
Problem is, youre not her boyfriend, youre her errand boy; and any hopes you had of becoming her boyfriend went out the window along with your dignity. Shes not going to date you because she doesnt respect you. Some women dont like a guy who does whatever she says or who she can walk all over. What you see as kindness, she may view as weakness. Its sad but true. Theres nothing wrong with being a good friend, if thats all you want to be. But if you want more, and shes not giving it to you, despite all of your good intentions, then bounce and let her hire an assistant.
3.*You Are Her Go-To Date
If you find that she only wants to go OUT to the movies, a concert or to her favorite restaurant, chances are she just wants to get out of the house and you are her go-to date. Every time she calls, youre always available probably because you sit around waiting for your phone to ring. She knows this, and she also knows that you will do anything to be in her presence.*
If shes always busy when you invite her to your crib or youve never seen the inside of her place, then she probably doesnt want to be anywhere where something could jump off and shed have to turn you down. Just once or twice, be busy when she calls or tell her no to an outside date and see how she reacts. If shes bent out of shape or stops calling, then youll know shes probably not that into you.
4.*You Pay For ALL Dates
Not only are you her go-to date you also PAY for ALL of the dates. Some women expect men to pay for all dates, and some men even agree with that. But you shouldnt be going broke while youre trying to figure if she actually even likes you.*
If youve got the means to stick it out until she magically falls in love with you, then rock on. But if you have to take out a small loan just to keep courting this woman, while she NEVER ever offers to pay for anything, then stop now. See how long she wants to date you when you tell her that you forgot your wallet.
5.*You Pay Her Bills
Its one thing to pay for dates, but its another thing to pay her rent. Theres nothing wrong with helping out a friend in need, or LOANING someone some money until they get on their feet. But unless you are her MAN, and you KNOW this, then there is no way you should be paying for anything thats in her name.*
Men and women use each other all the time for different things, but youre a straight up sucka if she hands you a utility bill and you actually pay it regularly. And dont try taking her to court when she drops you for some other fool and youre out hundreds or thousands of dollars. Shell claim it was a gift and youll never get your money back. Listen to what Im telling you and save yourself from having to learn an expensive lesson on your own.
6.*Youre Mr. Fix It
Youve let it be known that youre pretty handy when it comes to fixing things, so she invites you over one Saturday afternoon to help her paint her house. You think itll earn you some cool points and youll get to be INSIDE her place and you can seduce her while you wait for the paint to dry. WRONG!*
All shes going to do is find a way to be busy doing something else while you paint, and when youre done, shell suddenly need a ride to Home Depot to pick up some things for the next project youll be working on. So you drive her there (See #1 ) and pay for all the materials (See #5 ) and then go back to her place to install her new cabinets, hang some shelves and fix her leaky faucet. She doesnt even offer to feed you (See #4 ).* She rushes you out of her house when the work is done because shes tired (has a date with someone else) so you leave, hoping for another chance to get closer to her bedroom. You, my friend, have been had. Next time, tell her to hire a contractor and keep it moving.
7.*Youre Her Confidante
So by now, you realize that youre in the friend zone, but you dont care. You think you still have a chance to woo her, so you continue to be her shoulder to cry on hoping that one day shell come to her senses and realize what a wonderful, caring, compassionate man you are.*
So you endure endless hours of her late night calls crying to you about the jerk who broke her heart (again). You encourage her complaints about all the no-good men out there and remind her that if she were your woman, youd never hurt her and treat her like the queen that she is. Little do you know, shes a glutton for punishment, only likes bad boys and thinks nice guys like you are weak and pathetic. Dude, run or else shell just continue to use you up and walk all over you. Youre wasting your time if you think shell change her mind about you and if she finally ever does, itll be too late because you will have found a woman who appreciates you.
8.*Youre Her Sex Toy
Now, this might not be a problem for most men out there, but if you are genuinely interested in having a real relationship, getting married and having kids one day, then you might want to find a woman who wants you for more than sex. Believe it or not, there are women out there, like men, who have jump-offs who they will never be seen out in public with. The sex is earth shattering, but she doesnt want a relationship, OR, she doesnt want a relationship with YOU.*
Maybe youre too short, dont have a job, have multiple children with multiple women, have some teeth missing who knows. Either way, she doesnt want her girlfriends to know about you, so you become her dirty little secret and she calls you after midnight to come by and crack her back. Now, again some, if not most, men would be fine with this arrangement. But if youve somehow caught feelings for her, then its best you leave now before your heart gets broken into a million little pieces once she finds a guy she can actually be seen in daylight with.
NOTE:
Nimeitoa kwenye mtandao mmoja nikaona siyo mbaya kushare na wana jamvi wenzangu
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