By Anthony Balderrama, CareerBuilder.com writer Over time, youve probably learned what not to say in a relationship. Are you losing your hair? Yes, you do look fat in that dress. I should give my old boyfriend a call. Youre just like your mother. Experience has taught you just how much trouble you can get into with a few words. When it comes to the workplace, however, you might not realize there are plenty of things you can say to damage your work relationships or even your own career. An off-the-cuff remark that you think went unnoticed, for example, might be the first thing your boss remembers when he thinks about you. During my 23 years in management, I heard many comments from colleagues that reduced their credibility and damaged morale, says Bill Lampton, Ph.D. and author of The Complete Communicator: Change Your Communication, Change Your Life! Remember: Just because you dont end up sleeping on the couch, it doesnt mean your mouth cant still get you in trouble. For the sake of your career, weve put together a list of things you should avoid saying at work. 1. Thats not my job. If somebody comes to you with an issue, theres probably a reason. It might be your responsibility to deal with it or your input is valued. Either way, use the situation to prove youre a team player and a problem solver. Plus, it pays to earn some good office karma because you never know when youll need help from other colleagues. 2. Yeah, no problem. (If you dont mean it.) If you take on a task with a smile but have no intention of actually completing it, youre going to earn a reputation as an unreliable person. If you know you cant or wont complete the project, be honest about it. Your colleagues are relying on you, so your decision not to follow through impacts their jobs, too. 3. Dont tell anyone I said this, but If its really a secret, keep it to yourself. Whether you know someones about to get fired or what the boss salary is, youre going to get credit for spreading the news. Youre not exempt from being the subject of office chatter, either. Dont expect your gossip-loving co-worker to suddenly have tight lips when it comes to divulging your secrets. 4. I havent had a raise in four years. Most savvy supervisors don't think longevity merits a raise only high productivity does, Lampton states. Asking for a raise because of how long its been since your last one will tell your boss only that you want more money, not that you deserve it. Instead, highlight the accomplishments youve made in the last four years, Lampton suggests. Prove the raise is merited. 5. Its not my fault. When your boss comes to you with a problem, the last thing you want to do is to deflect blame to someone else. Maybe it isnt your fault, but remember that youre not in a courtroom and nobodys looking for the culprit right now. All that matters is making sure the problem is solved and doesnt happen again. You can deal with the real issue later, but youll just make yourself look worse if you spend more time finger-pointing than problem solving. 6. To be honest with you First, any time this phrase is used, you know something negative is going to follow. More important is the message it sends to others. Does this colleague have to identify when he or she is being honest with you? When that phrase is not used, should you then doubt the integrity of the statement? Lampton asks. Instead, without being rude, say what you need to say in a straightforward manner. 7. Whom did you vote for? The old adage that you shouldnt discuss politics is as true today as ever before. While its great that youre an active citizen performing your civic duty, save the political talk for your personal blog. Even if the conversation doesnt result in an argument, you never know whom youre making uncomfortable or who will hold your views against you. In a sea of cubicles, there are more people listening to your conversation than you think. 8. I got so trashed last night Youre probably not the only person in the office to indulge in a drink (or a keg) now and then, but youre probably the only one bragging about it to your boss. Although your night of binge drinking didnt force you to call in sick this morning, it can create the image of an unreliable partier who forgot to leave the beer bong in the dorm room. 9. I just didnt have enough time for that. In case you didnt realize, everybodys pretty busy these days. When your boss asks you to do something, chances are its not really an option. If your main concern is accomplishing the task on time, Lampton suggests you explain the situation. Mention how busy your schedule is but that you can accommodate the request if some other projects are rearranged. Youll show that you take each assignment seriously and only want to turn in your best work. 10. . . . or else. Giving anyone in the office an ultimatum rarely ends in success. Whether you say it to a colleague or your new intern, youll only gain enemies and earn a reputation for being difficult. If cordial requests dont work and threats are the only way to get things done in the office, you need to re-evaluate your work environment. Anthony Balderrama is a writer and blogger for CareerBuilder.com. He researches and writes about job search strategy, career management, hiring trends and workplace issues.